Lies that cheating husbands often use to hide their sins

Research by UK dating site Illicitencouters found that more than three in 10 men who go out with their girlfriends tell their wives they are going to play tennis. Other common reasons include: going to a conference/working late, going out drinking with friends, going to the gym and buying groceries.

This result may surprise many people, but psychologist Christian Grant explains: "These reasons are often used by cheaters because it usually takes several hours so the wife does not have any suspicions, especially playing tennis. Moreover, these activities are related to personal interests, so the wife is likely to respect her husband's personal space and not want to get involved too much."

Research results from the dating site Illicitencouters (UK) show that for every 10 men who go out with their girlfriends, more than 3 tell their wives that they are going to play tennis. Illustrative photo

One participant added: It doesn’t take much effort to come up with these excuses. But if you want to go on a date that’s a little more remote, you’ll have to actually get a few tennis club memberships and some gloves to make it look real.

"I really don't know anything about golf but neither does my wife so if she asks me how to play, I just look up some basic information about the game and tell her," the cheating man said.

In addition, there are some lies men often use when cheating that women should know:

1. "Why are you always so busy? You don't have time for me at all."

This is a hidden accusation that you do not have time for your husband, he will find other relationships. He uses the excuse that you are busy to conveniently justify his mistakes. If later discovered, he will use that excuse to explain. You will be disoriented, look back at yourself and ignore his mistakes.

Men are very clever at blaming others with a gentle reprimand. If your husband says this, you should be on guard. There is a 70% chance that he is cheating.

2. "It's not like what you think"

Once a wife shows signs of suspicion that her husband is having an affair, she will interrogate him. However, the husbands will never admit it. They will deny it with a sweet lie to reassure them: "There is no such thing as what you said."

In addition to hiding information, they often tell you that they never go anywhere after 8pm unless they are working at the office, and if they do go anywhere, it is only to go drinking with friends.

3. "I only have a wife"

Cheating husbands usually do not confess to their love affairs or extramarital affairs. Although they may have a crush on a girl for a while, family is everything to them.

If one day you accidentally find out he's pursuing someone, he won't explain anything other than "I only have my wife", then "For me, my wife is number 1". When you hear these words, you'll be more likely to soften your heart and trust him more.

Cheating husbands often do not confess to their love affairs or extramarital relationships. Illustrative photo

4. "He and that person only went out for coffee together a few times."

There is no doubt that this is a saying that accuses men of cheating. Women should remember that men and women rarely have a casual friendship relationship. Going to coffee shops and dating each other is the way to start a relationship.

He told me that they used the excuse of going to a coffee shop to discuss work, but in reality it was to date. Every time they finished drinking coffee, they watched a movie and walked around town like any other couple. Meanwhile, his wife thought he was discussing work with his partner.

5. "I never thought you could think that way."

Sometimes, blaming and even blaming the wife are the tricks that husbands often use to deceive their wives when they have an affair.

Statements like "I didn't expect you to think that way" or "I don't understand what you're saying" will definitely make women soften and have to rethink their actions and doubts.

Infidelity makes the brain "immune" to lies

A study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience has proven the saying “once a cheat, often a betrayal” to be true.

Accordingly, adultery reduces the offender’s sense of guilt and negative emotions. Even if people feel guilty about their first affair, they rarely feel the same level of regret the next time.

Adultery causes the offender to lose his or her sense of guilt as well as negative emotions. Illustration photo

“My research and that of my colleagues have shown that what prevents us from cheating is our reaction to it. However, adaptation reduces this reaction, allowing us to cheat more. For serial cheaters, it may be that they feel that cheating is bad, but after cheating so much, they learn to adapt and simply no longer feel ashamed,” said study author Neil Garrett.

The psychologist from University College London also said that when we lie to someone, the part of the brain that controls emotions called the amygdala will be activated, making us feel ashamed or guilty. But once we lie, the brain will be fooled and people become more tolerant of themselves after each crime.

Previously, a study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior also found that people who cheated in love often had a rate of cheating later.

People who cheated in their first relationship are three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship. Not only that, but people who have been cheated on in the past are also four times more likely to accuse their future partner of cheating, regardless of whether they actually cheated.

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