We've been in love for three years, but because of work, we don't have much time together like other couples - Illustration: QUANG DINH
On holidays, it seems like the whole world joins together to congratulate me, but you ignore it. Coming home from work, passing by streets filled with flowers, but you consider it as other people's business and act indifferent, indifferent as if nothing happened.
I was sulking, no, more accurately, I felt sorry for myself. Because on holidays and anniversaries like March 8, October 20, even Valentine's Day February 14, my partners, friends, and even "satellites" around me would send me good wishes, flowers, and gifts. But the gifts from those around me were still not enough to fill the sadness that was growing inside me.
In three years of being together, except for birthdays, every holiday or anniversary, you and I would have a huge fight.
The reason is that he has no flowers, no gifts, and even saves congratulations to the girl he loves.
I remember one holiday we had a big argument, that time you didn't lower yourself to apologize to me like before, but let my anger reach its peak.
He insisted on his point of view that people only celebrate festivals following trends and do not like such a grandiose way of organizing them.
That he doesn't like giving gifts on holidays. When in love, happiness is simply treating each other well, creating joy when together, eating delicious food together, then everyday is no different from a holiday.
We have been in love for three years, but due to work, we don’t have much time together like other couples. So I think that the holidays are an opportunity for words of love to turn into actions, adding more spice to love. No need for a big gift, just a simple wish is enough, as long as the other person remembers and truly wants to nurture the love.
But you made me sad and doubt myself, you didn't even give me flowers or gifts, so what can I expect from a proposal with a wedding ring? We love each other but you take the holiday lightly, don't show your sincerity, what will happen after marriage?
"Do women need to be given gifts and have gifts to be happy?". To me, that is true, but still not enough.
Being financially independent, when in love, I like to share with the person I love. When we go on dates, I cleverly choose to "share" the finances so that he doesn't feel burdened or pressured by money.
I'm not a "material determines consciousness" girl or the type of girl who is a "gold digger" as people often call.
I love myself, so I can give myself anything I like. Friends and partners around me also have no shortage of flowers and gifts for me.
But you know, as a woman, I also eagerly wait for a gift from my lover every holiday. Receiving a gift filled with love and longing, only then will the girl you love feel the sparkle of happiness. Joy multiplies from simple things like that.
I still choose to stay by your side, after all the times we argued. You still love me, in the simple way you choose. But the difference is that I no longer expect joy from you during the holidays.
March 8th is coming, I have ordered a lipstick with a satisfactory color, and a pair of small pretty earrings to decorate my charming dress.
Maybe men will "win", including you, that you have "assimilated" women, so that they can adapt to not asking for flowers or gifts on holidays. That way there will be no more worries or concerns about what flowers or gifts to give.
But men, you know, once women choose to make themselves happy, it means their hearts have given way to the most important thing, which is to love themselves above all else.
I am afraid that after the woman's hurt, resentment, even hiding her tears after the holiday, the distance between love will loosen even more. At that time, no matter how much you want to patch it up, it will only leave unhealed patches!
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