The whole family can breathe easy because the mother-in-law pampers her daughter-in-law to the fullest.

Nowadays, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is much "easier" than in the past - Photo: DUYEN PHAN

Having an only son, married for 4 years now, Ms. Nguyen Ngoc Mai (60 years old, living in District 7, Ho Chi Minh City) said that the relationship between her and her daughter-in-law is very good because she always… indulges her daughter-in-law.

Today's brides are very different.

Mrs. Mai's husband died early, and during the years her son studied abroad in Australia, she lived at home with a maid. When her son returned to work in Vietnam for a few years, he fell in love with a girl who was also the only daughter in a well-off family in Ho Chi Minh City.

Even though Mrs. Mai is living in a large garden villa in District 7, a spacious house with many rooms, when her son got married, the two children still decided to live separately.

Mrs. Mai bought her children a luxury apartment in District 4 (HCMC) for them to live together. Mrs. Mai said: "In my house, there is always a separate room for the two children, whenever they want to come home to play or stay, they can." She hired an interior designer to redesign the room according to her daughter-in-law's taste.

During the first weekend when her two children came to visit, Mrs. Mai was very surprised with her new daughter-in-law. Besides the fact that her daughter-in-law dressed very beautifully and very fashionably, she also did not know how to do anything, including peeling a garlic bulb.

After spending some more time with her, Mrs. Mai realized that her daughter-in-law had never done housework since she was little, so she didn't know how to do anything. When she got home, her mother-in-law only started peeling garlic. But Mrs. Mai praised her daughter-in-law, "Even though she really didn't know how to do anything, she always praised the maid and her mother's cooking."

Later when I came to visit, Mrs. Mai said she didn't ask me to do anything because my daughter-in-law didn't know how to do anything, now she was making me do it. The daughter-in-law's job before visiting her mother-in-law was to tell her mother-in-law what day she would visit and what she would like to eat.

There were times when my husband and I stayed over for the night, and it was like we had given her a big gift. Even though my daughter-in-law slept until noon in the morning, Mrs. Mai was still happy and now she thought, "That's how daughters-in-law are nowadays."

"If I'm happy and indulge my child, he'll still want to come over and play. If it keeps going like this, I might not even see my son," Mrs. Mai shared with a smile.

Happy daughter-in-law, happy son

Mrs. Nguyen Ngoc Khanh (69 years old, living in Go Vap District, Ho Chi Minh City) has lived with her youngest son and his wife for 10 years now. When her son got married, she took back all the rented house to build a big and beautiful house to welcome her new daughter-in-law.

Before, when she was a daughter-in-law in the countryside, she had a very hard life. From early morning, she had to get up to chop vegetables and cook a big pot of bran for the seven pigs that her husband's family was raising. She was a teacher, so after finishing her teaching job, she hurried home to cook for her husband's family, a total of nine people.

In the old days of famine, at mealtimes, she had to sit at the head of the pot to serve rice to everyone in her husband's family. Every time she was eating, she had to stop to serve the remaining eight people.

Mrs. Khanh is gentle and does all the work, but her mother-in-law is still not satisfied. When her mother-in-law finds the food delicious, she is happy. When her mother-in-law finds the food unappetizing, she is ready to say, "Why is your cooking so bad? Just concentrate when you cook."

Her daughter-in-law, although also from the countryside, came to the city to work, but on weekdays she wakes up around 7am. She puts on makeup, changes clothes, has breakfast, and then goes to work. On weekends, she can sleep until she wants to wake up.

Her job is to wake up early to exercise, then come home to cook breakfast for the whole family. After the children and grandchildren finish eating, she cleans up. In the afternoon, she cooks dinner and waits for the whole family to come home to eat.

Her daughter-in-law has given birth to two children, but she pays little attention to what her grandchildren eat. She cooks whatever she wants for them at home, but if not, her daughter-in-law takes them out to eat. She always finds today's daughters-in-law "strange", but because she likes to be near her son, she always tries her best to... indulge her.

Sometimes Mrs. Khanh also had some unpleasant things with her daughter-in-law, but did not dare to say anything. She often told her husband: "It is good that the daughter-in-law is willing to live with her parents-in-law. If she does not please her daughter-in-law, she might tell her son to move out and she will no longer have the opportunity to live with her son."

Some mothers-in-law today realize: "When the daughter-in-law is happy, the son will be happy. When the son is happy, the whole family is happy." This saying is also a guideline for many modern families today.

See daughter in law as daughter

Ms. Hoang Lan's family (50 years old, living in Phu Nhuan District, Ho Chi Minh City) has had a daughter-in-law for the past one or two years. She has two sons, so since having a daughter-in-law, Ms. Lan has always treated her daughter-in-law like a daughter. She does not find fault with her daughter-in-law or ask her to do anything beyond her ability. If her daughter-in-law does not know anything, she will guide and teach her wholeheartedly. She said: "My daughter-in-law works quite hard, and I also work, so I understand her."

Currently, her work is quite busy, but whenever she has free time, Mrs. Lan - a thoughtful mother-in-law - calls her daughter-in-law to take the whole family out to eat or she and her daughter-in-law go for coffee, shopping... The whole family often travels together happily according to the daughter-in-law's wishes.

What do you think about mothers-in-law spoiling their daughters-in-law? How have you spoiled your daughter-in-law to keep your family warm and happy? Or as a daughter-in-law, have you been spoiled by your husband's family? Please share your views and stories to the email address tto@tuoitre.com.vn. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.

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