A woman surnamed Ding (63 years old, living in Baicheng County, Jilin, China) sent a letter to a matchmaking program to find someone to spend her old age with. The program introduced her to Mr. Jiang (69 years old, also living in Jilin).
When they first met, they both felt satisfied with each other's appearance and talked well together. Ms. Dinh's husband passed away 12 years ago. Her only son is married. She currently has a salary of 2,300 yuan (about 7.8 million VND).
Mrs. Dinh was happy at the beginning of the meeting.
Ms. Dinh said she still owes 100,000 NDT (about 340 million VND) from her husband's medical treatment in the past and recently married her son. She does not expect her new husband to pay the debt for her, but will pay it herself.
As for Mr. Giang, he also lived alone with a pension of 1,100 yuan (about 3.7 million VND). Upon hearing this, Mrs. Dinh's face changed color and darkened. She whispered to the matchmaker that the amount of money was enough for one person to live on, but for two people, she really didn't know how to stretch it.
Mrs. Dinh asked Mr. Giang: "If we get married and the pension is not enough to live on, what should we do?" Mr. Giang hesitantly said that with a low pension, we should probably only spend about 40 yuan (136 thousand) per day.
Mrs. Dinh did not say anything after listening, but her face showed more and more dissatisfaction. Mr. Giang also added that if he wanted to spend more one day, he had to spend less the next. The two sides really started to have disagreements.
Mrs. Dinh was not satisfied because her partner's pension was too low.
"For example, what if one day I want to buy a dress worth 100 NDT (about 350 thousand VND)? ", Ms. Dinh asked.
"Then just buy it, 100 NDT is nothing," Mr. Giang replied calmly.
After hearing this, Mrs. Dinh burst out laughing and said: "100 NDT is really nothing, but the key is where did you get it from?"
According to Ms. Dinh, for two people living together, the monthly living expenses must be around 2,000 NDT (about 7 million VND).
Hearing Mrs. Dinh say that, Mr. Giang stammered that he had some savings. However, that money was for future medical treatment. Seeing that the situation was not good, the matchmaker said that Mr. Giang's house was in the planning area, and that if demolished, he could still earn a considerable amount of money. Hearing that, Mrs. Dinh was not very interested because no one could predict the future.
In the end, the date ended unhappily, all because the small pension that Mr. Giang received every month did not meet Mrs. Dinh's expectations.
What role do finances play in marriage?
The idea of marrying for money may be pragmatic, but financial factors are often a major part of why people decide to get married. Finances become a strong bond in a relationship, even when they come together out of love.
In the past, marriages were determined by economic arrangements. When arranged marriages were common around the world, the practice of paying dowries put a lot of pressure on relationships. If families did not have the financial resources to provide a dowry, the marriage was not officially recognized.
A successful marriage also depends a lot on finances. Illustration photo
According to the 2019 U.S. Marriage and Cohabitation Report, 90% of respondents said they married for love, and two-thirds said they married for friendship. Only 13% said their marriage made financial sense.
For cohabiting couples, financial issues are a big or small obstacle to getting married. More than half said they were not financially ready (59%) or their partner was not financially ready (53%). 44% of singles said they wanted to advance their careers before getting married. Reports also show that the age of marriage is getting later than in the past.
In fact, marriage becomes a financial partnership, covering daily living expenses and childcare costs. Financial planners have shared many ideas on how couples can better resolve conflicts about money. Couples can work together to find ways to manage their money, such as having a joint bank account and individual accounts for those who can afford a bank account.
The likelihood of marriage also varies by education level, a good indicator of income and financial stability. Just over 54% of those with a high school degree or less are married, while 66% of those with a bachelor's degree or more report being married.
While many people getting married are focused on planning the wedding and honeymoon, figuring out how to pay bills together and understanding each other's spending habits is also important.
A marriage where spending and investment are not reasonable will put an end to the relationship. You may not marry for money but finances are definitely an important factor in maintaining a marriage.
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