After middle age, I gradually realized: Every relationship has an 'expiration date', money

True sanity in middle age is allowing yourself to “lose” a relationship.

There is a topic on social media: Why do friends grow apart as they get older?

Someone below said that after graduating, everyone got married, had children, lived thousands of kilometers apart, and gradually lost contact.

Some people say friends come to borrow money, do not lend, the next day blacklisted.

Another said that when he shared his life with a friend, he considered it bragging, showing interest in them in return for ridicule.

Maturity is a bridge that gets narrower the more you walk on it, and the more you walk on it, the fewer people stay.

People with different life trajectories and values ​​will inevitably withdraw from your life.

Writer Mader once said: "Maturity is getting used to and taking lightly the separation." True sanity in middle age is allowing yourself to "lose" a relationship.

Different environments, allowing for separation

A writer once said: "The farthest distance is when the person is still there, the love is still there but the way back is gone."

As time changes and different situations arise, each person's personality will gradually change. No matter how close friends are, if their choices are different, distance will be inevitable.

A had a very close friend, they had been friends since they were children. After graduating from high school, the friend went to the south to work, while A went to the north to study. During those years, the friend lived in a cramped rented house with a small salary and worked hard to make a living.

A entered a top university in the city and joined a scientific research company after graduation. The price of a single experimental material could be worth several months' salary. A rarely told his friend about his life for fear of upsetting him. But his friend felt that A had become more distant after he became rich. Gradually, the two of them had less and less contact, and their childhood friendship also became distant.

People always have to wait until they experience it to understand that separation and loss are very normal things in life. Changes in distance and different circumstances will cause people who used to walk together to gradually lose contact with each other.

When I was in college, I also had a very close friend. For four years, we ate together, studied together, talked about literature together, and had the same dreams. After graduating, my friend returned to his hometown, got married, and had children. I went to the city to work hard, from an intern to a department manager.

At first, we still talked often, but she mainly talked about family matters, and I talked about work. We often had no common topics to talk about. Once I was interested in talking to her about literature, but she said that it had been a long time since she had read a book... Just like that, the frequency of our conversations gradually decreased until we no longer heard from each other.

When we are young, we all dream of a relationship that will last forever. Only when we grow up do we realize that every relationship has its stages. The fading of many relationships is not because someone did something wrong, but because each person chose a different path. As time passes, different environments and different pursuits are like an invisible wall separating us.

At the crossroads of life, we rarely reach the destination together. For those who are further and further away, it is better to follow nature, each person lives his or her own life, peacefully and freely.

Disagreement, no need to hold on

When scholar Liu Du was studying in America, he met a German girl. At first, the two were very close.

But not long after, Liu Du began to deliberately keep her distance from him. The reason was that they often had different opinions. The topics she talked about were not of interest to him.

Whenever she expressed her opinion about something, the other party always found a way to retort. Then, after an argument, the two completely ended their relationship with each other.

A writer once said: "Three views, aesthetics and experience are the filters of life. No one can betray everything that belongs to them."

After middle age, the biggest gap between people is not distance but difference in concept, in the way of thinking about problems. Although people with different views can walk together for a while, eventually, separation is inevitable.

Painters Wang Yuanding and Mu Xin were once close friends. But later, due to different views on the art of painting, the two became strangers. Mu Xin loved pigments when painting ink wash. Wang Yuanding studied traditional techniques and was determined not to add any pigments.

One time, Mu Xin showed off his ink paintings that used color. Wang Yuanding was also present. In front of everyone, he criticized Mu Xin, saying that powder color was a taboo in ink painting.

Mo Xin retorted, saying that since the Tang Dynasty, many paintings had been painted with gouache. The two argued endlessly about this and eventually became distant.

A few days later, Wang Yuanding was having a snack in a restaurant, and Mu Xin happened to walk in, but they both ignored each other. Their relationship had been broken for many years due to differences in artistic concepts.

Some people say that values ​​determine the upper limit of a relationship. Two people with opposing views are like two intersecting lines, as their differences grow larger, they will eventually drift apart.

In human interaction, personalities can be compatible, but opinions, ways of thinking, and perspectives on problems are often not easy to reconcile. After middle age, stop explaining, respect each other, accept that both have differences, that is the most honorable farewell.

An artist once said: "When I was young, I always thought that if we were friends, we would always be friends. Only when I grew up did I understand that there is no eternity between people, being able to accompany each other on a journey is already a very warm thing.

Some people can only accompany you for a part of the way, some relationships will soon disappear from your life.

After middle age, you should learn to calmly deal with relationships that are destined to be lost, stay or go, follow nature, gather and disperse, depending on people's wishes.

Allowing people in your life to come and go, taking lightly the uncertainty of every encounter, that is the most sober way for middle-aged people to live.

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