People with low EQ are easy to identify because they often use these 8 phrases when communicating.

GĐXH - A famous psychologist points out some ways of speaking that people with low EQ often use when communicating.

According to CNBC, there is a core principle to demonstrate high EQ (emotional intelligence), which is not to say things you cannot do, not to say things you honestly do not think so or do not think about.

Meanwhile, according to British psychologist Tamaryn de Kock, the following statements show that a person has a particularly low EQ.

1. 'I don't change. This is who I am'

Emotional intelligence is associated with the ability to change over time as you learn and grow.

People with low emotional intelligence tend to be more rigid and will resist efforts to change or grow.

Strong beliefs are important, but being open to new possibilities is equally important.

Instead, you might say, “I need to think more about what you're saying. I want to be open to feedback about myself, even if it's difficult to hear.”

People with low emotional intelligence tend to be more rigid and will resist efforts to change or grow. Illustration photo

2. 'I know, no need to say anymore'

Ms. De Kock said that sentences like "I don't care, don't tell" or "I already know" show a lack of concern for other people's feelings, as well as a low EQ from the speaker. This language clearly shows indifference and indifference to the other person.

People with high EQ often use phrases like "Tell me more about..." or "Can you help me better understand..." to clearly demonstrate an effort to understand more about the other person's feelings and perspectives.

However, this concern must also go hand in hand with practical actions. "If you use open-ended questions but are not attentive, for example looking at your phone while talking, no matter how positive your words are, you are still considered to have low emotional intelligence," the expert recommends.

3. 'I don't have time for this/I don't care/Get to the point'

These statements are one-sided comments that show a lack of empathy.

You show the other person that you have not made an effort to understand the situation or context. When you do not show signs of interest in what the other person has to say, you are conveying the message that you do not care about them at all.

4. 'I find this impossible'

People with high emotional intelligence (EQ) always show respect and trust in others through their use of language.

In contrast, people with low emotional intelligence often use phrases that clearly show a lack of trust, skepticism, or a desire to control the other person.

Sentences like: "It's hard to believe what you're doing"; "I find your ideas unsettling" or "I don't really trust the way you're thinking"; "This is impossible" are typical examples.

Expert De Kock said that phrases that show trust in the other person such as: "I appreciate you" or "I care about the final result you will achieve" not only help build psychological safety but also demonstrate the speaker's high emotional intelligence.

However, these words are only truly valuable if they come from a place of sincerity, appreciation, and demonstrated by actions. "Otherwise, they can do more harm than good," says De Kock.

5. 'I think it's your fault'

People with high EQ never blame the outside world for the emotions they are experiencing.

Because they understand that their emotions are related to how they perceive the situation happening inside them.

Our emotions are ours to bear, it is not others' responsibility to bear.

You might say, "I'm not feeling well right now. I feel like the current situation is..."

People with high EQ never blame the outside world for the emotions they are experiencing. Illustration photo

6. 'I think it's okay, but...'

People with low EQ often respond to others in a “sandwich” manner – where negative feedback is sandwiched between two positive responses.

This way of giving feedback is understood as starting with a positive feedback (compliment), then giving a constructive feedback (criticism) and ending with a positive feedback (compliment).

Many people think this is a clever way of speaking, but in reality, this method often has the opposite effect.

For example, after hearing the statement, "I see you tried hard but the results were not good," most people only focus on the second part, "the results were not good."

This type of response often lacks clarity and directness, leaving the key message lost.

The other party also does not need compliments to cushion the negative criticism that follows.

7. 'Your emotions are irrational'

Instead, you should say: "I hear you have strong feelings and they're valid. I don't fully understand why you feel that way/I agree with your perspective on the situation. But can you tell me more?"

Emotionally intelligent people can identify their emotions, stripping away their ego to analyze the rational and irrational aspects.

They are also very good at acknowledging other people's emotions.

8. 'I'm sorry, okay?'

Using phrases like "I'm sorry, but I don't feel I was wrong" or "If you need me, I'll apologize at most" can significantly reduce trust and damage the relationship.

Expert De Kock believes that honestly admitting mistakes not only reflects awareness but also shows humility.

Admitting mistakes demonstrates that you understand the impact of your behavior on others.

This creates a foundation for the other party to also admit mistakes more easily and rebuild trust, while increasing trust from the partner.

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