Studying the upbringing of Nobel Prize winners, researchers found that these successful people came from very different family backgrounds. Some had parents who were ordinary intellectuals, workers, farmers, small traders or even illiterate people.
So what is it about their families that makes them have healthy personalities and outstanding abilities?
1. Learn to respect children's choices
Professor Tu Youyou (China) - Nobel Prize Winner in Medicine 2015.
Tu Youyou was born into a family of traditional Chinese medicine practitioners. Her father was a doctor who ran clinics. When choosing a major in college, she did not hesitate to choose Medicine, but it was not traditional Chinese medicine as her family expected, but Pharmacy, which most people at that time were not interested in.
Professor Tu Youyou
This decision surprised her father: "If you choose this major, won't all the knowledge of traditional Chinese medicine you have accumulated be useless?" However, Tu Youyou believed that only the major of Pharmacology had the ability to systematically explore the field of traditional Chinese medicine.
The father thought for a moment and then said: "I only wanted you to grow up to be a doctor. I didn't expect you to have bigger ambitions than me! I believe in you, keep trying, you will succeed!"
As children grow up, many parents like to interfere with their choices. But there are countless possibilities for their future life. How can it be completely within your control and follow your specific path?
Gordimer, the Nobel Prize winner for Literature, once said: "Family education must be democratic and enlightened. First of all, parents must respect their children's choices and never force their children to follow their own choices."
Many parents think that they are smart but their children do not understand anything, so they deprive their children of the right to choose. Without the right to choose, children have no motivation to live and may stagnate in the nest that their parents built for them. After all, this may not be a good thing for children, because children need to follow their own path and parents are just a ladder for them to lean on.
Even when children make mistakes, we have to stand on the sidelines, waiting for them to activate their self-healing ability, their self-correction ability, their self-discrimination ability, and their ability to recover from mistakes.
2. Tolerance is an emotion that needs to be cultivated from a young age.
Mo Yan (China) - Nobel Prize in Literature 2012 Winner
Mo Yan's mother was illiterate and had never read a book, but she was optimistic, kind, strong, and sensitive. When he was young, Mo Yan used to go gleaning wheat in the fields with his mother. When the field guard came, the gleaners ran away one by one. His mother couldn't run fast enough, so the field guard slapped her in the face and confiscated the wheat they had picked. Her mouth bled, and she sat down helplessly on the ground.
Many years later, the field keeper had become an old man with white hair and met Mo Yan at the market. Mo Yan wanted to rush forward to take revenge but was stopped by his mother. She calmly said: "Son, the person who hit me is not someone like this old man."
Parents' behavior affects their children's souls! The way parents treat work and treat others will have a very direct and subtle impact on their children.
Being open-minded is a lesson that parents should teach their children. Look, Mo Yan's mother did the same! Don't waste your emotions and time on other people's mistakes, and don't let your soul become ugly with resentment.
Emotions need to be nurtured from an early age. The most important factors such as will, intelligence, and moral character do not come into play through parental preaching but are transformed through parental behavior.
In addition, the best way for children to develop great thinking, in addition to setting a good example for their parents, is to let them read more classic works and biographies of famous people, so that they learn to look at society and themselves from a different perspective.
3. Play is a knowledge, and can be an ability
Steven Chu (USA) - Nobel Prize Winner in Physics 1997
"Play is natural and children have the right to play."
Steven Chu lives in a family with many outstanding talents. When he was young, Steven Chu was a very focused child and loved to play. However, his mother allowed her children to do this and said that playing can train children's physical strength and courage.
She believed that: "Play is natural, children have the right to play". Later, these "play" experiences inspired him to think about science.
Steven Chu
Regarding this type of play, Steven Chu said: "What's more important is that I have formed the habit of doing things myself since I was a child, which also makes my hands more skillful. It stimulates Steven Chu's brain activity and enhances his sense of space.
One parenting concept we always emphasize is to let children learn to "play".
A child is very active, can laugh, jump, run, play and be naughty. Many parents are afraid that their children will lose their ambition because of playing with toys and delaying their studies, but do you remember the points raised by Jack Ma? Let children play freely! If you don't let them play, they will not have jobs in 30 years! Knowledge can be learned, but wisdom can only be experienced.
Play is not only a way of life for children, but also an important way for them to learn. During play, children will try to use their existing knowledge to explain the questions they discover, using their own methods to learn how to solve different problems encountered in life.
4. Don't let our denial hinder our children's ability to explore.
Niels Bohr (Denmark) Nobel Prize Winner in Physics 1922
"Let it do it. It knows what to do."
As a child, Bohr was a slow but attentive child. Bohr's father taught at a university and often invited a number of colleagues to his home for gatherings. Artists, writers, musicians, and foreigners were also present. Bohr was allowed to sit aside and listen. These distinguished people would often tell a story and express their views alone, which would then be discussed by others. Their unique and profound insights left a deep impression on his young mind.
Bohr loved to tinker with clocks and other household items. Once, the flywheel of a bicycle at home broke down, and Bohr volunteered to fix it and took the bicycle apart himself. He didn't know how to put it back together. Someone wanted to help, but his father insisted: "Let him do it himself, he knows what to do." After carefully studying each part, Bohr successfully assembled the flywheel.
Many parents are unhappy with what their children do, saying: "You are not allowed to do this"; "You are not allowed to touch that"; "You should do this", "Put it down and let me do it".
If a child's exploration is constantly interrupted and parents are always pointing fingers at their child, this not only deprives them of the joy of self-discovery and independent development, but also fails to nurture their ability to master their own learning.
American parents have one characteristic: they dare to let their children do the things they love to the fullest and maximize their children's ability to explore.
Even though children sometimes have unusual thoughts, we still need to encourage them to continue exploring and give them certain guidance so that they have endless motivation to seek truth, goodness, and beauty.
5. Give your child the opportunity to practice
Ernest Rutherford (New Zealand) - Nobel Prize Winner in Chemistry 1908
"Every member must share responsibility."
Rutherford had 12 siblings. Because there were so many people in the family, her mother advised, "Every member must share the responsibility." She believed that knowledge was power and she paid great attention to her children's education.
The book that played an important role in Rutherford's life was the textbook "Introduction to Physics" that his mother gave him when he was 10 years old. This book not only introduced physics but also described a series of simple experimental procedures. Rutherford realized that important natural laws could be discovered from simple experiments.
Ernest Rutherford
Responsibility is the foundation of human life and the basis for development. For example, when it comes to housework, many parents are afraid that their children will fall behind in school, so they try not to let them participate.
Dr. Dennis Waitley, known as the "Godfather of Leadership" in America, once said: "The most important thing parents need to give their children is not money but teaching them how to live properly and work responsibly."
From now on, give your child a chance to practice.
Before the age of 18, the influence of family education on a child accounts for more than 60%, school education accounts for 30% and the remaining 10% is influenced by social education. In fact, many parents do not know how to educate their children.
This shows the importance of family education for children. Education at school is very important but the educational methods of parents are more important, because children see more than the words and actions of their parents.
Schools teach children knowledge and learning methods, while parents teach their children character and morality. Whether a child's character and morality are well-educated or not is the key to their lifelong success. As long as they are a respected person, life will be exceptionally smooth.
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