In recent days, many forums have shared the answer of a Chinese female teacher to a very familiar question: "What should you do when you already have a lover but meet someone better?"
Most of us have heard, choose the person who comes later because if you still love the person who comes first, the person who comes later will never have the chance to get close to you, becoming one of the things that makes you hesitate to choose.
However, this teacher's answer and analysis were very thorough, opening up a new perspective on a question that is already too familiar.
The answer represents the saying "if it's broken, fix it"
“Many people say that you should choose the latter, but I disagree with this because I never think that the feeling of vibration is love. We, at different stages of age and in work, will meet some people who make you vibrate. They make you feel like you have a better choice, they can make your monotonous love life more brilliant... But my friend, if you always want to choose a new love, you will never escape the spiral of this newness. Because vibration is instinct, loyalty is a choice. True love is something that can endure boredom, overcome the loneliness of ordinary days and last forever, take care of each other forever”.
The problem seemed to have been solved here, but people were still divided into 2 factions, even a 3rd faction: Choose no one.
In fact, all answers are relative, they are not exact answers, formulas for you to integrate your life or reference frames for your love. Because there will be many possibilities...
Illustration
When you already have a lover or husband and meet someone better, you will still be faithful if:
That person appears at the time when you and your partner are broken or you are bored. Sometimes this new person is not as good as you think, but they appear at the right time when you are bored and fill the void that you are in, you see them as good. In fact, that is the vibration, the temptation, not that the new is better than the old.
That person is better than your partner but not necessarily suitable for you. They are good in the general stereotype that many people see and they may not be good for you alone. And this is the misconception that you have met the right person, this is true love, destiny but no, it is just a test of your feelings and your partner's. That person is not the main male/female, they are just strangers passing through life.
When you already have a lover or husband and meet someone better, you will choose the next person if:
You are in a toxic relationship, in an unhappy, violent, and mean marriage. You can't find a way out, that man is only in name, he doesn't love or cherish you. When you are struggling in the quagmire of life, suddenly a hand reaches out to pull you up, it is very possible that this is someone who knows how to cherish you. The important thing is still the feeling, don't choose because he is a benefactor, the person who led you from darkness to light, you will choose to repay or because that is the choice that makes you feel safest.
That's when, thanks to that person's presence, you realize you've loved the wrong person, you've been stubborn. That person loves you in a different way, cherishes and protects you, teaches you what it means to love and be loved.
Illustration
When you already have a lover or husband and meet someone better, you don't necessarily have to choose anyone.
When turning left is a dead end, turning right is a slippery road, the best way is to go straight. There are relationships, whether in love or married, that have no future, no happiness, only trying to maintain because of some kind of obligation, then when a better person appears, you realize, they are really good but not something you should choose.
Life is sometimes so ironic. If you have been living in a mess for a long time and can only get out after a long time, then it is not necessary to enter a new relationship. Because there are people whose goodness is defined by how you feel at that time. And who knows, they might be just like the past of the person you chose at first. Isn't choosing now "avoiding the watermelon rind but encountering the coconut shell"?
So, don’t apply the answers on the internet even though you may find them very interesting. Because they are interesting to the speaker and the reader, but they may not be suitable for your situation. Listen to your heart and your mind, walking on a carpet, a pair of good and expensive shoes may not be as comfortable as walking barefoot.
Western guests praise Vietnamese cuisine
Source
Comment (0)