There's nothing wrong with her showing off a designer bag on social media when her boyfriend gives her a gift. But is that the right way to go?
There are people who brag about every happy thing they see, every achievement they achieve, and every detail of how wonderful they love someone.
There are also people who are calm, moderate, even quite secretive. Those who are close to them know that they are very happy, even living a fulfilling life. But because they do not show it off, no one knows.
Is showing off happiness a good way?
I have a middle-aged friend who has been divorced once. He recently found a new love with a woman who had also been divorced. They loved each other deeply, peacefully and ecstatically.
He shared with me: "Sir, at midnight, I lay next to the person I love, holding his hand, feeling extremely happy. But I will not tell or brag about anything. I realize that anything related to happiness, if bragged about, is easily lost."
He spoke from experience, not spirituality. If anyone has experienced love and marriage, they will see that the most special thing about happiness in love is privacy.
The happiness of a couple, especially those who have become husband and wife and live together, is very precious.
For those who experience it, they feel precious and cherish it like holding a precious gem in their hand, holding it while being afraid of losing it.
So when you hold the most precious gem of your life in your hand, will you silently hold it or shout out loud "everyone, I have this precious gem?". Surely, if you feel the gem is very precious, you will silently enjoy your luck, "even if you are happy, you won't scream".
A man who has experienced loss and suffering suddenly finds his happiness, finds his lover, holds her hand in the middle of the night and feels overwhelmed with happiness, that's why he doesn't want to "show off".
So when you have a big or small happiness, should you show it off?
When I'm happy, I show off. When I'm happy, I show off. It doesn't hurt anyone, right? When I'm happy, I show off, so everyone can share my joy.
It is true that outwardly, showing off gifts, joy, and happiness is legitimate. Because it does not harm anyone.
Civilized people will celebrate with you. Uncivilized people will envy you. It’s okay, everyone knows how happy you are. It’s not wrong. But it’s not good.
Happiness is not something for others to comment on
An expensive gift is the effort of the husband, of the lover. The recipient needs to subtly show appreciation.
There is a way that is both right and good, that is not to show off happiness.
Imagine, you were given an LV bag, you don't show it off to anyone, but in your heart you are very grateful and thankful to the guy who indulged you.
You subtly tell the guy that you really appreciate this gift and are grateful to him, but next time he should not try to buy such an expensive gift. That way, we will be financially secure and it will be easier for us to have a long-lasting happiness together.
"I really like it and I will use this bag often." The girl chose to enjoy her own happiness, not showing it off on social media to receive unwanted comments.
The guy felt touched and appreciated his girlfriend's gentleness, "understanding" and delicacy in handling the gift. That also made the guy appreciate the girl more, because he knew that she was a thoughtful and profound person, not like those shallow girls who "shout when happy". So they could be happy longer.
The young wife was given a car by her husband and felt extremely happy. But she did not show it off, but privately shared with her husband that "I know, to have this gift, you worked very hard and got into debt. It will be harder for you to buy me a car, but you bought it because you love me."
That is, the young wife understands that the new car is not just all glitter, it also contains the hardship, effort, pressure, and sweat of the husband.
If we show it off loudly, it's just a car. If we don't show it off but silently show gratitude, silently work hard together, it's more meaningful, more connected, and happier for a longer time.
Ultimately, showing off your happiness is a choice. You can show it off or not.
But, as I said, happiness is precious. It is like a precious gem, you have to cherish it, hold it with both hands and keep it tightly closed to feel secure in protecting it. And if it is truly precious to you, it is more reasonable to keep it to yourself than to show it to everyone. If you show it, you might lose it.
What do you think about showing off joy and happiness on social networks? In your opinion, should we keep our happiness to ourselves and our loved ones? Please share your views to the email address [email protected]. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.
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