People with low EQ have 7 characteristics that no one who comes into close contact with them can like.

GDXH - Have you noticed? With the same opinion, some people say it to make others feel comfortable, but others say it to make others feel uncomfortable. That is a manifestation of people with low EQ.

It's past 10pm, but an online community is still very active. The common topic of discussion in this group is PowerPoint (PPT) designs.

Members can post their finished work to the group for advice.

Post owners are looking forward to receiving compliments and comments from other members of the group, especially from the administrator (who is an expert in this field).

Because there are many members posting tonight, the group is very active.

The group leader also briefly commented on some PPTs, although only a few sentences but pointed out issues that need improvement that many people do not realize.

It was almost midnight, and almost no one in the group was speaking anymore.

At this time, a member named "The Conscientious Person" sent a PPT and invited the group leader to review and give comments.

At that time, many people felt very surprised, wondering why this person's EQ was so low.

Asking someone to correct your paper in the middle of the night, without considering that others still need to rest?

Furthermore, through interaction, it can be seen that this person is not familiar with the administrator. So why would a stranger help at such a late hour?

Seeing this, someone in the group replied that it was too late now and the group admin had already gone on vacation.

The next morning, a new working day began, "The conscientious person" once again mentioned the group administrator's name, hoping he would please give his opinion on his PPT.

The group admin was also enthusiastic and gave this member a lot of comments.

But the "Conscientious One" continued to ask a series of questions, from size, color to other small issues.

At this time, the group administrator was a bit impatient, but still showed this person the direction to search online to solve these problems.

Then, "The Kind-hearted One" sent a long comment with the main idea: "You are responsible for reviewing my papers, why do you ask me to look it up online? I understand that you feel bored checking and commenting on so many PPTs, but do you know how difficult it is for me to do PPTs? I have to stay up until 2am. Just a few words from you can help me solve the problem, why do you make me waste a few hours?"

According to other members of the group, the administrator only takes advantage of his free time to give PPT comments to everyone, sometimes even during working hours he tries to take some time out of his busy schedule to help.

Another member couldn't help but post a comment to "The Kind-Hearted One" as follows: "If you don't pay others, don't ask too much from them. Even if you do pay, it's a mutual agreement of rights and obligations after negotiation."

The "conscience person" mentioned above is a typical person with low EQ. If you want to know what a person with high EQ is like, you need to first understand what low EQ is, and then avoid these problems.

In life, there are people who are very difficult to talk to, no matter what you say, their first reaction is to argue. Illustration photo

Below are 7 typical signs of people with low EQ:

1. Like to teach others

On social media, someone once asked a question that got a lot of attention: "In life, what behaviors seem smart but are actually very silly?". There was an answer that many people agreed with: "Like to give life lessons to others".

A social media user named A Lai once shared his experience. One time, at a class reunion, he met an old friend he hadn't seen for a long time.

That friend works in a big company, has a successful career, and is the type of person who always wants to be better than others.

During the conversation, that friend kept talking and convincing A Lai to take the civil service exam.

A Lai said that he likes his current working environment, sees that the job has development prospects, and temporarily has no intention of taking the civil service exam.

Unexpectedly, the old friend said arrogantly: "People like you have such a narrow vision. Companies like this often require overtime, and the scariest thing is that you always face the risk of being fired."

A Lai could only smile and say: "I know your treatment is really good but that is not the goal I want to pursue."

The other friend kept saying: "You don't go to work for stability and benefits, do you go to work to do charity work?"

A Lai didn't know how to respond after hearing that, and the atmosphere at the dining table became awkward.

Good advice can be appreciated, but constant preaching only annoys people.

Don't judge other people's lives, and certainly don't comment or criticize their choices.

After all, everyone has their own experiences, different perspectives on life, and makes different decisions.

The best demonstration of a person's cultivation is never to rush into preaching about the lives of others.

2. Like to argue, difficult to talk to

In life, there are people who are very difficult to talk to, no matter what you say, their first reaction is to argue.

They don't consider or think about whether their words are appropriate or not, as long as they make others unable to talk back, they will be proud of themselves.

As a result, not only do they find it difficult to gain the desired respect, but they also make the other party dissatisfied, creating conflict.

You should understand that communicating with people is not a debate to determine who wins or loses.

Knowing how to give in at the right time will help you gain people's trust and sympathy.

