My boyfriend and I were in the same class at university. We have been in love for almost 4 years now. After graduating from university, we both have relatively good jobs, and our families are well-matched, so I think now is the right time to get married.
While I was very excited about getting married, my boyfriend told me to consider and think carefully because this is a major event in life. The reason he said that was because during our relationship, we were very compatible, had a lot of affection for each other, but also often argued.
I know, most of the conflicts come from me. I am a smart, pretty, thoughtful girl, but I am very jealous. Many times, I have been unreasonably jealous or "mistakenly" made a mess, making my boyfriend lose face and get angry. I also want to change this personality of mine but I haven't been able to. Every time I see him texting or going out with another girl, I get "hot-faced" and can't keep calm.
However, after 4 years of being together, my boyfriend knows what kind of person I am, and I didn't do it on purpose. The past time is enough to prove that we are suitable to be husband and wife. Especially, every time I make a mistake, I admit it and am also on the positive path, gradually correcting myself. In this world, no one is perfect.
To be fair, I'm only partly to blame, my boyfriend also has to take some responsibility. Who told him to be so handsome, talented, and well-spoken that many girls are crazy about him? From the time he went to school until now when he started working, letters and messages to get to know him, flirting... have been sent to him non-stop. How could I not be jealous? Without me "putting the brakes on", would this relationship last?
Because of blind jealousy, I lost my happiness (Illustration: TD).
The two families have recently started meeting and discussing the wedding. We plan to hold the wedding in September to have more time to prepare.
Everything was going well until last week, when I suddenly saw my boyfriend on the street. He was driving a very sexy girl, wearing shorts that showed off her long, straight legs. The girl sitting behind even sat close to my boyfriend, hugging his waist tightly and resting her chin on his shoulder. The two of them were laughing and talking happily as if they were in a deserted place.
My best friend and I quickly chased after her to see clearly and took pictures as evidence. Even though my best friend kept reminding me to calm down and investigate carefully, my jealousy still could not subside. I immediately drove fast to block my boyfriend's car. When the other two were still shocked by the sudden braking and saw me, I rushed forward and slapped the girl twice.
I jumped up and down in the middle of the street and kept crying: "We're almost married and you're still like this? Today, I caught you red-handed, don't deny it." Seeing me lose control, my boyfriend kept telling me to talk about it at home, don't make a fuss in the middle of the street.
But the more he wanted to explain, the more I didn't let him speak and shouted: "Who is she? Who is she? Are you always criticizing me for being jealous? How can I not be jealous like this?"... Not only that, I also intended to rush in and beat up the cheating couple, but my boyfriend stopped me and threw me away.
People around crowded to watch my jealousy scene. Too angry and embarrassed, unable to control me, my boyfriend shouted loudly: "This is my sister, do you hear me? My sister". After that, he quickly drove away with the other girl.
Of course, I also chased after his car and saw him going home. This time, I was definitely not wrong to be jealous because my boyfriend was an only child, he didn't have any older sisters. Moreover, I had met almost all of his relatives at parties. That girl was a complete stranger.
In front of my boyfriend's house, he and I had an argument, so loud that his parents had to come out to see. When they understood the situation, his mother said that this was a cousin who had lived in the US for many years and had just come back to visit. She was the same age as my boyfriend, and we were in the same class back then, and were as close as siblings. She lived abroad and was open-minded, so she could "hug" her younger brother a little too tightly on the street.
It was only when his mother said it that I believed it was true. Shame began to engulf me.
Before I could apologize, my older sister spoke up: "This is the person you're planning to marry. How can you love her for 4 years? You guys should really think again. This girl has a lot of problems."
My boyfriend and his sister then reluctantly went into the house. His parents didn't invite me in, but told me to go home and calm down. I cried all the way home, feeling so ashamed and humiliated.
All week long, I've been texting and calling my boyfriend but to no avail. Yesterday, he texted back: "Let's break up! We're really not compatible, I can't stand it anymore."
No matter how much I begged and apologized, my boyfriend didn't respond. I was so foolish, what should I do to turn things around? I can't lose my love like this, happiness was so close to me just now...
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