His children were filial but he was not happy.
Mr. Li is 73 years old this year, currently living in Yunnan, China. He always believed that a harmonious family and filial children are the greatest happiness in life. But when he really entered old age and lived with his children, he realized the importance of retirement funds and savings.
Mr. Ly was a hard worker and thrifty when he was young. He and his wife raised two children, a boy and a girl. They worked hard to give their children the best life possible.
Time passed, in the blink of an eye, the children grew up, had their own families and careers. Mr. Ly and his wife also gradually aged, their health was not as good as before. Especially after his wife passed away, Mr. Ly felt even more lonely and helpless. Therefore, his two children discussed bringing their father home to take care of him. But because they each had their own lives, they would take turns bringing him home.
At first, Mr. Ly thought this was a reasonable solution. He could live in his two children's house. This would help him be closer to his children and lessen the burden on them. However, as time passed, he gradually discovered the problem.
When Mr. Li was at his son's house, his daughter-in-law always complained about her father-in-law's living habits. She didn't like him because he got up early and went to bed late, watched TV too loudly, and even ate too much. Although his son was filial to his father, he was helpless against his wife's complaints. Suddenly becoming the cause of discord in his son's family, Mr. Li felt very miserable.
After a while, he moved to his daughter's house, and the situation was not very good. His son-in-law was a gentle person. Therefore, all the big and small things in the house depended on his daughter. Mr. Li discovered that although his daughter appeared to be filial on the surface, she actually considered him a burden. Sometimes, his daughter even reduced some of his living expenses for various reasons. He understood that it was because she had her own family and children to support, so she could not shoulder everything.
After seeing his two children's attitudes, Mr. Li began to regret. He realized that he did not have enough financial foundation to support himself in his old age and could only rely on his children. This made him feel insecure.
Thinking back to his youth, he deeply regretted it. Every month, his salary was only enough to support his family of four. Because his salary was not high, he did not have much savings. He believed that "young people rely on their fathers, old people rely on their children" so he did not have a backup plan for himself. Looking back now, he realized that he was so wrong. Now, he wants to live alone but does not have enough money.
After many days of thinking, he took the initiative to discuss the issue of care with his children, hoping that they could support and sympathize more. At the same time, he also looked for ways to increase his income such as participating in some activities for the elderly and doing some part-time jobs within his capacity.
Thanks to exercise and interaction with people his age, Mr. Ly's health has improved. His children, seeing their father go to work, have started to pay more attention to his life and needs. However, he still intends to move to a nursing home when his health is no longer good. His two children do not object to this plan.
In the end, Mr. Ly realized that he himself was the most reliable support. Only when he had a sufficient financial foundation could he live a happy and worry-free life in old age. No matter how much he loved his children, in his twilight years, the elderly needed to learn how to give themselves a way out. In particular, their assets were considered a magical weapon to help them enjoy their old age very effectively.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/cu-ong-u75-bi-cac-con-phan-cong-lich-nuoi-bo-ve-gia-phai-co-luong-huu-de-chua-cho-minh-duong-lui-17225031416555739.htm
Comment (0)