In less than 2 years, all savings gone, brotherhood also broken

In recent years, many retirees have chosen to leave the city and return to their hometowns to spend their final years of life. In their perception, the countryside is an ideal place to retire, free of dust and noise. There, people can immerse themselves in nature, cultivate themselves and enjoy their old age.

Although it is an ideal destination, it is not necessarily suitable for the elderly who have lived in the city for a long time to return to their hometown. The case of Mr. Fang Mingjun (63 years old,   China ) is an example.

After passing the university entrance exam, he went to the city to study and work. Having settled down in the big city, he got married and had children there.

When he was young, Mr. Fang always felt that living in the city was a source of pride.

In fact, thanks to living in the city, he also has easy access to many opportunities and updates on new things.

When his parents were alive, he only returned home during the holidays. After his parents passed away, he returned home less often unless there was anything important.

Fang Mingjun said that in the past 20 years since his parents passed away, except for his younger brother's nephew getting married, he has never returned to his hometown.

Dream of retiring in the countryside

He used to think that life in the city was rosy. However, as he got older, he missed the peaceful life in the countryside more and more. Especially after his son moved out, he and his wife felt that life in the city was boring. To avoid boredom in their old age, he dreamed of returning to the countryside with his wife to live a leisurely life.

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About 8-9 years ago, in the new rural construction plan, roads into the village were easier to travel on and street lights were also installed.

Mr. Fang and his wife return to their hometown more often on weekends. The old house where the family used to live is no longer habitable. Every time they return, they usually stay at his younger brother’s house.

However, that house was not big enough. So after Mr. Fang and his wife retired, they decided to return to their hometown to retire.

To start his life in the countryside, Mr. Fang planned to renovate his old house. However, after consulting with some architects, Mr. Fang needed to build a new one.

But the amount of money to invest was not small. When Mr. Fang's son heard about it, he thought that the money should be used to buy a small house, both to live in and to invest in.

In this way, and with many problems that came, the couple's dream of returning to their hometown was shattered. Fang Mingjun and his wife continued to live their days in the city.

Every day, the couple just stayed in their room or went to the park. An idle life led to illness. After 4 years of retirement, in the 3rd year, his wife fell ill and passed away.

Sell ​​house to return to hometown to build house with younger brother

The departure of his wife made Mr. Fang increasingly lonely living alone in the old house.

He tried to visit his children's house more often, but his boredom did not seem to subside. So not long after his wife passed away, Mr. Fang wanted to return to his hometown.

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With about 200,000 yuan in savings, he planned to return to his hometown to renovate his old house. When he mentioned this to his younger brother, he advised him to demolish it and rebuild.

Mr. Fang also said he did not have enough money. However, this person suggested that the two brothers could pool their money to build a 3-story house together, estimated at about 200,000 yuan per person.

Fang Mingjun was quite pleased when he heard his younger brother say this, so he immediately agreed. With this amount of money, he thought he could manage. He planned to ask his son for a sum or sell his savings to have enough money.

The plan was carefully calculated, Mr. Fang contributed 200,000 NDT with his younger brother in advance to start construction.

However, during the construction process, the cost of materials and labor increased. "When planning, my younger brother calculated that demolishing the foundation and house would cost about 150,000 yuan per person, but the result was 200,000 yuan. The cost of buying household appliances was up to 300,000 yuan per person. So I had to add another 300,000 yuan. This put me in a difficult situation. Because I didn't know where to get such a large amount of money," he said.

Mr. Fang added that his son did not have that much money to give his father. Living solely on his pension, he did not dare to borrow money. Having no other choice, he decided to sell his house in the city.

The two-bedroom house was built 30 years ago. According to Mr. Fang, the location of the house is convenient for transportation, so it is sold for 600,000 yuan (about 2 billion VND).

He plans to spend 300,000 yuan to buy a new house. He will save the rest to earn monthly interest.

Life in the new house

After more than a year of construction, last March, he moved into his new house. The first floor of the house is a common space including a living room, kitchen and a toilet. The second floor has 2 bedrooms for Mr. Fang and his younger brother and his wife.

When he first moved in, Mr. Fang felt the warmth of family. Because they cooked together and sat around the dinner table.

"In the morning, we usually go to the yard to work, dig the soil to grow vegetables. After taking a nap at noon, I will go to my neighbor's house to play mahjong. Or we will go to my neighbor's house to drink tea. Sometimes the whole family goes up the mountain to pick vegetables to change the atmosphere. In short, the first few months of living in the countryside were quite fun, more comfortable than life in the city," said Mr. Fang.

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However, in the fourth month, they had a conflict. Because Fang Mingjun's taste and his younger brother's family's were different. Their eating habits were also different.

Usually he only cooks enough to eat. If he doesn't finish it, he throws it away and doesn't save it for the next day. However, his sister-in-law has a habit of cooking a lot and storing it in the refrigerator to eat in many meals.

This was not good for his health, so he had advised him many times. However, his sister-in-law was quite difficult and there were times when they argued with each other. After many times like that, the sister-in-law's family refused to eat with Mr. Fang.

When the two families had separate dining rooms, conflicts arose over who cooked first or who used the kitchen but did not clean up. To avoid trouble, Mr. Fang converted the warehouse next to the living room into a kitchen.

However, the younger brother's family did not agree. Because of this, they had conflicts and always argued over trivial matters.

Mr. Fang's family used to be a gathering place for the villagers. Now that they knew about the conflict between the brothers, they were embarrassed and did not come often. Mr. Fang's life became boring.

The poor interpersonal relationships in his family and the lack of comforts in life gradually made him uncomfortable. After suffering from an illness and having to go to a hospital 40km away from home, he gradually realized that life in the countryside was no longer rosy.

Not long after recovering from his illness, he decided to return to the city and rent a house to live in. Thinking back now, Mr. Fang regrets his decision to leave the city and return to the countryside. Because now, less than 2 years after returning to the countryside, he no longer has a house and has to rent one. His savings have almost been spent. His family relationships have also deteriorated.

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