Breaking up with her boyfriend right after the debut, knowing the reason why the online community is enthusiastically supporting the girl

GĐXH - The girl answered her future mother-in-law frankly, did not stay to wash the dishes after the meal and announced her breakup with her boyfriend right after the introduction day. Knowing the reason, the entire online community was in full support.

Laughing and crying at the introduction meal

"Hello everyone, I'm a 25-year-old woman. My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 1.5 years. He's from Hanoi and I'm from the South. Our love story is pretty good. If there's a minus point, it's probably that my understanding of the Northern accent is a bit poor, so every time we talk, he has to speak slowly so I can keep up. We're both international students, we met and got to know each other abroad so we didn't have the chance to meet each other's families.

This time his parents came to visit, so I also dressed up, put on makeup, etc. in general, I was completely exhausted, then he drove me to his house. After hearing my greeting, the first thing his mother said was: "Oh, a girl from the South?" At this point, I sensed something bad was about to happen. During the conversation that day, besides not having anything to talk about, his mother kept mentioning his ex-girlfriend (who also studied abroad, lived near him and was a girl from the North), saying that she was pretty (oh, she was really pretty), that she was older so she was mature (1 year older than me), and that she spoke politely (hey, I mean I haven't said anything rude yet). They said they were acquaintances, but we broke up after a month. When we were about to leave, his mother said: "Come by tomorrow to help me prepare food to invite everyone over!" I said yes and left. I consider myself a good cook, and if I don't know how, as long as someone shows me, I learn very quickly, so I'm not too worried.

The next day he picked me up, around 9am (even though the party was at 5pm), his mother had just come back from the market. Before I could say hello, his mother smiled and said: "You only woke up this late to come over?" I was also feeling like I wanted to fight, but no, I reminded myself that they were adults, so if they said something I could hear, I would listen, if they didn't, I would ignore it and not use my gangster ways to argue. After that, I went straight to the kitchen to help his mother, of course there were things I didn't know how to do, his mother still showed me, I observed that his mother didn't seem upset so I felt a little relieved.

It was a party but there were only 6 people, and his mother made about a dozen dishes, so it took her and me nearly 4 hours to finish cooking, and then she asked me to help clean the house. My feeling at that time was that his mother wanted to test me to see if I knew how to do housework and cooking, but whatever, in general, if my girlfriend's mother asked me to do it, I would do it, otherwise...

And guess what happened? At around 4:30, a familiar face appeared - it was my ex-lover's sister. She came in, greeted me, hugged my ex-lover's mother, and then she told me to go to the front of the house to talk to my uncle. So she went up to sit on the chair and play with my ex-lovers while I was still holding the broom and sweeping the house, thinking about what had just happened. After sweeping the house, I went into his room to find some peace, then he came in and asked me what was wrong, why was he so angry, his mother loved his ex-lover so she invited him over, nothing more. I smiled so innocently: "Oh, ex-lover, not your mother, why did you invite me over? My son has a new lover and doesn't welcome him, but invites his ex-lover over. I'm lucky I haven't broken your broom yet, so I'm there to ask questions."

When everyone arrived, we started eating. I'm someone who usually eats very little (I have an eating disorder so I usually hate myself if I eat a lot), but because I cooked all day and then let that woman eat, I couldn't bear it so I put my eating disorder aside, I ate like a person who had been starved for 3 days. Whoever said I'm stubborn, I'll accept it, who in the world would cook for my lover's ex-girlfriend? The whole time, the two of them were stuck together like glue, my lover's mother even said why don't we go back to Vietnam to visit my lover's family and stuff...

At this point, I knew the end of this relationship, so when everyone was full, I asked permission to go home. My boyfriend's mother immediately asked: "Hey, where are you going? Aren't you staying to help clean up?" I couldn't stand it anymore so I calmly replied: "Whoever is eating and sitting around, clean up, I've been helping her all day, let me go home and take care of my own business". Then I looked at the other woman: "What are you doing sitting there for, go wash the dishes and help her". So my boyfriend's mother got angry and said I was rude, didn't know how to behave, ate my fill and didn't know how to help clean up. I took his car keys and walked out while his mother continued to scold me.

