Paying off my girlfriend's family's debt for 3 years, I collapsed after what she said

When I was almost 30, I was almost broke, without love or savings. Seeing my friends starting to settle down with families and children, and having money to spare, I felt even more insecure.

I just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years. I used to dream a lot about a happy life but life is not like I thought. I met her when I just graduated from school at a friend's birthday party. We were quite compatible in the way we talked and thought so it was easy for us to fall in love.

I am proud of my girlfriend - a beautiful, resourceful, well-spoken girl with a stable job. When we had only been dating for 6 months, I wanted to get married right away, but we were still too young. My girlfriend said to wait another year, then it would not be too late to get married.

Trả nợ cho nhà bạn gái suốt 3 năm, tôi suy sụp sau câu nói của cô ấy - Ảnh 1. — We used to be on the same page about paying off debt and now we're apart (Illustration: Adobe).

After nearly 2 years of dating, my parents eagerly urged me to get married because they saw that my girlfriend was beautiful, had a good personality, and came from a good family. I talked to my girlfriend about marriage, but she seemed not ready.

At that time, her personality suddenly changed, she became more irritable, sometimes she looked sad and cried on my shoulder. I asked her many times but she did not say anything. After being persuaded many times, she told me that her family was in debt of 500 million VND because her father borrowed money from someone to do business and was cheated.

For this reason, she wanted to postpone the wedding to focus on earning money to pay off the debt. The girlfriend expressed concern, because with a salary of 7-8 million VND/month, she still had to save on food, let alone help her family pay off the debt. She considered changing jobs, but the salary was not enough to pay off both principal and interest in a short time.

Hearing my girlfriend's story, I went home to find out and found out it was true. Seeing her sad, I couldn't help but support her in her difficult times. Therefore, I decided to use half of my salary to pay off her debt together.

Her family was deeply moved by what I did. I kept the fact that I was helping my girlfriend's family pay off their debt a secret from my parents. From having a comfortable salary, I had to be more frugal and thrifty.

Three years passed like that, as soon as my salary was in my account, I immediately transferred it to my girlfriend to pay off the debt. Every difficulty was gradually overcome, the debt gradually decreased. The debt of 500 million VND was paid in 3 years.

When my girlfriend’s family paid off their debt, I didn’t have much money left to take care of my future life. Because with an income of 15 million VND/month, I transferred half, the other half was just enough to spend and had no savings. The money I had saved before had to be used because many things came up.

When the debt was paid off, I talked about marriage, but my girlfriend still didn't seem excited. She was worried about the future and wanted to earn more money. I said, we can earn money later. If we both work hard every day, life will gradually get better.

I persisted in trying to convince her about the wedding, but she seemed to no longer care. She repeatedly said, "You have paid off all your debts to my family. Now you have no spare money and I have nothing. So how are we going to start our lives together?"

As time went on, I felt my feelings fading, even though we didn't break up. However, I didn't see my girlfriend interested in getting married. She wanted to earn money to make up for the debt she had paid her parents.

My parents were impatient and advised me to love someone else instead of waiting for a heartless person. In the end, I chose to break up because my girlfriend was becoming more and more indifferent and cold.

Until now, I still dare not tell my parents about helping my girlfriend's family pay off their debt. Meanwhile, my friends said I was foolish, we weren't married yet, so I had no responsibility to my wife's family. Now, I have helped them with the money, how can I get it back? I consider it a great lesson for life.

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