Being a single mother, the Vietnamese runner-up teaches her children to be independent early.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 1.

Tra Ngoc Hang was born in 1990, known as Miss Dat Mui, Top 10 Vietnam Supermodel 2010, 1st Runner-up Miss Vietnam International 2011. Before temporarily stopping her artistic activities to focus on business, Tra Ngoc Hang was active in the fields of singing, acting and modeling.

However, while she was devoting herself to her passion, she discovered she was pregnant. At that time, the 9X model was extremely worried, because she and her boyfriend had broken up for a few months. The female model said that because she didn't want her family to worry, she didn't tell them she was pregnant. She even gave her maid a day off and did everything by herself. There were days when she felt tired and bored, Tra Ngoc Hang only ate instant noodles to get through the day.

The 9X model recalled: "As a famous person, there were many rumors, so I was careful, I just stayed at home and didn't want to see anyone because I was afraid of psychological effects during pregnancy. At that time, I also lived in the current apartment building but I was like 'avoiding the world'. When I went to have coffee or go to the park, I waited until 8-9 pm, when everyone had left, there was no one left."

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 2. — While devoting herself to her passion, runner-up Tra Ngoc Hang discovered she was pregnant.

Tra Ngoc Hang said that she is a strong person. Since childhood, she has always overcome everything on her own. Despite being stressed, tired and worried, after a while, she mustered up the courage to tell her mother that she was pregnant. From then on, she felt more comfortable and happily welcomed her daughter Sophia into the world.

As a single mother, Tra Ngoc Hang early set the criteria to teach her daughter to grasp her own happiness without having to depend on anyone. It seems that the little angel of the beauty Tra Ngoc Hang is still too young to understand everything her mother teaches, but perhaps, preparing her daughter early with all the important "baggage" to grow up every day has shown the positive direction of this "single mother".

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 3.

Baby Sophia often clings to her mother, but every time her mother gives her food or drink, she can take care of herself. Tra Ngoc Hang tells her daughter: "You have to be independent. You don't need to be the best, but you have to be knowledgeable enough, independent enough, capable enough, and in control of your own life."

In the past, in each project, each activity of Tra Ngoc Hang has contained more wishes for herself. That is the heart of a mother, the heart that listens and goes with her child like a friend.

She said that even though her child is still young, and as a mother, she can almost completely decide everything according to her will, Tra Ngoc Hang always tries to keep her promise to her daughter. Wherever she goes, whatever she does, however busy she is, when she makes a promise to her child, she must fulfill it. That is the clearest, most practical and valuable lesson about promises that her child can immediately feel.

And one of the virtues that Tra Ngoc Hang hopes to increasingly cultivate in her daughter's soul is filial piety and caring. She told Sophia: "You must know how to care and be filial to your family. You must always share with everyone."

It can be seen that while the female singer teaches her daughter to be independent, not to rely too much on her mother or relatives, to take care of herself and grasp her own happiness, what Tra Ngoc Hang always wants her daughter to remember is about family. Because that is the origin, the root, the place where the child feels secure when entering life.

Putting filial piety first is what Tra Ngoc Hang taught herself. Looking at her daughter, a mirror reflecting her childhood, she wants to teach her daughter to care and love sincerely to build strong relationships for her future adulthood.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 4. — One of the virtues that Tra Ngoc Hang hopes to increasingly instill in her daughter's soul is filial piety and caring.

Recently, the beauty born in 1990 continued to give 3 ways to teach her children to avoid unfortunate dangers that occurred after the incident of 2 girls being kidnapped on Nguyen Hue walking street.

Number 1: Don't go with anyone without your mother's consent.

Second: Do not accept gifts from anyone without your mother's consent, because easily accepting gifts from others means that if they want to entice you, they will use gifts to entice you.

Third: Do not change clothes in public or in front of anyone, even if they are acquaintances. You must practice living by your own rules and thinking from a young age...