After that day, I broke up with him. He said his mother didn't like me because I didn't know what was good for me. Hearing that, I cursed him, like, "Who doesn't know how to behave with whom? Is it because the sun is too hot that you invited your ex-girlfriend over to eat, etc. It's like I didn't feel respected at all, so I didn't have to be polite to them! The last time I saw him was because I took his car home, so he had to take an Uber to get the car keys.

Through this story, I hope that girls will know their own worth, don't let anyone crush you. Besides, being in love when the other person's family doesn't like you is really a huge obstacle. I hope no girl has to go through that. And if they do, just fight, there's nothing to be afraid of, your parents didn't give birth to you to serve others. Be strong and step out of that relationship and find yourself a thoughtful, handsome boyfriend, and a family that respects others and treats you like their daughter. Okay!!!"

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Thousands of comments supporting the girl who "turned the car around"

The girl's story posted on NEU Confessions (a Facebook page that updates information for students of the National Economics University with many articles on social life topics that attract a lot of interactions) attracted tens of thousands of likes and nearly 4,000 comments.

Most of the comments supported the girl: "Oh my god, you are so strong", "I hope my daughter will be strong and independent like this in the future. Never give up", "That family is so bad. Congratulations on running away", "Strong and decisive. I hope you will find someone who loves and appreciates you", "I don't know what everyone else's opinion is, but for me, love is about fairness, harmonizing and cultivating happiness together. The type where you just met and called to test whether you know how to cook, know how to clean the house, are good at housework... bla... bla, forget it. Before, I dated my ex-boyfriend, he said this: 'If I date someone, I will test them a lot'. ... love, not a human resource recruiter, so you have to pass its tests before you can be my lover" ...

Many comments said that the girl was very smart and brave in handling the situation and deciding to break up with her boyfriend and his family. Some opinions also said that the girl should have come back earlier, at the time when her ex-lover arrived and then went to talk to her boyfriend's father. Besides praising the girl, many people criticized the boy, especially the mother, for behaving like that with her daughter's girlfriend. "In this day and age, future mothers-in-law are like that, it's over. Young people today, not in feudal times. If you don't know how to respect the other person, don't ask the other person to respect you. It's also a shame for the boy."

However, there are also some people who focus on the story of Northern girls, Southern girls, and Northern brides... When this story was shared on some other forums, many people also responded and frankly discussed that every region has this person and that person, don't bring that factor up for discussion. "I feel allergic when people mention regional factors because if we consider historical factors, we are all Vietnamese. So, don't judge according to a regional prejudice because society always has this person and that person. Just think simply, with those who you don't respect, just click Next and move forward, leaving behind those who, things that are not suitable for you", account Teresa Tran shared this opinion on the forum Humanistic Stories.

Not only young people support the girl, but in the interaction section on the NEU CFS Fanpage, there are also older parents who express their opinions. Huy Nguyen's account wrote: "Congratulations on your wise decision. This friend is used to family life, most likely doesn't realize the problem. And this is just the beginning, there will be other bigger disagreements later if the relationship continues. Disagreements can still be lived together, solved together but need to be based on respect and trust" . Vo Tien's account also supported the girl: "Oh my! Listening to you tell me, I'm not happy at all! If you didn't respect me at first, don't expect me to respect you back...! Bringing an ex-lover over was completely wrong. When you met me, you left in the morning, not waiting until the afternoon! The lover's mother is rude, the lover is the type to play both sides. The decision to leave was right" .

The story is still receiving a lot of attention from social media users, because this is something that any couple or family can encounter in a love relationship, getting closer to other members of their lover's family. The comment of the account Dang Thuy Duyen is also a thought-provoking statement: "I hope that mother reads this article, and her son also reads carefully every comment of everyone about how he treats his son's new lover, 1000 likes for his girlfriend. If this mother later has a granddaughter or daughter who is treated like that, it is truly the 'fruit law' ".

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Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/chia-tay-nguoi-yeu-ngay-sau-ngay-ra-mat-biet-ly-do-cong-dong-mang-ran-ran-ung-ho-co-gai-172250325173514918.htm