To speak softly and be willing to suffer losses is the wisdom in life, to retreat and advance.

3. Feel like the world owes you something and should serve you

A symptom of low EQ is feeling that the whole world should serve them and owe them something.

If a few minutes of giving can save them hours of trouble, then they believe that others should give unconditionally. The "considerate person" above has this kind of mentality.

This person always doesn't understand what he did wrong and justifies himself. Therefore, if everyone in the world gave you 1 dollar, you would become a billionaire immediately.

But now that you're not a billionaire, are you blaming the whole world for not fulfilling your obligations?

A person who cannot control his or her psychology can easily become a "slave" to emotions. Illustration photo

4. Impulsive, hot-tempered

Some people can't control their words, some people can't control their emotions.

I once read a sentence like this: "The hotter you are, the lower your intelligence; the more angry you are, the less joy you have; the more gentle and tolerant you are, the more blessings you have."

In life, the most taboo thing is to act impulsively and get angry easily. A person who cannot control his or her psychology can easily become a "slave" to emotions.

Only when you control your emotions can you control your life.

5. Pride

In his book, businessman Hannel once wrote about an assistant named Sofia. Sofia was a Harvard graduate, outstanding in ability and highly regarded by Hannel.

At an important event, Sofia urgently drafted a speech. However, Hannel's subsequent speech was completely different from the draft Sofia wrote.

After speaking, Hannel threw the manuscript in front of his assistant and said: "Next time write more clearly."

Sofia immediately blushed, feeling embarrassed and humiliated, and got angry, shouting: "I wrote it like that, if you can't recognize it, it's your problem!"

Then she angrily turned and walked away.

The next morning, Sofia received a notice from the company: "You have been fired."

In life, people who are too sensitive and have "thin skin" often cannot stand being criticized by others.

They can get angry and lose their temper in inappropriate situations, making the relationship increasingly tense and both sides unhappy.

But people with high EQ will know how to smile and accept criticism, comments, and suggestions from others.

If you always think that face is more important than anything and cannot stand other people's comments and criticisms, you will often fall into a state of anger.

Open your heart a little, then you can easily face the noisy world.

6. Never think about others, only think about yourself

The group admin in the story mentioned that it was inconvenient for him to reply by typing and "The Kind-Hearted One" suggested a way to reply by voice message.

In fact, this person did not consider whether the group administrator's surroundings were conducive to conversation.

Of course, he also did not consider whether hearing his voice would affect the colleagues around him.

As the old saying goes, treat others the way you want them to treat you. If you want others to treat you well, you have to treat them well too.

Everyone hopes that those around them will treat them well, but few people think about the opposite, whether you treat people well or not.

This type of person often has two common problems. First, their mood drops very quickly when others treat them badly or do not respect them, they will start to get angry and jealous.

Such people are in a cocoon and will tie their life in a knot.

People with high emotional intelligence are very sensitive to others, for fear of hurting others with their careless words.

When faced with the rudeness of others, they will be generous and considerate of the other party: it must not be intentional, there must be another reason.

Imagine, if everyone could do this, there would be no need to worry about being unhappy in life.

In life, the most important thing when communicating is comfort, but there are also people who like to touch other people's "wounds" when talking. Illustration photo

7. Touching other people's "wounds"

In life, the most important thing when communicating is comfort, but there are also people who like to touch other people's "wounds" when talking.

My colleague named Tieu Duong is disliked by many people because he always talks about other people's "wounds".

One day, Tieu Duong was chatting with Tieu Ly. While talking, he pointed at the wrinkles on Tieu Ly's face and said: "You're old, right? Look at these wrinkles, and your hair is gray too. Time really waits for no one."

Xiao Li's expression immediately changed. Any girl wouldn't want to be called old, especially in front of everyone.

Another day, the colleagues went somewhere together. Tieu Duong saw Tieu Tham eating next to him, so he said: "Tieu Tham, stop eating. Look at your chin, it's about to fall to the ground."

And being fat is exactly Xiao Shen's obsession. As soon as Xiao Yang said that, the atmosphere at the dining table became silent.

In life, everyone has strengths and weaknesses. If you only look at other people's shortcomings and criticize them in front of everyone, your relationship with the people around you will definitely not be good.

Inappropriate words and attitudes can deeply hurt someone. Speaking moderately and behaving within limits is the highest expression of emotional intelligence.

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