While dating apps struggle to charge for love, many people continue to use these apps even though they don't have high expectations of finding a serious relationship. And many people use the apps just to 'show off'.
Many young people still use dating apps even though they don't have high expectations about finding a serious relationship - Photo: MAY TRANG
Whenever she has free time or on weekend nights, Cam Thanh (29 years old, living in Thu Duc City) often goes on dating apps to find people to talk to.
Spend money to upgrade dating app but still not satisfied
Every day after work, she takes the opportunity to eat, shower, and jump into bed to relieve stress from work by going on the Tinder app (dating app).
Thanh admits that she is in the final stages of marriageable age. She says that now no one in her hometown wants to introduce her to a matchmaker anymore.
"A few years ago, I was still diligent in going to coffee shops and asking friends to take eye-catching photos for me. Then I would edit them to use as my profile picture on dating apps," Thanh said.
Now she only posts pictures of cats and flowers. If anyone is curious and swipes right on her profile and matches, Thanh will actively initiate a conversation.
A few years ago, when new dating apps appeared in Vietnam, she and her friends were eager to download them and try them out.
"If I don't have a chance to find a lover in real life, I'll rely on technology to see if it can change my luck," she said, laughing.
However, after more than a year of use and spending a lot of money to upgrade her account, she was still not satisfied.
"It took a lot of time, effort, and investment. I also met more than a dozen times with many different people, but I couldn't find the right person."
Unable to find a suitable person on a dating app, Thanh Nguyen (28 years old, living in Binh Chanh district) said that some of her friends got married thanks to the matchmaking of dating apps.
However, Nguyen thinks the rate of getting married is very low, because not everyone is so lucky.
"I still keep the dating app on my phone, but turn off notifications. I only go in there when I'm really free and reply to messages," Nguyen said.
She herself no longer expects any magical love to happen thanks to dating apps.
Go out and socialize, find your dream person instead of using dating apps - Photo: WHITE CLOUD
Go on a dating app to "show off"
In a stressful life, chatting with strangers and sharing funny stories helps many people reduce stress and create moments of relaxation.
But for VT (26 years old), dating apps are both a place to "practice" flirting skills and a place where one-night-stand relationships begin.
"Just take care of your image, create a profile and flirt a little bit and you can find a partner," he said.
Having experienced a one-night stand found on a dating app, T. admitted that he didn't care much about the other person's information.
T. said: "Many new users of the app may be shocked by the blunt offers of one-night stands."
Meanwhile, NH (27 years old, living in Binh Thanh district) used dating apps after several failed attempts at "flirting" in real life.
For H., the online environment is an easy opportunity to chat and get to know others without having to face direct pressure.
"At first, I wanted to experience and be more confident when talking to girls. Just a few nice photos and an attractive introduction line and I would have a compatible person," he shared.
After a few months of getting to know each other, H. quickly realized that these applications also opened up quick relationships.
He can easily get online dates without much personal information, just post cool, beautiful photos.
According to him, dating apps do not seem to be the ideal place to find true love. He believes that the longer you go on, the more superficial the relationships you find on these apps become, temporary and "one night only".
After many meetings, H. felt tired of this type of relationship. He wanted a true love.
"Using dating apps is fun, but I still hope to meet that special someone without using the app," he confided.
VT also believes that dating apps are no longer as popular as when they first appeared, but they are unlikely to disappear. Because there is still a high demand for them, but not necessarily to find love.
T. saw some young people "posting" pictures on it for many different purposes. Especially girls working in bars, often use the trick of inviting acquaintances through the app to the workplace to earn commission from food and alcohol money.
Some also use it to invite followers for their personal Facebook, Instagram pages...
"Their pictures are very eye-catching. When you match, they will tell you to follow them on social media platforms to chat safely. But then they disappear," T. said.
According to Cam Thanh, happiness is hard to come by through virtual relationships online. If you have the chance, you should invest in nurturing real-life relationships through friends and relatives.
Sharing too much personal information on these apps can lead to fraud or privacy violations.
Besides, looking at the other person's glamorous image and comparing it to yourself can cause pressure about appearance and low self-esteem.
Source: https://tuoitre.vn/luot-app-hen-ho-de-phong-bat-chang-mong-tim-duoc-tinh-yeu-dich-thuc-20241026095324161.htm
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