I'm 61 years old, my stubborn daughter-in-law wants 1.8 billion VND and buys a car worth over 1 billion VND before giving birth to a grandchild, but wants the grandchild to follow her maternal family name.

The story posted on the Toutiao forum (China's social network) attracted attention when sharing Ms. To's story:

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My family name is Su, I am 61 years old this year, my husband and I are both retired. My son is 38 years old this year, my daughter-in-law is 35 years old, my grandson is 7 years old this year, and we still don't have a second child. Honestly, I want my daughter-in-law to give birth to another girl. I have never taken care of a girl in my life, and I really want a granddaughter.

When my son and daughter-in-law got married, we and our in-laws shared the house, each contributing half of the house and decoration costs, and we also bought the car. We gave our daughter-in-law a dowry of 128,000 yuan (about 446 million VND), but we didn’t ask how much her parents gave her, and she didn’t say either.

When my daughter-in-law gave birth to my grandson, my husband was still working, and I was retired and free at home. Initially, after discussing with my daughter-in-law, she agreed to stay home to give birth and we hired a professional caregiver. She also agreed, and we paid for all expenses. When there was still half a month left until her due date, my daughter-in-law insisted on going to the old center. Unexpectedly, the maternity center was so crowded, we had to rely on connections to get a place.

The initial cost was 28,000 NDT (about 98 million VND), but after the daughter-in-law entered the center, there was some additional cost.

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When the daughter-in-law returned home, we had spent a total of nearly 50,000 yuan (about 175 million VND). For the baby’s first month, my husband gave me 10,000 yuan (about 35 million VND) in congratulatory money, and my in-laws gave me 30,000 yuan (about 105 million VND) in congratulatory money.

My daughter-in-law was still angry, complaining that we gave her too little money, and wanted to change her nephew's last name. Luckily, my son understood reason, he brought out evidence from when my daughter-in-law went to the hospital, went to the confinement center, and then came home. In more than a month, my husband and I transferred more than 60,000 NDT (about 210 million VND) to our son.

My daughter-in-law took 4 months of maternity leave, during which time she suggested hiring a nanny to take care of the child, my mother-in-law and I just needed to provide additional support. My family paid for the nanny, after my daughter-in-law went back to work, I took care of the child by myself, my mother-in-law made up all kinds of excuses not to take care of it.

I thought, my nephew is my nephew, it is natural for me to take care of him, not to help my daughter-in-law but to reduce the burden on my son. I took care of him until he went to school, which was 6 years, then my mother-in-law said that she was better and could take him to school.

At this time, my husband also retired, I returned home, and together with my husband, planned for retirement life.

While taking care of my grandchild, I also discussed with my daughter-in-law about having another child, but she said that her sisters all received rewards when they had a second child.

This matter was put on hold until my grandson went on summer vacation and his in-laws went on vacation . The children brought their grandchildren to us, and my husband encouraged his son and daughter-in-law to have more grandchildren. The daughter-in-law told us about her friends who received awards from her parents-in-law.

Some mothers-in-law directly transfer their house to their daughter-in-law's name, some buy cars for their daughters-in-law; some not only give their daughters-in-law houses and cars, but also give them money in their bank accounts.

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The daughter-in-law said that she understood our situation, we were all retired seniors, without much property. My husband asked her if she had any requests, to tell us so we could consider them, if we could meet them, we would do our best to meet them.

The daughter-in-law was not polite, she directly stated the 3 requests and said they were not too high, we could definitely meet them. After hearing that, I was speechless, it was so funny.

First, buy your daughter-in-law a car, not less than 300,000 NDT (about 1 billion VND), for convenience in going to work and coming home to take care of the children.

Second, send a separate sum of money to the daughter-in-law, not much, only 500,000 NDT (about 1.7 billion VND). The important thing is that this sum of money must be clearly stated as a gift to the daughter-in-law, as a separate reward for having a second child, and this sum of money cannot be reclaimed.

Finally, it's money, but it's paid in installments. All expenses from the second child's birth, including kindergarten, schooling, and even future marriage, are paid for by the grandparents.

My husband held a cup of tea in one hand, listened to his daughter-in-law's three requests, and asked: "Tieu Anh, have you calculated how much money these three requests of yours require?"

The daughter-in-law happily replied: "Dad, it's actually not that much. The combined pension and insurance of my parents when they retire is about that much. I'm just thinking about our future. It doesn't mean much for you to keep this money. Why don't you use it to help us have a second child? If it's a girl, my parents will be proud to have both a grandson and a granddaughter."

My husband asked again: "So what did you tell your parents, do you want the second child to take your family name?"

The daughter-in-law said: "If you don't mind, my parents also agree to let the second child take my family name, we just need to see what you think."

My husband said to himself: "I spent a lot of money for you two to have a second child, but in the end, you'll follow your mother's family name. What a great plan."

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The daughter-in-law explained herself a few sentences, my son spoke up, saying that there was no need to have more children, that parents' money should be saved for old age. My son pulled his daughter-in-law back home, and before leaving, my daughter-in-law told me and my husband to think about it, saying that after 38 years old, she would no longer consider having children.

I was about to say something when my husband spoke first: "If you want to have children, then have them. If not, then don't. We spend money, but in the end, they follow their maternal family name. How ridiculous."

The daughter-in-law was no less, saying that she was very understanding, unlike her sisters, who opened their mouths and demanded the house and bank card. The daughter-in-law only made requests based on our family's actual situation.

After my son and daughter-in-law left, I hugged my grandson and my husband said, "Just take good care of this one. Having another child is tiring for everyone, let's just forget about it."

Minh Nguyet

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