Photo of two children in the middle of the market makes many parents startled

GĐXH - In the middle of a bustling market full of adults, these two children have become the most "special" scene.

There was once a story that attracted attention on Chinese social networks:

Early in the morning, at a bread shop in Qingdao, an 11-year-old boy was busy rolling dough despite the cold weather.

The 11-year-old boy was engrossed in rolling dough despite the cold weather.

He wore a mask and apron, kneading dough skillfully like a "master chef". His 6-year-old sister next to him also helped at the counter like him.

In the middle of a bustling market full of adults, this little boy became the most "special" scene.

It was a holiday, other children were sleeping and playing at home but these two children still woke up at 3 or 4 in the morning to help their parents.

Four years have passed but the two children have never delayed their studies.

The 6-year-old girl also helps at the counter like him.

The boy got 3 A's in his final exam, which is usually good. He rarely plays with his cell phone and focuses more on reading, reading one book a day.

Talking about his future dreams, his eyes sparkled: "When I grow up, I will study medicine. Ideally, I should be a military doctor."

When asked if he was jealous of his classmates who had fun on their day off, the boy frankly said that he was "not very jealous" because everyone's circumstances were different.

When asked why he didn't sleep at home, he said he couldn't sleep well because he always thought about his parents' hard work and "helping them is more important than playing".

From a young age, he was able to sympathize with his parents and was willing to sacrifice his rest time, leaving his comfortable bed to go to the market to help. Not all children can do this.

Children "raised in a cage" are unlikely to be successful when they grow up.

Children today are less independent and self-reliant than previous generations. Fewer children walk alone to school, ride their bikes around the neighborhood, or help their parents with chores.

According to The Wall Street Journal, in the US, parents can be charged if they let their children go out or play without supervision.

However, overprotecting children leads to unpredictable consequences.

Overprotective parents can create a child who is not prepared to deal with life's events on their own terms.

Children become so accustomed to their parents making plans and cleaning up the messes they make that they feel helpless when faced with small challenges, let alone major obstacles.

If children feel suffocated by their parents' overprotectiveness, they may start lying.

Overprotective parents can create a child who is not prepared to deal with life's events on their own. Illustration photo

If children feel unable to cope with the pressure of unrealistic expectations or strict rules, they may distort the truth to manipulate outcomes and change their parents' expected responses.

If children are constantly looking to their parents for comfort and protection, they may not develop the self-esteem needed to stand up for themselves.

If you do everything for your child (from basic chores to completing schoolwork), your child may begin to expect you to do other simple things that they can and should do themselves. Instead of taking on new challenges, your child will wait for someone else to handle the problem.

If you prevent children from doing things that may have negative consequences but are relatively harmless, they may become afraid to try new things. They may worry that they will be hurt or rejected and end up avoiding experiences.

Previous generations had many childhood memories of carefree bike rides or playing cards with other kids in the neighborhood without their parents "following" them around. But today, everything has changed with the worries of parents.

In general, getting your child to be independent outside the home can be a big challenge for many parents. However, Anne Marie Albano, director of a mental health clinic in New York, reminds parents that the ultimate goal is for their child to be independent when they leave home for college or the workforce.

“If your child doesn’t do chores today, don’t be surprised if they have trouble getting along with their co-workers later,” says Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How To Raise An Adult and a Stanford University alumna.

In a TED Talk, Lythcott-Haims emphasized that the transformation from a diligent child to a successful adult all started with doing housework.

When a child is taught to do chores by his parents, he will grow up to be a person who can cooperate with his colleagues. When faced with difficulties, he will know how to solve problems and tend to complete things independently.

A 75-year study by Harvard University also found groundbreaking findings about the factors that drive human happiness.

One of those factors is that people who do a lot of housework in childhood are happier later in life.

"By making children do chores like taking out the trash or folding clothes, they will realize that they need to work to be a part of life," says Lythcott-Haims.

Lythcott-Haims also shared that she raised her two children as if they were fragile bonsai trees. When she wanted to prune them, she always made sure not to affect the beauty of the tree.

But over time, she realized that children are not ornamental plants, they are very vulnerable.

Children are like wild flowers and she will raise them in a way that they can grow and flourish on their own without her being there.

When a child is taught by his parents to do housework, he will know how to solve problems in the future and tend to complete things independently. Illustration photo

Children will grow up to be filial, parents will be at ease in old age

Children's filial piety is often revealed from a young age. Parents can see this through their children's daily behavior.

Take the initiative to help your parents

Nowadays, children's living conditions are relatively comfortable. Many families have maids or nannies to take care of the children and the children only need to sit and play with their toys.

When parents are busy, they just want their children to not bother them. They do not expect their children to help with housework.

Many parents do not dare let their children do housework because they are worried about safety, damage to furniture, etc.

Besides the inattentive children, there are some children who are very attentive when their parents are busy and will proactively help within their ability.

Even though sometimes I am a bit slow and can't help my parents much. But for them, this is the happiest and sweetest thing. Because I know how to think and care for my parents.

Know empathy

A child who is empathetic from an early age and thinks of others before thinking of personal interests is one of the signs that he or she will be a filial child in the future.

According to psychologists, empathetic children will often show love to their parents and people around them.

Therefore, the future will be children that parents can rely on when they are old.

On the contrary, for children who lack empathy, are selfish and only care about their own interests, it will be very difficult to know how to show filial piety.

Parents should accompany and guide their children to learn good character to help them have a better future.

According to psychologists, empathetic children will be the ones their parents can rely on in their old age. Illustrative photo

Care when parents are sick

When parents are sick, some children may initially take good care of them, but then they start to feel tired and irritable. They feel that their parents are affecting their work.

"Because mom is sick, I can't go out", "Because dad is sick, I have to turn off the TV so he can sleep",... - some children may think like that. Although they still take care of their parents, they become more irritable.

On the contrary, if children can patiently take care of their parents without complaining, they are truly filial.

When parents get old, they don't have to worry because their children are very filial and will definitely take good care of their parents.

Gratitude

Gratitude is also considered one of the factors that show whether a child is filial to his parents and relatives or not.

When children grow up in a loving family with full care, they often think that this is obvious.

Parents should guide and teach their children about the importance of gratitude from the smallest things as well as knowing how to say the two words "thank you" and "sorry" at the right time and in the right context.

Rarely make unreasonable demands

Some children often make unreasonable demands on their parents.

If parents cannot buy what they want, they will react in the opposite way and can cause many other problems.

This may be a manifestation of children who are overly spoiled by their parents. From there, they will develop a mentality of getting whatever they want.

If they don't get it, they will look to their parents for help rather than having the will to strive to achieve it themselves.

On the contrary, children who rarely make demands beyond their parents' capabilities can grow up to be filial and obedient children.

Moreover, they also have understanding, care and share with the circumstances of their family and those around them.

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