15 year old boy brought his girlfriend home to play but took her to his room because he didn't want his mother to bother him.

When our children grow up, we will worry less, but we - mothers - are just moving from one worry to another!

I am only 34 years old this year, exactly a 9x mother. A few years ago, I thought I was a "teen" mother and not an old lady who always judges and criticizes the kids. But in just a few years, I seem to have changed quite a bit.

This morning, I watched a dance clip of high school students. They danced beautifully, confidently, neatly and methodically.

Back when I was in school, I was also a member of a modern dance group, so of course I was quite interested in this beautiful dance of the children.

However, I feel uncomfortable when the children are so young but have quite "sexy" performance costumes.

If this was an outdoor performance stage, I wouldn't care about age and clothing, but this is a school stage, which makes me wonder why the teachers agree to let their children dress so short and revealing?

I sent the clip to my colleagues and was quite surprised when they said I was "too picky and critical". If my children were dressed like this to school, it would be wrong, but it was clearly a performance costume and I should reconsider my somewhat old-fashioned thinking.

I really had to rack my brain at this point. At the same time, this also reminded me of the problem I had last weekend.

I have a 15-year-old son. Time flies so fast, the boy who used to hold my hand tightly when crossing the street has now turned into a 15-year-old teenager, full of enthusiasm and curiosity. Last weekend, my son invited a girl home to play.

At first, I was quite happy because this could be considered the first time he brought his friends home, but immediately after that, I felt confused when the two of them calmly invited each other to go to their own room and closed the door, saying they needed privacy and didn't like their mother staring at them.

In that moment, hundreds of questions rushed through my mind: Does my son know enough about sex? Have I taught him enough sex? I worried that, at puberty, my son might be caught up in emotions he wasn’t ready to handle.

I told myself to stay calm. I had educated my son openly but thoroughly about sex-related issues. I believed that my son understood and remembered what his parents had taught him.

However, I can educate my own child, but how can I educate someone else's child? I wonder if the girlfriend's family has educated their daughter in these delicate but extremely important matters? Didn't they tell their daughter to keep a certain distance from the opposite sex?

I remember the early days of motherhood, when I was bewildered by conflicting advice from books and adults.

I decided to be the rock my child could lean on, the lighthouse that would light his dark path. Sex education was part of that decision.

I tried to listen, understand and share with my children from the smallest things.

We had candid conversations about love, friendship, growing up, and the responsibilities that any relationship entails.

There are many issues that a mother can hardly guide her son, each time I ask for advice from people around me.

There were many things I had to ask for help from his uncles. Generally, I was always very careful in the process of raising a child entering puberty.

But perhaps, I have forgotten that, no matter how hard I try, there are still environments and people around my child that I cannot interfere with.

Raising children is not just about "locking" them within the protective walls of the family, but also about opening the door, letting them contact and learn from the outside world. And sometimes, that world is not entirely according to our wishes.

I understood that I could not control everything, but I could not let these concerns and problems that needed to be dealt with go unchecked. Once again, I sought advice from his uncles.

I decided to spend more time talking to my son about the necessary limits when making friends with the opposite sex, about respecting yourself and others.

I also emphasize the importance of expressing emotions in healthy and mature ways. I will be your mother, friend, and guide on this journey.

There is something I really wonder, am I going too far in educating my child and interfering too much in his relationships?

I worry that if I don't communicate with my child properly, he will gradually not want to share anything with me, and even create an indelible gap between us.

We thought that when our children grew up, we would worry less, but we - mothers - are just moving from one worry to another!

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