Doctor Vu Thai Hoang, Department of Urology - Military Hospital 175 (HCMC), said that sex life plays an important role in marriage. Because it nurtures, helps couples bond, and love each other more. However, many couples, when they are in love and newly married, have a very sublime sex life. However, after a period of living together, things don't work out.
Sex is a duty
Ms. TT (43 years old, living in Ho Chi Minh City) shared that she and her husband have been married for nearly 20 years. Her eldest child is 19 years old but her youngest daughter is only 7 years old. However, recently, she has felt very tired when being "intimate" with her husband.
"My husband is 2 years older than me and is still very handsome. Even though I love him very much, every time we have sex I feel uncomfortable but can't say anything. So every time we are intimate, I feel like I am fulfilling my duty," Ms. T. confided.
Worried, Ms. T. went to Military Hospital 175 for examination. There, she was diagnosed with psychological sexual dysfunction. The reason was that her little daughter loved to sleep with her parents, along with the time difference between her and her husband. She often had to stay up late to work while her husband went to bed early to wake up early to go to work. Therefore, every time she had sex with her husband, it was very quick and emotionless.
After receiving psychological counseling, her condition has improved. Her younger daughter now sleeps with her older daughter, and both husband and wife are trying to adjust their lifestyle.
According to Dr. Hoang, there are many reasons leading to the general decline in sexual desire in both men and women. Specifically, both husband and wife have not sought innovation for a long time, neither of them is the one who takes the initiative in each "love" session. In addition, pressure from work, stress, children... causes pressure on the husband or wife or both, leading to psychological fatigue, depression and decreased desire.
In addition, many Asian women feel ashamed and embarrassed when talking about sex. Therefore, not daring to share can lead to inhibition, turning sex into an obligation. At this point, sex is no longer a tool to keep the fire burning, no longer like when two people were in love.
Dr. Mau Thi Mai Ngan, Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology - Tam Anh General Hospital, Ho Chi Minh City, said that decreased sexual desire in women is a lack of interest in sex. There are many causes of this condition such as vaginal dryness that makes sex painful, disrupts pleasure or makes it difficult to achieve pleasure, and does not feel excited during sex.
Women also... have sexual dysfunction
Dr. Hoang said that in Vietnam, sexology treatment is mainly done by male doctors, who also take on the role of consultants for women.
Sexual dysfunction in men can manifest as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, etc. However, in women, sexual dysfunction often occurs secretly, not clearly manifested through the body like men. They only show signs of decreased sexual desire, lack of excitement. Even feel pain during sex.
"At the hospital, there are patients who come to the clinic, although they are only about 40 years old, but their sexual desire has decreased very seriously. In these cases, the doctor needs to spend a long time talking and sharing with the patient to find the cause. Because sexual dysfunction in women is 60%-70% psychological" - Doctor Hoang informed.
BSCKI Mau Thi Mai Ngan said that when asked about erectile dysfunction, many women think that this condition only occurs in men. However, in reality, women are still at risk. A survey showed that about 43% of women have erectile dysfunction, while the rate in men is lower, only about 31%.
"Female sexual dysfunction makes women always feel self-conscious and inferior because they cannot satisfy their partner's sexual needs, which in the long run affects marital happiness," Dr. Ngan shared.
To enhance female physiology, Dr. Ngan said that women should improve their relationships by planning romantic dates, surprising each other, and doing activities together such as cooking, going for walks, going to the movies, etc.
Besides, you need to control your mood by spending time socializing and talking with friends; spending time on your favorite activities such as yoga, meditation; getting enough rest; getting enough sleep; eating scientifically, supplementing natural Estrogen and Progesterone (cereals, broccoli, spinach...); maintaining a balanced weight; not using alcohol, beer, cigarettes... to maintain a comfortable and positive spirit from within.
Improve the quality of "love"
According to BSCKI Mau Thi Mai Ngan, it is necessary to share problems encountered in sexual life with your partner. This will help couples understand each other. At the same time, together, they should look at, evaluate and find solutions to improve the quality of "lovemaking". In addition, to have a complete lovemaking, men need to know how to create an exciting, romantic foreplay that makes women excited and ready to enter "lovemaking".
Source
Comment (0)