When I was young, I devoted myself to my husband and children. When I retired, my wife had an affair. I secretly did two things that made her panic and beg for help.

My last name is Tran, I am 57 years old, my wife is 3 years younger than me. We have been married for 30 years, have a son and a daughter. To be honest, when I was young, I did not look like a man. When I first got married, I spent all day drinking and gambling. Although I had a stable job, instead of working hard, I often asked for leave to go out and hang out with my friends on the street, not thinking about making money, just wanting to have fun.

My wife was really good at that time, although she didn't like me playing around, she rarely brought it up to cause trouble or quarrel. Instead, my wife silently sacrificed, staying at home to arrange all the work, helping me take care of my parents, managing everything in the house. With a wife like that, I couldn't be angry with her, sometimes when we had conflicts, it was all one-sided on my part, my wife either kept quiet or buried herself in doing housework, in short, we never had a big argument.

After having children, I stopped being a playboy and started paying attention to housework, helping and sharing with my wife in taking care of the children. Thanks to that, my relationship with my wife got better and better, and we lived together very well, rarely quarreling, and living a peaceful life together.

However, the peaceful life did not last long, because I felt that the feeling of novelty between my husband and I had gradually disappeared. Every day was the same: going to work at 9am, leaving work at 5pm, coming home, except for the children, my husband and I had nothing to talk about, each busy with our own work. When I was over 40, after the children went to college, my husband and I immediately separated our bedrooms. My wife complained that I snored and made noise while I complained that my wife did not know how to dress up, and that she was a woman with wrinkled skin and dark eyes. Separating the bedrooms also helped us to find less faults and criticize each other.

When my wife retired at the age of 50, she was just an ordinary factory worker, so after many years of working, she didn't earn much money. Working was just for something to do, her salary was only enough to buy a few small things for the house.

The more important money still depends on me. So when my wife is 50, she will retire. On one hand, she is tired of working too much, and on the other hand, her son is married and has a child, so she needs her mother to help take care of the child. Seeing this, I did not stop her and agreed to let her quit her job. Unexpectedly, after my wife retired, the gap between us began to appear, and it became bigger and bigger.

At first, my wife only went to my son's house to take care of the children. My son's house is not far from mine, about 10 minutes by bus, I also went there after work. In the evening, when the children came home from work, we walked home together.

When my grandson grew up a little, my wife was not as busy as before. Only when my son and daughter-in-law were too busy did she leave him with the grandparents to look after. Normally, we were quite free. My wife also had more time because of that. Every morning she went out for a jog to stretch her muscles, in the afternoon she would meet her friends to play badminton, and in the evening she would go to the square to learn dancing. Her life was extremely leisurely, which I greatly admired.

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There are also times when I feel that my wife is too free, so free that she doesn't bother to do housework. Before, no matter how busy she was at work, she would always keep the house clean and tidy, and have meals ready. But now it's completely different. In the morning, she doesn't cook at home, but goes out to buy breakfast. She doesn't clean the room for two or three days, waiting until it's really dirty before she gets up and takes out the broom to sweep.

I reminded my wife several times but she didn't listen, and even argued with me, making me extremely helpless. Needless to say about spending, I could only watch helplessly as my wife burned through money, spending more and more, without stopping. For example, buying clothes, before, she could only buy a few sets of clothes a year, but now that she's retired, my wife likes to dress up, going online every day to look at clothes, adding any nice ones to her shopping cart, and paying for five or six sets of clothes at a time is normal.

Or like traveling , after retirement my wife is passionate about going out to travel, as long as she doesn't have to stay home to look after the children, she will pack her bags and go, and when she goes, she has to go for five to seven days, the longest time she went for 2 weeks. I called to ask her but she didn't pay attention, I also didn't care too much because my wife went on a trip with some old colleagues, I knew them all.

Only later did I gradually feel something was wrong, it turned out that my wife was having an affair.