Tra Ngoc Hang's way of raising children has received much support from the public.

Not admitting that she is a perfect mother, Tra Ngoc Hang is still trying to bring the best things to her child, including giving her a full life and accompanying and guiding Sophia to become a mature girl, living according to her interests and knowing how to love and appreciate everything around her.

"I want my child to live up to her age. And if she can pursue an artistic career, become a model or do any other job, I will still support her. Of course, if Sophia later works in the same field as her mother, it will be very interesting," she said.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 5. — Tra Ngoc Hang's way of raising children has received much support from the public.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 6.

Just as a mother bird teaches her chicks to fly and find food for themselves, it is also important that we train our children to be independent. You will never hear a mother bird say to her chicks, "Stay in this nest. There are so many houses out there, it will be difficult for you to fly and find food. Stay in the nest as long as you can."

No matter how much you try to protect your child, it cannot be with them all their lives, so you need to teach them independence from a young age so that they can become independent adults. In addition, there are 10 reasons why you should teach your child to be independent, as listed by the familyshare website:

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 7. — Illustration

1. Teaching children to be independent is giving them the message: "You are valuable, useful and capable."

2. You will get help with all the chores the kids can do: Kids need to clean their own rooms, do their own laundry, and do some chores when the family prepares meals.

3. You will become a better parent: You want your children to become independent adults.

4. It's a reminder to kids: "You can do this ." They'll do things faster and better.

5. Learning to be independent also helps with academics. What your child is learning can be applied to what he or she is doing. For example, when your child is learning to bake, understanding measurements in math will be even more useful.

6. Your child's self-esteem will be nurtured. True self-esteem comes from doing things for yourself.

7. Your child will appreciate you more. After fixing something or cooking by himself, he will realize how difficult the task is.

8. Your child will have the courage and confidence to try new or more difficult things.

9. Your parenting career will be more meaningful. You are training your child to be an independent adult and everything you do is geared towards that goal.

10. The children will probably move out when they grow up.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 8. — When well trained, children will be able to fly on their own wings and take care of themselves. Illustration photo

Many parents do not understand the importance of training their children to be independent. Like Freida (living in the US), who grew up in a family where her mother was very frugal. Therefore, when she had a child, Freida promised herself that she would never say "No" to her child. And now her son is 35 years old but he still does not know how to take care of himself, and Freida even has to manage his bank account and finances. Is this guy happy? Definitely not.

Many parents may think that trying to make their children do things themselves is harsh. They will still ask their children to do things, but if they whine, they will change their minds and do it for them.

On the other hand, parents who aim to raise their children independently understand that teaching them to be independent may make them unhappy and unloving of their parents in the short term, but in the long run, they will understand that you love them enough not to interfere if they follow their parents' rules.

These parents understand that if they continue to check on their child’s work and focus on teaching independence, they will be rewarded. First, they show their child how to do something, then they work with their child, then they let their child do it alone, and they are firm in not doing for them what they are capable of doing themselves.

When properly trained, children will be able to fly on their own wings and take care of themselves. That is the goal of true parents.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 9.

Ask your child to show you where to park or show you the way home.

To help your child develop navigation and memory skills, wherever you go, let your child lead you to a parking spot or show you the way home. This builds confidence and independence. This can be applied even when you are jogging, fishing, or taking your child shopping.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 10. — Illustration

Teach your child to remember his full name.

Many children, even though they are older, do not know their full names because they are often called by nicknames at home. This can be quite dangerous in case they get lost. From a young age, children should be taught their full names and their parents' names, as well as their home address and their parents' phone numbers in case of emergency.

Rearranging your home helps children reach everything safely

Children who know how to organize their toys and rooms when they are young will become independent when they grow up. Therefore, adults should place household items such as napkins, dishes, water, and clothes... in places that children can reach and easily access. Children should be allowed to do everything by themselves from a young age, otherwise, they will no longer have the opportunity to be independent.

