There is a type of mothering that seems good at first glance but actually causes difficulties for the child.

GĐXH - Any mother wants to give all her love to her children. But in reality, there are ways that mothers raise their children that can cause lifelong psychological disabilities.

"What's wrong with you? Why don't you listen to me?"

"Mom, can I play with my friends for a while?" "No."

"You haven't finished your homework yet, does it look good?"

Hien Hien's mother is very strong, not only very strict with her children but also strict with her husband.

Therefore, Hien Hien's father rarely argued with her mother. It seemed like they never argued with each other, her father did what her mother wanted.

When Hien Hien was little, due to her curiosity, she often wanted to find an unconventional answer, but her mother always controlled her, "You're not allowed to have that answer, you're not allowed to have that answer."

Perhaps the mother has a habit of being a leader, always wanting others to obey her words, so she applies that thinking in the way she raises her children.

Now, every time Hien Hien comes home, she quietly does her homework and listens to all her mother's orders.

The little girl seems to have learned her father's "perfectionist" nature from her mother, so now she and her mother rarely argue.

When parents control their children too much, they can cause unwanted harm to their children. Illustration photo

A psychologist said: He once counseled a client who was a young man with good economic conditions. He had fallen in love five or seven times, each time very deeply at first, but after a long time, he felt that the other person was too strong and put too much pressure on him, so he finally chose to break up.

Analyzing the cause from his background, the psychologist found that: This young man's mother is also very strong, making many decisions to help her son, even though he may not like it.

In the process of growing up like this, the young man gets used to being dependent. When he falls in love, he is both fascinated by this type of "love" and wants to escape from being controlled.

He ended up floundering between two states of mind, neither relationship working out.

Mothers like the above will take good care of their children's lives and think that just making their children materially satisfied is enough.

They do not listen and do not care about their children's real needs, just want to arrange everything in the hope that their children will grow up and develop according to the mold they expect.

Children in this family will work very hard to meet their mother's expectations, hoping to receive her attention and appreciation. But they also often have a fearful, anxious and dissatisfied mentality with family life.

When children receive support they don't want, they feel inferior to their peers and lack self-confidence.

Psychologist Wendy Mogel, author of parenting books, says growing up with controlling and overprotective parents will cause children to struggle and fail in life.

When children are controlled and imposed on by their parents too much, they easily lose confidence in life. Children do not feel empathy, are disappointed when their parents lack trust, easily become sullen, and limit sharing and communication. Improving such a relationship can be very difficult.

In particular, they lack the determination and courage to challenge themselves in the face of opportunities in life.

Experts say that controlling children too much will make them afraid of everything and limit their ability to learn soft skills. Illustration photo

Controlling will make children become dependent, gradually losing the ability to make decisions, solve problems or take responsibility for their own actions.

The most negative impact of over-controlling children is psychological impact, causing anxiety and depression.

Not only that, excessive control can easily affect thinking, creating habits and deviant lifestyles when children grow up.

Excessive restraint also prevents children from experiencing life and lacking practical knowledge.

Therefore, no matter how strong and decisive a woman you are, when you are with your child, be gentler, don't let your child feel that you are not close to them or cold, because simply, they are not your employees.

When the mother in the house is too strong, leading to the father being weak, this makes the image of the father no longer have the strength and courage that a man should have, thus unable to create a strong image for the child to look up to and consciously pursue that spirit.

A good mother will enlighten her child, so that he can find a direction in life, see himself, the world and all creatures with eyes full of love and compassion,...

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