If you want your children to be successful, parents need to fulfill 8 roles.

Ronald Ferguson, a professor at Harvard University (USA), has spent more than 10 years studying the learning and working styles of top achievers in many different fields. Ferguson has found that the way parents raise their children plays a very important role in the success of an outstanding person.

"I've found that there are commonalities in the growth journeys of exceptional people. These commonalities can be broken down into eight important roles that their parents played in their children's growth journey," Ferguson said.

Mr. Ronald Ferguson has spent many years researching the growth journey of outstanding people (Photo: Inc).

First Classmate: In this role, parents will nurture their child's interest in learning from the earliest years of life, even before they start primary school. Mr. Ferguson considers the role of "first classmate" to be the most important of the eight roles that parents play in their child's journey to adulthood.

Children who do best in adulthood tend to be early readers. This creates a “leader effect” in their psychology, which helps them feel positive about school because they are well prepared and often receive praise from teachers.

Co-pilot: As the "co-pilot" in the child's development journey, parents need to control the child's living and learning environment, ensuring that the child is provided with good conditions for development. When realizing that there are problems, parents need to intervene to improve the environmental conditions.

This does not mean that parents need to always be there to monitor and participate too deeply in every activity of their children. On the contrary, parents need to create a suitable space, a certain amount of freedom so that children can develop their own relationships, learn how to interact, solve problems themselves, and find out what they are interested in.

The way parents raise their children has a huge impact on their future success (Photo: Inc).

Fixer: It is very difficult to create the perfect living and learning environment for children. There will always be problems that make parents think and feel that they have not provided the most ideal conditions for their children to develop. This is a common reality.

As “fixers,” parents face their own challenges in their parenting journey and work to improve.

For example, a family may be facing financial difficulties, but the parents are trying to balance their spending and prioritize their children’s education. Then, the lack of financial resources will be resolved, the parents will be united, unanimous in overcoming the difficulties and have a common goal.

Broaden horizons: Parents can help their children increase their knowledge and broaden their horizons by taking them to visit museums and exhibitions, encouraging them to spend time in the library... All of these activities will help broaden their horizons.

Even if parents do not have a high level of education or abundant financial resources, they can still create useful experiences for their children.

The role of "first school friend" is considered to be of utmost importance in parenting (Photo: Inc).

Thinker: According to Professor Ferguson, this is the second most important role in parenting, because as a "thinker", parents will help their children find their own direction and purpose.

Parents should not underestimate their children’s ability to grasp big ideas. Parents should not hesitate to ask and answer deep questions about life. Parents may be surprised at how well their children understand topics that seem beyond their understanding.

Good role model: In this role, parents need to have a clear view of the good values ​​that the whole family cherishes. Parents need to be unified in their views and clearly demonstrate them through practical actions every day. This will make children truly believe in and appreciate the good values ​​that parents set in family life.

Negotiator: Parents need to teach their children how to behave respectfully and moderately when they have disagreements or even when they are treated unfairly. Children need to learn to speak up, protect themselves, and stand up for what they believe in when necessary.

However, in most cases, children need to learn to control their own emotions and behavior, and to communicate and interact calmly and wisely as a negotiator.

The second important "thinker" role in the parenting journey (Photo: Inc).

Eternal spiritual friend: Parents cannot accompany their children forever. At some point, children will have their own independent lives and will not be with their parents as often. At this time, the voices of their parents echoing in their children's minds will help them go through their early life experiences in a oriented way, based on the good values ​​that their parents always uphold.

Professor Ferguson believes that the most important thing in a parent is the desire and determination to be a good parent. Ferguson calls this the “fire of passion” that gives each parent a vision for how to raise their children and help them become good citizens.

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