Participating in housework will help children develop independence skills from an early age. When given tasks such as cleaning the room, folding clothes or helping to prepare meals... it is a way for children to learn independence, as well as take care of themselves without depending on others.

This skill is not only important during childhood but also lays a solid foundation for independent living later in life as an adult.

Don't push your child to do things too often.

If you constantly nag, it will only be counterproductive because it will make children bored and not want to do things, becoming more dependent on their parents. Therefore, never nag with sentences like: "Don't forget to wash the dishes if you want more play time". By saying this, children will get used to being forced and reminded, not wanting to do things themselves.

Only remind children once, then give them a chance to prove they can be independent.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 11. — From a young age, children should be taught their full names and their parents' names, as well as their home address and their parents' phone numbers in case of emergency. Illustration photo

Give children the opportunity to make choices even when rewarded.

When parents want to reward their children with something like candy or fruit, they should ask how many apples they want. For example: "Do you want three or five apples?", children will often choose the larger number and feel like they have completed a task. This way, they will become more confident and also practice independence.

Exposing children to numbers and making decisions for themselves will help them understand the value of money.

Encourage children to play alone

Once your baby is one year old, you can encourage them to play alone. Start by leaving them alone in their room for a few minutes, then gradually increase the time.

Whenever you are in the kitchen preparing dinner, give your child a bowl and a few spoons to play with alone. If the above methods do not work, you can give your child a snack while you finish your work.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 12.

Problem solving skills

In the process of working without the help of parents, there will be unexpected situations that children need to solve by themselves. This will help children have the opportunity to develop logical thinking, analytical skills and solve problems creatively and quickly.

Responsibility

Letting children complete chores also helps them develop a sense of responsibility. Each child learns that each task requires responsibility to be completed well and on time.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 13. — Being independent in all your tasks often requires perseverance and meticulousness, so children will learn lessons about the value of patience. Illustration photo

Patience

Being independent in everything you do often requires perseverance and meticulousness, so children will learn lessons about the value of patience, hard work and constant effort to achieve the best results.

Develop communication skills

In the process of forming independence, parents should encourage children to express their opinions and discuss with other members. This will help children develop communication skills, learn to listen and express their views clearly.

Boost your confidence

When children complete a task, regardless of the result, they will feel confident and proud of themselves. Self-confidence is one of the important foundations for the development of personality and the effort to achieve success in society in the future.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 14.

According to psychologists, parents need to avoid the following mistakes when raising their children, according to Reader's Digest.

Uncontrollable anger

Parents' anger and frustration with their children can affect their behavior, making them more rebellious and defiant. When parents learn to control their anger, they will see a dramatic improvement in their children's behavior, Reader's Digest quoted American psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein.

For example, parents may be frustrated that their child can’t put on his or her shoes in the morning and is late for school. Instead of yelling and causing resistance, they should get ready five to 10 minutes early, says Dr. Bernstein.

Làm mẹ đơn thân khi đang ở đỉnh sự nghiệp, nàng Á hậu Việt sớm dạy con tự lập và 3 quy tắc an toàn mà cha mẹ nào cũng nên ghi nhớ- Ảnh 15.

Comparing your child to others

One of the most common mistakes parents make is comparing their child's bad behavior with the good behavior of other children, including siblings, with the intention of making their child better.

However, this method not only does not make them better but also damages their self-esteem, according to Reader's Digest.

Overprotective

It is normal for parents to love their children. But loving them to the point of overprotecting them and not giving them space to be independent will hinder their development.

Children begin to be able to take care of themselves at a certain age. Over-parenting and doing everything for them is toxic parenting, making it difficult for children to learn new skills, Dr. Greenberg explains.

Parents need to assign tasks to their children based on their age, from walking the dog to doing laundry and cleaning the house. In addition, birth order, being the oldest or youngest sibling in the family will also affect each child's personality traits. Therefore, parents need to teach with different approaches, according to Reader's Digest.

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