Social GĐXH - People with high EQ, wherever they go, bring a sense of comfort and intimacy to others. On the contrary, people with low EQ often have a way of talking that makes others feel confused and want to avoid them.
Below are some of the ways people with low EQ speak. Only by avoiding these actions can you comfortably master complex social relationships.
1. Always find topics to talk about endlessly
Such people always speak without thinking, they don't even understand everything thoroughly before they start talking nonsense.
When dealing with this type of person in normal situations, we can happily and gently communicate without having to be too careful.
They always find topics to talk about so the atmosphere never becomes dull or boring.
However, in important situations, meaningless chatter can be a waste of time, disrupt concentration, and create an unpleasant feeling that is difficult to escape.
But sometimes, they can also accidentally say things that they shouldn't, easily creating unnecessary trouble.
People with low EQ always find topics to talk about endlessly so the atmosphere never becomes dull or boring. Illustration photo
2. Pride
In his book, businessman Hannel once wrote about an assistant named Sofia. Sofia was a Harvard graduate, outstanding in ability and highly regarded by Hannel.
At an important event, Sofia urgently drafted a speech. However, Hannel's subsequent speech was completely different from the draft Sofia wrote.
After speaking, Hannel threw the manuscript in front of his assistant and said: "Next time write more clearly."
Sofia immediately blushed, feeling embarrassed and humiliated, and got angry, shouting: "I wrote it like that, if you can't recognize it, it's your problem!"
Then she angrily turned and walked away.
The next morning, Sofia received a notice from the company: "You have been fired."
In life, people who are too sensitive and have "thin skin" often cannot stand being criticized by others. They can get angry and lose their temper in inappropriate situations, making the relationship increasingly tense and both sides unhappy.
But people with high EQ will know how to smile and accept criticism, comments, and suggestions from others.
If you always think that face is more important than anything and can't stand other people's comments and criticisms, you will often fall into a state of anger. Open your heart a little, then you can easily face the noisy world.
3. Ask back
A questioning tone often expresses a stronger negation than a doubtful tone, and also contains dissatisfaction and even contempt for the other person.
Some sample sentences are: "Didn't I tell you?", "Can't you do such a simple thing well?"...
The implication of this counter-questioning tone is: I am right and you are wrong.
When a person often uses questioning sentences, asking questions in a superior manner, this is a common manifestation of a person with low EQ.
According to psychology, people who always consider themselves the center and do not care about the feelings of others belong to the group with typical low emotional intelligence.
4. Show off
There is a folk saying: "True people do not reveal their true nature" meaning talented people often do not show it on the outside.
They are very talented people, at a high level but very calm, not showing it even though they have great potential.
On the contrary, "empty barrels make the most noise", the less capable people are, the more they like to brag and try to show off their abilities.
They do not know that this arrogant and unhumble personality shows a low EQ level, causing others to stay away.
5. Too blunt
Have you ever heard this: "I said something harsh, don't take it to heart", "I said it harshly, but I didn't mean it badly".
In life, there are many people who think that speaking frankly is an advantage, saying whatever is on their mind, completely ignoring the feelings of others and as a result hurting others without knowing it.
What they call "straightforward" is simply not wanting to bother thinking about other people's feelings.
People who consider themselves straightforward like that often do not care about other people's thoughts and feelings.
In daily life, there are many good relationships that are broken just because of a few words.
If you keep empathy in yourself and think more about other people's feelings, your words will naturally become warmer and more pleasant.
Learn to speak a little slower, think carefully before speaking, the other person will also listen to you more carefully and the relationship will become better.
In daily life, many good relationships are broken just because of a few words. Illustration photo
6. Indifference
Many couples when arguing, because they are lazy to explain, they like to say: "You can think whatever you want."
And this kind of indifferent tone will make the other person feel that the speaker does not care about their feelings, the listener will only get angrier.
Talking is a two-way communication process, and an indifferent tone certainly conveys a signal of disinterest in communicating with the other party.
Therefore, we must avoid using an indifferent tone when talking to others.
7. Fear of rejection
Japanese writer Osamu Dazai once said: "My misfortune lies in my inability to refuse. I am always afraid that once I refuse someone, it will leave a rift in our hearts that will never heal."
Human nature is good and we all hate to say no to requests and favors. But if you say yes to every request right away, it often puts you in a dilemma.
Life is not easy, sometimes you spend your precious time, sometimes there will be people taking advantage of your kindness.
A person who does not dare to refuse, is easily persuaded by requests, in the end not only hurts himself but can also cause others to not respect your help.
Understand that giving a little is affection, but giving too much becomes debt and responsibility.
If you always say yes to every request, many people will not hesitate to take advantage of you. Only when you know how to say no when it is necessary, will your kindness be valuable.
Your kindness needs to be a little more nuanced. In many cases, you need to be willing to say yes and help, but there are also cases where you should say "no".
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