Job "taking care of children during the day and father at night"
The situation of a female graduate working as an hourly maid has just been shared on a job forum and has attracted the attention of many people.
The girl said she has been unemployed for 4 months now. Bored with staying at home all day, she recently started working as an hourly housekeeper.
On the first day of her trial job, while she was cleaning the kitchen table, the landlady asked: "Why don't you choose to be a model or a sugar baby when you're tall, fair-skinned and pretty instead of working as a maid?"
Many young, beautiful girls are suspected when working as housekeepers (Illustration photo: HN).
The girl choked, tried to finish the work and then "ran away" before receiving her 180,000 VND salary for the work. After the incident, she was determined to spread her CV (job application) to find a job.
The situation the girl encountered is not unique. Many people, especially girls, often encounter suggestive questions and suspicious looks like "you're so beautiful, why do you have to..." when going to work.
Working as a tutor and taking care of two young children for a wealthy family in Go Vap, Ho Chi Minh City, Ms. Le Ngoc Han (31 years old) also often encounters judgment and sarcasm from those around her.
Some people who knew her job smiled and said: "A beautiful tutor will soon become a boss", "Work without receiving a salary", "Take care of the children during the day and take care of the father at night"... When they found out that Han's landlord was a woman, whose husband had passed away a long time ago, someone said: "The boss has just realized her true gender".
Participating in groups and forums about jobs and tutoring, Ms. Han saw more clearly the labeling, innuendo, sexualization of the profession as well as body shaming from many people.
Young, somewhat beautiful girls who work as tutors or housekeepers are often ridiculed, ridiculed, and assumed to be just an excuse to approach... the homeowner.
The boss is the age of... grandfather and asks to be his "adopted daughter"
After graduating, working as a PG (Promotion Girl - female marketing staff), often appearing in eye-catching dresses with the task of promoting, introducing products, selling promotional items or at events, Quynh Chau, 26 years old, in Ho Chi Minh City, has met many men who asked her to be a... "sugar baby".
There are many men who habitually tease, "You're beautiful, why do you have to work so hard?" There are also those who approach you and offer... "let me take care of you, I feel sorry for you."
Many girls have difficulty finding a job because of their... beauty (Illustration: Shutterstock).
Chau once met an 80-year-old man, the same age as her grandfather, the former director of the company where she worked, who suggested that she become an "adopted child", "I'll take care of everything, no need to work hard"...
However, what shocked Chau the most was when she indignantly shared her story, many people said she was "pretending to be naive", "men with money wouldn't rush in". Some people criticized her reaction because "the boss is in his 80s, if only people in their 40s - 50s were watching, they wouldn't stand in line".
"Many people assume that we work as PGs to wait for opportunities to "seduce" rich men. When looking for jobs in other positions, I also encountered the same seductive question: "You're as pretty as me, why do you have to work so hard?", Quynh Chau said.
According to Chau, youth and beauty are advantages when going to work but can also be disadvantages for many girls. Many people, not only men but also women, have the prejudice of "long legs, short brains", thinking that beautiful girls cannot work or are beautiful just for show, implying that beautiful people have many ways to make money leisurely.
To Chau, that is a one-sided and insulting view, not based on an assessment of ability or work, but only on appearances to judge and label.
In a previous exchange program with students in Ho Chi Minh City, someone raised the question "are beautiful women good for pouring water to make tea, to be "bait" for contracts and exchanges?"
At that time, the most beautiful Miss Asia in 2009, Huong Giang, was not happy with this comparison. She replied: "Beautiful women are not for making tea or serving water."
Huong Giang does not deny that beautiful women have the advantage of being attractive and easily getting people’s attention no matter what they do. But much harder than attracting is convincing others that you can do it and can do it well.
When interacting, beautiful women or anyone can only make an impression for 3-5 minutes, what is important after that is the result, the value brought to each other in work. To achieve that, both sides must start with respect.
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