'Why did you have to cheat on the exam?', the answer made the mother cry

GĐXH - After hearing that, the mother was also startled. She immediately hugged her son and burst into tears.

Dinh Dinh only has one son, she always thinks: "The whole family is waiting for my son, I must let him study hard and progress in the future".

Dinh Dinh's son is in 4th grade of elementary school, but she still has to "take care" of his life every day from small to big things.

For example, helping her son make a study plan, she is the one who decides when to study Math or English; proactively preparing his school bag every day, not worrying about him forgetting his textbooks; even arranging review materials for him, hoping to improve his learning efficiency...

She thought her efforts would be rewarded, but what she got in return was a thick stack of failed exams. The numbers and bright red comments always made Dinh Dinh feel pain.

She burst into tears, "Every day I worry about my child, but why is he like this?!"

Dinh Dinh was desperate to see all her efforts in vain.

One day, the principal called Dinh Dinh and informed her that her son had cheated on an exam.

She was so angry that she wanted to beat her son as soon as she hung up the phone. At that moment, Dinh Dinh's husband came out to talk to her son.

"Son, why did you have to cheat on the exam? Tell me, will you?"

The son was tense, a little scared as he looked at his mother, then just lowered his head and didn't dare say anything.

The father squatted down, took his son's little hand and touched his head.

The boy looked up straight into his father's eyes, feeling that he wasn't very angry, his tightly pressed lips began to tremble slightly.

Then the boy burst into tears and said, "I'm afraid that if I don't get a better score this time, my mother won't be happy. I don't want to make her sad."

Love children but in the right way and to the right extent to train them to be independent. Illustration photo

Hearing that, Dinh Dinh was also startled. She immediately hugged her son and burst into tears.

After that, she and her husband patiently talked to their child, guiding him to realize the wrong side of cheating. Good grades must be earned by oneself, then parents will be more pleased.

Through this time, mother and son gradually became closer. Her son dared to express his feelings, and Dinh Dinh no longer got angry and scolded him as often.

She understands that in learning, children are the main characters, parents can only be supporting characters. The role of parents should be to use scientific methods to encourage children to study actively.

A few months later, Dinh Dinh's son's grades began to improve significantly. He also studied independently without needing a tutor.

Therefore, love children but in the right way and to the right extent to train children's independence.

Overprotected, children become weaker

Parents' protection and indulgence of their children are shown in many different aspects such as being willing to help their children with everything, including personal and private matters, meeting all their children's requests, not letting their children lack, or even have excess, of supplies, food, etc.

Although this is a way for parents and grandparents to show their love for their children, in the long run it will cause consequences, affecting the development and life skills of children.

Over-protecting and over-parenting children can hinder their overall growth and development. Illustration photo

Lack of cognitive skills and risk aversion

Overprotecting and over-caring for children will cause them to have little experience. Children are deprived of the ability to make their own decisions and never face failure or mistakes.

Overprotection by parents prevents children from learning to take risks or adapt to unusual situations.

Children will get used to living in safety, and when trouble arises, they will not be able to solve everything on their own.

Lie

If children feel suffocated by their parents' overprotectiveness, they may start lying.

If children feel unable to cope with the pressure of unrealistic expectations or strict rules, they may distort the truth to manipulate outcomes and change their parents' expected responses.

Mental health issues

Overprotected children who step out into society on their own may suffer from social anxiety, stress, depression, and an inability to solve problems.

Children will feel helpless, and will become sensitive, naive and lacking in spirit. Your child may not learn to overcome fears and step out of their comfort zone.

When faced with difficult situations, most children will be worried and scared. Instead, from an early age, you should teach your children to be independent and solve problems on their own.

Dependent, lack of confidence

If children are constantly looking to their parents for comfort and protection, they may not develop the self-esteem needed to stand up for themselves.

If you do everything for your child (from basic chores to completing schoolwork), they may begin to expect you to do other simple things that they can and should do for themselves.

Instead of taking on new challenges, children wait for others to handle the problem.

Furthermore, a 2013 study from the University of Mary Washington in Virginia found that children of parents who engaged in “helicopter” parenting were more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression in their teens and college years.

Lack of social skills

Overprotective parents leave their children clueless about the world around them. Your child will start to feel insecure as you gradually move away from them.

It will be very difficult for children to maintain relationships with friends and colleagues later on.

Overprotective parents make children lack the ability to communicate with strangers, behave with friends or the ability to solve problems in life.

Scared

If you prevent children from doing things that may have negative consequences but are relatively harmless, they may become afraid to try new things.

Children may worry that they will be hurt or rejected and end up avoiding experiences.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/cha-hoi-con-trai-tai-sao-con-lai-phai-gian-lan-trong-ky-thi-cau-tra-loi-cua-con-khien-me-bat-khoc-17225022815112707.htm