GĐXH - Anger flooded in, but other emotions did not go away.
Saskia, now in her 40s, was devastated when she discovered her lover had been having an affair three years ago.
"I found a series of messages from many women in different countries. I saw all the sensitive pictures and sexy messages from both sides. There was evidence of sexual intercourse," she shared her experience of betrayal with The Guardian.
Saskia ended the relationship and moved out but he kept trying to contact her. Her resolve was shaken by the lingering feelings.
"I can't stop loving him even though I was betrayed. The anger is overwhelming, but the other emotions don't go away," she said.
She couldn't stop loving him even though he betrayed her. Illustration photo
A few months later, she tried dating again after telling someone new what she had gone through. She stressed the importance of transparency in relationships. At first, things went well. But the peace didn’t last long.
"I was constantly suspicious of him. Every time the phone rang, I jumped up and asked to check. He felt he was being watched. It was terrible," Saskia recalled.
One day, while repairing her boyfriend’s tablet, she discovered a strange text message. He denied it. So she loaded her things into her truck, drove to her sister’s house, and blocked his communications.
Now, even though she knows everything is in the past, Saskia still can't help but feel heartbroken when she thinks about it. However, she believes she can endure the pain.
"I'm not ready for a new relationship right now. I have to put myself first," she said.
She used to fantasize about getting revenge on her ex, but that thought faded as she got busy with her new art project.
Saskia's voice is filled with excitement as she talks about the charity she has just founded, a dream she has nurtured for a decade.
"Seeing your betrayer as an asshole may satisfy you in the short term. But in the long term, it keeps you stuck in old wounds instead of truly healing. It's important that you believe in your own transformation and open yourself up to new possibilities," says psychotherapist Wrottesley.
Warning signs that your boyfriend is cheating and betraying you
One of the first signs of possible infidelity is a sudden change in your boyfriend's behavior and daily routine. Illustration photo
Changes in behavior and habits
One of the first signs of possible cheating is a sudden change in your boyfriend's behavior and daily routine.
Specifically, changes in his schedule, unexplained absences, or increased attention to his appearance.
Emotional distance
If your boyfriend seems emotionally distant and you don't seem to be paying attention, this could be a sign of infidelity.
He may become less interested in your conversations or show a lack of affection towards you.
Increased privacy protection
Increased security and protection for personal devices and accounts can represent a breach of trust.
If your boyfriend suddenly becomes wary of his phone, password-protects his social media accounts, or changes his online behavior, you should take note.
If your boyfriend regularly hides his phone, receives text messages late at night, or becomes overprotective of his social media accounts, this could be a sign of infidelity.
Missing contact information
When someone is cheating, communication tends to drop. Your boyfriend may become evasive or defensive when asked about his whereabouts or plans.
Avoiding open conversations and giving vague answers can indicate a breach of trust.
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