Young people work hard to earn money, old people retire and don't necessarily get to rest!

After a hard-working youth, many people feel tired and want to leave the hustle and bustle of life and retire early. However, we need to make specific plans for our retirement years to ensure a happy, joyful and peaceful life.

The truth is that many people think that retirement will be a leisurely life, no longer busy and stressful. However, in reality, many elderly people are stuck in a familiar vicious cycle with the following 4 situations, happily or reluctantly accepting is up to each person to decide.

1. Become a nanny to take care of your children and grandchildren

Many people think that when they retire early, they will have a lot of time to live freely and comfortably, as well as travel and relax after years of hard work earning money and raising their children.

But in reality, many elderly people have to become nannies to take care of their grandchildren because they are still young and their parents are too busy with work.

Many people love their children and know that their children have a lot of pressure in life, having to shoulder the monthly debt to buy a house, buy a car, etc., so they proactively take responsibility for taking care of their grandchildren and come to live with them to help with the old people's work.

Besides, to reduce the pressure on their children, many people also use their retirement money to subsidize their families, helping their children share the burden.

But many old people think differently, they hope to have time to rest after many years of hard work. They want to travel everywhere, have more time for themselves instead of spending a lot of time taking care of their children and grandchildren.

However, due to love for their children and social pressure, many elderly people still choose to take care of their grandchildren without complaining.

They spend most of their time and energy every day taking care of their children and grandchildren without any salary or compensation.

Their daily schedule is just as busy as when they go to work, regularly taking their children to school during the day, helping them with homework in the evening, and doing a lot of housework and other unnamed tasks.

It can be said that parents' love for their children is boundless, however, as they age, older people are more likely to have health problems. Therefore, children need to remember to always care, love and take care of their parents, and not argue all the time, making their parents worry.

2. Feeling lonely when losing contact with social relationships

Retirement life will become richer and more colorful when the elderly actively connect and participate in community activities.

Or simply the elderly just need to gather together to chat, play chess for entertainment,... will make each passing day fun and valuable.

But in reality, after only three years of retirement, I was startled to realize that even though I had freedom, I was not very happy. Because my old friends and colleagues had gradually lost contact. People were no longer proactive in sharing and talking to each other, and gradually my social connections were also narrowed.

I used to think that just talking to my children every day would be enough to make me happy, but the children are too busy with work. Every day they leave early and come home late, not having much time for the family.

The gradual loss of social relationships makes the elderly feel lonely and bored.

3. Retire but not rest

Instead of choosing to rest when retiring, many people think they are still healthy so they look for other jobs to earn extra income.

Popular jobs that many elderly people are interested in include: security guard, cleaning staff, nanny,...

Many people ask, do retirees who do not retire really love working? In fact, not everyone likes working when they are old, they are just working hard to reduce the burden on their children.

But there are also people who really love working, they are used to a busy life, now staying at home suddenly feel bored, have free time and want to find a job to get by.

However, the elderly also need to pay attention to their health, not overwork to always be happy and full of energy.

4. Family conflict

Retirement is an important turning point in life, the stage of starting a "new life".

Many people when they are still working have little time with their family, cannot live with their children so they want to retire so that the whole family can reunite and gather together.

However, after getting old and living with children, due to unfamiliarity and disagreements in lifestyle and lifestyle, arguments occur. And this makes the family discordant, disunited and no longer happy.

A typical example of family conflict is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law likes to shop online because it is convenient and has better prices, so she receives many delivery orders every day.

However, the mother-in-law does not understand this. She thinks that her daughter-in-law spends money lavishly, does not know how to save and manage her money. Over time, conflicts and arguments will arise, ruining the happy atmosphere of the family.

For the elderly, family conflicts will seriously affect the quality of life as well as physical and mental health.

Moreover, over time many people will feel lonely, helpless, think too much leading to depression,...

So, in this situation, the elderly should take some space for themselves and enjoy a happy life. Don’t always restrain your children according to your old way of thinking, but let them live freely and happily so that the whole family can gather together warmly.

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