Stingy boyfriend counts each spring roll on the plate, girl asks netizens if she should give up

Feeling helpless and fed up with her boyfriend's stingy lifestyle, the girl posted on social media to seek advice on whether to continue or stop. She said she was 24 years old, her boyfriend was 4 years older and was " gentle, hard-working, not romantic, frugal, or rather stingy".

They have been in love for nearly a year, but he rarely gives gifts on holidays, and never flowers. "He never gives flowers because he thinks it's wasteful and silly. Only once did he buy me a pair of earrings worth 120,000 VND, but I lost them. He told his mother about it later and she blamed me. On March 8th or October 20th, he always used the excuse of being busy to not take me out," the girl said.

The girl's confessions have caused a stir on social networks.

Her lover's meticulousness and strictness about material things made the girl extremely worried: "I have the feeling that he pays a lot of attention to food. Sometimes when there are only 3 fried spring rolls left on a plate, he says, "You eat one, I eat one, and split the remaining one in half. I think he must have counted in his head how many there are in total..."

During their dating time, the guy mostly went to his girlfriend's house, hanging out in the living room and rarely went out. The author wrote: " Every time he took me out, he sighed and said it was better to drink water at home... The climax was when we went to a milk tea shop, I just picked up the menu and he reminded me to only order one dish, even though I only ordered one cup of milk tea and two side dishes each time. I was annoyed and went home."

Not only was she stingy, the girl was also upset about her boyfriend's patriarchal nature, saying that he often expressed dissatisfaction with her behavior and the way she dressed: "The day I met his parents, I wore a business dress, not revealing at all. He came to pick me up, and halfway there he asked 'why are you wearing a dress, my parents don't like girls wearing dresses'. I said 'why didn't you tell me earlier', and he replied 'I didn't tell you to see if you knew, if you were observant'. Every time I went out wearing a dress, he said 'look, no one else is wearing a dress, you're the only one wearing a dress'.

One day, her boyfriend had a death anniversary at his house. The girl knew what to do so she came early to help, cleaned up after dinner, washed the dishes, and then left. Unexpectedly, that night, her boyfriend texted her to complain about eating shrimp at the death anniversary meal.

"He said, 'You should have peeled that shrimp and offered it to my mother, why did you eat it? You didn't pay attention at all'. But every time he had dinner at my house, my mother peeled the shrimp for him and he never peeled the shrimp for her," the girl said resentfully. She was in a "cold war" with her boyfriend and was thinking about whether to break up or not.

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The girl's confession quickly attracted the attention of netizens with about 6 thousand comments. Most people advised the girl to break up immediately: "This personality is ingrained in the blood, it's hard to change. If you marry someone like that, you will only feel more hurt and resentful. You should quickly end it before it's too late"; "You are stingy, don't give anything but are extremely demanding of your lover, want to control her way of dressing, want to manipulate everything, make her absolutely obedient. Run away right away, my friend"...

A Facebook user commented: "Even I, a man, am shocked by this type of man. A complete combo: patriarchal, stingy, clingy to his mother's skirt. He has completely lost the image of masculinity."

Some people criticized the girl for being too soft, weak, and pathetic to endure this calculating and patriarchal man for nearly a year. "If you continue this love, you are treating yourself badly, not anyone else's fault," a netizen commented.

Besides the advice on breaking up, some opinions say that the decision to continue or stop depends entirely on the girl's feelings: "Reconsider your own feelings, if both of you truly love each other, then you can consider a long-term relationship. Don't let your thoughts be careless and then get married and then divorced, at that time the children will be the ones who suffer the most."

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/ban-trai-keo-kiet-dem-tung-mieng-nem-tren-dia-co-gai-hoi-dan-mang-co-nen-bo-172240626105604377.htm