What to do when your child has a "puberty crisis"?

Since her son entered 8th grade, Ms. Le Tam (Ha Tinh City) seems to have more worries and concerns than before. Less than a year ago, her son was still a humorous, mischievous boy, always close and affectionate with his mother, often sharing with her happy and sad stories in class, and problems with friends.

During puberty, children need to be oriented to live, learn and play in healthy environments. Photo by Thien Vy .

However, when he entered 8th grade, along with the remarkable changes in height and weight, the boy's personality also changed completely. He no longer whispered to his mother or "clinged" to her as much as before. Sometimes, he even got angry for no reason, and had quite harsh reactions when his parents criticized or gave him advice - something that Ms. Tam had never seen in her obedient son since he was a child.

Ms. Tam shared: “I am really worried because I feel like my child is getting further and further away from his parents, and is no longer emotionally attached to them as before. Every day, I find it more and more difficult to understand my child!”

Ms. Thu Hang (Thach Ha) has a more “difficult” problem with her 9th grade daughter, who already has a boyfriend. When she discovered her daughter’s affectionate, loving messages with her 11th grade boyfriend, she was shocked.

Unable to control their anger, the couple interrogated and used harsh, insulting words on their daughter. Contrary to her prediction that her daughter would admit her mistake and give up on love to focus on studying, her daughter reacted violently and argued back with her parents.

The girl said that it was her privacy, and her parents were not allowed to infringe upon it. Since then, every time she came home from school, she would close her room door as a form of “revenge”. With a hot-tempered nature, Ms. Hang’s husband could not keep calm in the face of his daughter’s behavior, and the family atmosphere became increasingly tense, and she and her child could not find a common voice.

Parents' care and companionship during puberty is the luggage for children to confidently step into life.

Stories about children in their adolescence make many parents have headaches. Scientific research has shown that puberty is when children enter a period of great physical change, followed by complex psychological changes.

Children begin to explore themselves, are curious about gender; they are more independent in their thinking and have their own opinions. This is a sensitive stage of development, so children are at high risk of psychological disorders such as: stress, anxiety, depression, sadness and happiness for no reason, irritability, like to express and assert their own ego, and have a tendency to "rebellion"...

To help their children overcome this crisis, what should parents do? Discussing this issue, Dr. Nguyen Van Hoa, a psychologist (Ha Tinh University), said that first of all, parents must spend time and attention to understand their children's physical and psychological changes. Detect abnormalities and difficulties that their children are facing in order to encourage and accompany them to overcome those difficulties.

Along with that, parents need to equip their children with basic knowledge about gender, friendship, love, and skills to handle situations that may arise in life to protect themselves. Guide children to stay away from negative things and bad information; encourage children to participate in healthy social activities, exercise, and sports...

“Parents should not treat their children as children and use contemptuous and insulting words when they make mistakes. Instead, they should respect their opinions and interests, accept their suggestions and resolve things within acceptable limits. Be friends with your children so that they always feel understood and accompanied by their parents during the crisis of puberty. That will be the luggage for them to be more confident when entering life” - Dr. Nguyen Van Hoa emphasized.

Source: https://baohatinh.vn/lam-gi-khi-con-khung-hoang-tuoi-day-thi-post286256.html