Managing family finances is always a headache for couples. How to spend, how to save, how to invest effectively,... are constant questions for couples, even those who have been married for many years.
Normally in many families, the wife will be the "keeper of the treasure" because she is resourceful, knows how to manage and take care of her husband and children. But in many families, the husband is responsible for managing the finances. Many people think that
Men lead outside, women lead inside. After getting married, will your husband give you his salary card? Will you be angry if he doesn't give it to you? Today we discuss: What are the reasons why men don't want to give their salary cards after marriage?
1. Worry about women spending money recklessly
Trust is the foundation of marriage. When a man is worried about his wife spending money recklessly and does not trust her, he will firmly refuse to hand over his pay card.
Especially after marriage, women often have many expenses but do not know how to use money wisely. They can spend a lot of money on dresses, cosmetics, shoes, etc. This is truly a nightmare for men, making them stressed every time they come home.
The role of men is often the economic pillar. They want to have a good income to bring a happy life to their wife and children. And they also want their women to be the real "keeper of the keys", a solid rear to help them manage the family's finances.
Many husbands are horrified by their wives' indiscriminate shopping habits. (Illustration photo)
2. Can't find common ground in spending
The reason why men do not want to hand over their salary cards may be because they do not agree on spending. They want to be independent from each other to avoid arguments. They also do not want to have many financial constraints.
But if you think carefully, even if a couple cannot find a common voice in managing expenses, they can easily disagree on many other issues such as life views, personality, habits, child-rearing methods, etc. In short, only when couples know how to think from each other's perspective, tolerate and understand each other, can they be more harmonious in everything.
3. Wanting to be the head of the family and wanting to control
Both men and women have the instinct to control, but men's desire to control is relatively strong. The more insecure a man is, the more he wants to control his finances and the people around him.
So that is why many men do not want to give their salary card to their wives to manage. They want to be the head of the family, control the family finances, and want their wives to be the center. They will feel really uncomfortable when they have to ask their wives for money to buy a pack of cigarettes or a cup of coffee.
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A gentle, caring, and well-behaved woman will make her husband trust her and entrust her with the task of "keeping the keys to the house". However, when holding her husband's salary and cards, the wife needs to pay attention to her husband's feelings and should not be too controlling or strict.
If the wife has done all of the above well but still cannot gain her husband's trust, it may be because the husband values money too much or does not love his wife enough.
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