'Relatives make off-topic comments, which are harmless or reveal family matters. I limit the number of viewers so that the family group doesn't read them to avoid inconvenience.'
Parents always want to connect closely with their children, even on Facebook and Zalo, but sometimes it makes their children hesitant - Photo: MAY TRANG
That is what Duy shared when reading the article Not only talking timidly, children also block their parents' Facebook to keep the peace. Many readers expressed that there should be privacy and respect for children on social networks.
Set limit on who can see your posts on Facebook
Mr. Duy thinks that if you don't get along with strangers online, you can argue and unfriend them. But doing the same with relatives would be considered rude.
According to him, young people can use the feature to limit others from viewing their Facebook status. He does not block or lock the friend feature with relatives, but his Facebook is mainly for friends outside of his family.
He said that there were times when he posted a status and relatives commented on irrelevant, innocuous things or revealed family matters. Therefore, he limited the number of viewers so that no one in the family group could read it, to avoid trouble.
Young people today have many hobbies of their own, and are afraid of their parents following them on Facebook - Photo: WHITE CLOUD
"Family text message groups, mainly adults gossip and text all day about things that have nothing to do with them.
There's nothing wrong with blocking notifications to focus on work. If there's a party or something, just mark it as visible," he shared.
Reader An shared that some parents think that they want the best for their children, so they closely monitor their children on Facebook. While their children are chatting with friends online, their parents come in to remind them. At that time, all their friends, teachers, relatives, neighbors... on Facebook will know.
"That's not worth it, it's not showing love. That's ego, thinking of yourself as a good parent, always caring for your child," he commented. Mr. An advised adults to put themselves in their child's shoes to understand the feeling of being reminded like that.
According to him, loving and advising children must be done skillfully, in the right place, at the right time. And we should not use the name of love to tie them down and put them in a difficult situation.
According to Ms. Minh Thu, it is difficult for young people and their parents to find a common voice on social networks. Young people have different trends, words, and ways of expressing themselves than older people.
She said she was bored with the food at the restaurant the day before so she bought sticky rice for breakfast. She took a funny photo and posted it on Facebook complaining about her poverty and hardships.
My aunt in the countryside commented and encouraged me that my circumstances were not as good as my friends', so I needed to try harder...
In fact, in many cases, children block their parents on Facebook just to prevent them from seeing their private thoughts, not to deny their parents' attention. "In any case, you should consider the situation carefully, don't rush to judge," Thanh Tung advised.
Sympathizing, Ms. Lan said that her Gen Z colleagues shared that their parents scolded them for posting Facebook posts that they did not like. She also scolded them for posting photos of herself wearing slightly revealing clothes.
"She is filial, loves her parents very much, is obedient and polite... but still blocks her parents when posting. Young people today are different from the past. Trust your children and don't impose old standards on them," she wrote.
Many reasons why parents and children do not get along on Facebook
Living with her daughter who is in college and two grandchildren, Ms. hanh****@gmail.com (48 years old) has concluded many reasons why children avoid and distance themselves from their grandparents and parents.
"Children are adults, but many families still care too much, supervise them so strictly that they are confined and lose their freedom. Children cannot stand it and react," she said.
On the contrary, many families do not pay enough attention to their children from a young age. In some homes, children are closer to the maid than their parents. Parents work from morning to night, some come home and then go out drinking, looking for their own pleasure...
Some people take work home or take on extra work because they are worried about their future. "Parents don't have time to meet, talk to their children, ask about their studies or provide necessary education. They don't care to share the joys, sorrows, or difficulties their children encounter."
This reader advised parents to teach their children about love, responsibility, and to set an example for them. "There are children who are so lonely at home that they have to go out and go online to find joy, comfort, encouragement, and help..."
She shared: "Don't want your child to be like you. What you think is good is not necessarily good for your child. Just because you are old, earn a lot of money, have fame and position doesn't mean you know everything, everything you do is right. And there are some knowledge and experiences that are outdated."
An said he was from the older generation but his 20-year-old nephew was close to him. He asked his parents to let him go out. He respected and encouraged him.
He wrote: "I see you as a friend, I don't interfere with your choices, as long as you're interested. I know that cake is terrible, you want to eat it so I don't stop you. If you try it and it's bad, you'll find something else to eat."
I failed a subject, he consoled me that it was okay. "I also failed a few subjects in college, but you should ask your friends when to take them again. Studying alone is boring," he encouraged me.
He advised parents that in addition to accompanying their children, they should not tell others about their children's affairs. "Because when it spreads, that will be the last time you hear your children share."
Children are indifferent when their parents call but they do not answer the phone.
According to Ms. Minh Thu, when parents contact or call, children need to listen. That is not a disagreement, but a lack of care. If they get sick or have an accident on the road and call but their children do not answer, isn't that the ultimate misfortune?
If you fall down at home alone and your child doesn't pick up, isn't that heartbreaking? "We can stop communicating on social media, but we can't ignore each other in communication."
Reader Nguyen Minh Chau believes that having parents' care is a great happiness. "Some people have more than they can eat, others have more than they can give. Many orphans wish they had their parents' care..."
Source: https://tuoitre.vn/chan-het-facebook-cha-me-ho-hang-khoi-binh-luan-qua-lai-lo-het-chuyen-rieng-tu-20241208204630401.htm
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