Happy people often share these 3 traits as children

GĐXH - Which children are more likely to grow up to be happy? is a question that experts from Harvard University have been trying to answer for 75 years.

In 1938, Alex Burke - Chairman of the Department of Medicine at Harvard University proposed a research plan to decode the ''secret of human happiness''.

Accordingly, experts followed 724 men from different backgrounds for 75 years. These people were divided into 2 groups: Group 1 were students at Harvard University, group 2 were people with difficult circumstances living in Boston.

Over the course of 75 years, the study has gone through four directors and cost $20 million to complete.

Over time, the 724 men who participated in the study grew up, got married, became successful, and developed according to their own choices. Some became successful businessmen and engineers, while others struggled and "couldn't find a way out."

Research from Harvard University shows that people who have harmonious relationships with family, friends, colleagues, etc. often have healthier bodies and feel happier. Illustration photo

Ultimately, the results of the study showed that a person's happiness is not related to education, status, fame or wealth, but depends on the following three factors:

1. Good social skills and strong social connections

In everyday life, many people often say that children with good social skills often have a pretty good future.

This is because humans are always social, once entering society, social activities are inevitable.

Under normal circumstances, people with good social skills are often able to establish closer connections with the individuals around them.

That will become the premise for having more connections, finding ways to solve more problems, achieving more positive influences in the process of growing up and developing later.

Not only that, what's even more interesting is that children with strong social skills are healthier and more active as they age.

In contrast, children with poor social skills after middle age appear to be relatively lonely, with rapid decline in physical function, especially brain function.

2. Quality of relationships

In this study, Harvard University found that what determines human happiness is not the number of relatives, but the quality of the relationships we have.

For example, some people have friends all over the world, but they have no connection in interests, feelings, and cannot talk to each other, so they still feel lonely normally.

On the contrary, some people only have 1-2 friends but they are close, care and share with each other, so the feeling of happiness is much higher.

Therefore, when guiding children to establish their first personal relationships, parents should help them realize the nature of human interaction.

It is about making both of you feel comfortable, happy and at ease, rather than maintaining a poor quality relationship.

A child's socially sensitive period occurs mainly between the ages of 2 and 6. How a child makes friends at this stage will lay the foundation for making friends later.

During this stage, children should participate in more social activities, encourage them to actively communicate, teach them to share and cooperate, lead by example, patiently guide, and improve their good social skills.

As parents, we not only want our children to achieve something in the future, but also want them to be happy. What happens when achievement and happiness conflict with each other? How should we choose? Should we sacrifice our children's happiness for achievement or should we cling to uncertain achievements and sacrifice happiness?

Not knowing what your choice is, but on the basis of ensuring their children's happiness, many people will try their best to guide their children to explore their potential and strive to achieve their own achievements, not in comparison with anyone else.

Because happiness can make children happy and keep their minds in a positive state, making it easier for them to concentrate and work more effectively. A child with a happy heart will have more courage to face life's challenges and more confidence to pursue their dreams.

For the happiness of their children, parents should be aware of preserving and maintaining their marital relationship, setting a good example for their children from an early age. Illustrative photo

3. Be loved and cared for

In addition to the above two characteristics, researchers also have a great discovery: If a person is still aware of the love and care of those around them, they will live more optimistically and healthily.

Some people live well into their 80s with excellent memory. Others, on the other hand, feel they have no one to rely on and suffer from memory loss.

Researchers explain that when we establish an intimate relationship with someone we love, we will receive love, understanding and tolerance from the other person.

In this case, both sides always have a very harmonious and compatible living atmosphere, bringing positive effects whether mentally or physically.

Therefore, finding the right partner to always be with, care for and love each other is also an extremely important thing in everyone's life, it is even the most important choice.

Besides, a warm parent-child relationship constantly brings us joy, satisfaction and security, making us happier and happier in life.

Therefore, for the future happiness of our children, we must try our best to maintain a warm parent-child relationship, so that this love and warmth will accompany them throughout their lives.

Through the three characteristics above, we can find one thing in common, which is that children who grow up happily can establish closer relationships with friends, lovers or relatives.

As parents, if you want your children to grow up with this trait, you must help them establish "healthy relationships" from an early age.

Only when children feel joy and satisfaction from getting along with others from their parents will they be full of hope and courage, face the outside environment with a more positive attitude and participate in more appropriate social activities.

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