If you want your children to be happy, parents must teach them 3 things.

GĐXH - If you want your children to be happier, parents can refer to the advice from famous experts below.

When it comes to parenting advice, Arthur Brooks, a professor at Harvard University, and Laurie Santos, a professor at Yale University, did a study on children's happiness.

Through research, they found that happy children grow up to have a higher chance of success, good work performance, and improved social relationships compared to their peers.

When parents are happy, children are happy too. Illustration photo

Here are some of the best tips Brooks and Santos share for parents on how to raise happy kids.

Teach your children to be positive influencers because happiness is contagious

Brooks and Santos both agree that happiness is contagious. When parents are happy, children are happy.

In the Harvard Business Review, Brooks said the number one problem he sees in families is the spread of negativity.

This teaches each of us to do the opposite, to try to inject the “happy virus” into our families and to do it intentionally.

According to research, contagion applies to all emotions. That's why parents should behave healthily if they want their children to do the same.

"For better or worse, parents have a huge impact on their children's emotions and anxiety levels," says Santos.

If parents feel anxious about their children's grades or social relationships, children will carry that anxiety into their lives.

Managing anxiety and practicing a little self-compassion — including taking time off work to relieve stress in your personal life — can really help.

Teaching children that negative emotions are normal

"Sometimes we get sad, anxious, frustrated, whatever. These are all very normal things. These things cause difficulties for adults and can be especially difficult for children," Professor Santos shared.

When seeing their children in unhappy situations, parents often rush to cheer them up by telling jokes, promising to take them shopping for gifts, giving them candy or a new toy.

These temporary solutions do not completely resolve the child's negative emotions. In fact, this inadvertently teaches parents how to avoid negative emotions.

Prepare children for the problems they may encounter, with the level of danger appropriate to their age. Illustration photo

Teach children not to fear the world

The world is full of negativity but if parents try to prepare their children for every worst case scenario, they run the risk of scaring them.

“ That won’t keep kids safe, it will make them anxious and less likely to succeed,” says Professor Brooks.

In a related 2021 psychology study published in The Atlantic, Brooks said: "Children also tend to dislike their jobs and perform worse than their peers."

Brooks suggests preparing children for the problems they may encounter, with age-appropriate levels of danger.

Parents can teach their children not to get in a stranger's car home without making them fearful of strangers in all situations.

" Parents shouldn't teach their children that the world is scary and full of dangers," Brooks said. "Instead, they should teach their children to have faith in the future, that there are good people and that things will get better."

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