According to Ly Mai Can - Professor of Criminal Psychology at China Public Security University, raising a daughter, although having its own characteristics, should still adhere to basic principles, so that the child can grow up and be stable in life.
1. Don't teach your children that "beauty is everything"
With the improvement of living conditions, more and more mothers like to dress up their daughters. From a young age, children are dressed in delicate, beautiful clothes like little princesses, many even do their own makeup and wear jewelry... when going to school.
According to Professor Ly Mai Can, when going to school, children need to dress cleanly, neatly, and appropriately for studying and living in a collective environment. Therefore, children should not be dressed too elaborately or carefully. When children pay too much attention to their appearance, they will develop a mindset that values appearance, leading to neglecting their studies. In adolescence, this is even more dangerous.
The professor pointed out that girls who dress too attractively can also cause potential dangers, because children who stand out often get attention and care. Children can also easily fall in love early, because they are liked and loved.
Many well-off parents often let their children wear branded clothes, even to school. This can lead to children placing too much value on material things, which can easily lead to a lack of integration with their peers.
A modern girl should be guided by her parents to appreciate the world of books from an early age. Illustration photo
2. Have books in mind
Reading books may not change your destiny, but it will definitely change your character. A modern girl should be guided by her parents to appreciate the world and the fragrance of books from a young age.
Isn't there a saying? The best fashion for girls is books. A girl who is truly "rooted" in a mountain of books and feels that books are her best friend, will radiate a kind of beauty that attracts everyone.
3. Allow your child to argue
A "good daughter" is someone who always listens to her mother and never argues with her. But is the mother always right? Even if the mother is always right, the daughter should still have the right to express her own opinion.
Don't just teach your child to nod obediently, teach them to say "no" and explain their point of view in a reasonable way. You will see that your child learns a lot more.
4. No bias between boys and girls
When raising girls, there needs to be equality in the home. Because when parents are biased, girls develop an inferiority complex, which can easily lead to extreme actions to attract their parents' attention to gain more attention.
In addition, children in the family will not be in harmony and love each other. Children who are treated unfairly are likely to develop jealousy and envy.
When raising daughters, there needs to be equality in the home. Illustration photo
5. Be a role model for your children
Parents are the biggest influence on how their children think and act. Children tend to learn from their parents’ actions and thoughts. Therefore, if you want to raise your daughter to be confident and self-reliant, you must understand your own values. In fact, your actions and words can help shape her views and personality.
If you easily succumb to social pressures or often doubt your abilities or react negatively to difficult situations, your daughter is likely to develop in the same direction.
However, if you are always proud of your achievements, confident in every daily situation and demonstrate the ability to control the situation, your child will certainly learn from that and develop himself in a more positive direction.
6. Don't let your child "go out whenever they want"
According to Professor Ly, if a girl wants to be respected in society, she herself needs to be aware of respecting family principles, from a young age. For example, parents should set a rule for their daughters, "Must be home before 10pm."
Setting these rules about time is a premise for children to always respect family rules in the future, and also helps protect children from the dangers of not following safe time schedules.
7. Not everyone has an obligation to treat their children well.
Parents need to let their children know that not everyone in this world will smile at them. Some people are never friendly, so why not avoid them early?
Be closer to those who open their arms to you, but you also need to be alert and smart to distinguish between "sweet talk" and true sincerity.
Parents need to let their children know that not everyone in this world will smile at them. Illustration photo
8. Optimistic and cheerful spirit
Women are in control of their destiny and our daughters can learn this from a very young age, as long as mothers guide them by example. This proves that it is necessary for parents to teach their children to be optimistic from a young age. Especially for girls, who are often sensitive. Optimism is very important for every person's life.
Therefore, adults should teach their children how to eliminate negative thinking. When facing a problem, instead of worrying, parents should choose to think more positively about it with their children. Do not underestimate positive thinking, because it brings great effects to your spirit.
9. Don't be indifferent to sex education for your children.
Children of different genders have completely different physical structures, puberty characteristics and psychological needs. At each stage of a child's growth, parents must carefully educate their children so that they have a sense of self-protection and safety.
Professor Ly Mai Can advises mothers to pay attention to sex education for girls, so that they understand and know how to protect themselves in all situations.
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