I discovered it when I went into my wife’s room to look for something. That day, my wife went to the square to practice dancing and was not home. I was at home cleaning up my things and found that I couldn’t find my nail clippers, so I went into my wife’s room to look for them. After flipping through them for a while, I found a box containing a necklace, and inside was a handwritten card that said: “Knowing you is the luck of my life, I hope you like this gift.”

When I saw that box, I was so shocked that I was stunned. We had lived together for half our lives, and then this happened when we were old, it really made me feel very embarrassed. I thought for a long time, and finally decided not to reveal my cards to my wife yet. When my wife returned, I didn't say anything, just quietly observed to see if she really betrayed this marriage. For the next few days, I lived in anxiety and fear, every day I followed my wife out, to see where she went and what she did.

Sure enough, my wife's dance partner in the square was a man, who looked to be about my age, dressed in flashy clothes, while dancing the two of them hugged and cuddled, after dancing they sat drinking water and chatting, looking very intimate. Seeing this, in a moment of anger I couldn't help but walk towards them. My wife saw this and was immediately flustered and introduced the man to me. I didn't bother to expose them, after all they were old, it was not good to make a fuss outside, just pretended as if nothing had happened, both husband and wife returned home.

On the way back, my wife kept explaining this and that to me, explaining how they met, how they got along, and even emphasized that the dance partner in the square changed every two or three days, and invited me to practice dancing with her next time. I let it go in one ear and out the other, not paying too much attention, and let the matter pass. Actually, I knew very well in my heart that my wife had a guilty conscience, after all, we had lived together for decades, and saying we didn't understand each other would be a lie, it was just that I didn't try to expose my wife.

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From then on, I decided to quietly do two things.

The first thing is that I carefully keep my salary savings, because since my wife quit her job, we each spend our own money, it has nothing to do with each other, the savings in the card is also more than 700 million, but this card has not expired so I cannot withdraw money. So I decided to carefully keep the salary card and savings card, every month I also save more from my salary, saving every penny is a penny.

Second, I decided not to depend on my wife anymore. Whether it was the small daily tasks in life or my own health problems, I decided everything myself. I started to pay attention to my health, I went for a general check-up, bought supplements, bought healthy food, and went to the gym. In order to be more independent, I also learned to cook some dishes myself. Although they weren't too excellent, they were still enough to satisfy me, and I felt more secure.

I also started to plan for my future, living together for a lifetime and still being betrayed made me a little heartbroken, but I was old, such a thing should not be made a big deal, if it was discovered, both husband and wife would be embarrassed. My wife either discovered the change in her husband, or felt my distance, although my husband and I lived in the same house, we were like two neighbors, at first she still laughed and talked normally, still went out to play badminton, went to the square to dance like before.

Gradually, I asked my wife less and less, and stopped talking to her. Only then did she start to change, proactively asking me why I was so cold now, why everyone was living their own lives. I didn't bother to answer, just continued to maintain a distant attitude.

I will do everything myself if I can do it myself so I don't have to ask my wife for help. I clean my messy room, wash my clothes, go to the hospital when I'm sick, do whatever I want. Even if my wife argues with me, I don't bother to talk back. Whatever she wants, I don't care.

Just like that, my wife finally couldn't take it anymore, she put down her weapon and surrendered first. One day, she suddenly asked me why I was so distant now, treating her like a stranger instead of the wife I had shared my life with for so many years. I smiled and replied: "Isn't this what you want, wanting to be free and not be controlled by anyone, I can't do anything to you, haven't you been living very comfortably these past few years, me too, isn't it better to live like this? Besides, when you were dancing in the square, did you think about my feelings?"

My wife panicked and asked again: "Do you think I have a relationship with that person?"

I smiled and said nothing, my wife started to justify herself again, but it was useless. Finally my wife admitted her mistake, she said she was unreasonable, then said she had not done anything to betray me, told me not to think too much, but deep down we both knew it, it was just that we did not expose each other.

Of course I really hope that my wife and I can go through life together, overcome difficulties together, but now my wife has changed, she herself admits that she has gone too far, so I think the day of divorce is not far away.

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