As the author of many books loved by Korean readers in particular and Asian readers in general, Venerable Hae Min has created a buzz with his intimate, sincere writing style, delving into relationships and pressures in everyday life. Through this, readers will find ways to reduce and ease the burden they are carrying.
When things don't go as planned
In When Things Go Wrong, based on his personal journey of struggles and challenges in both daily life and spiritual practice, he delves into challenging times in life, such as when we feel lonely, when things don't go as planned, or when our hearts are breaking...
Book published by Nha Nam and The Gioi Publishing House, translated by Hong Ha
In addition to the six chapters discussing this, he also included three personal essays containing his stories and advice. Each chapter ends with a collection of short, concise poems, recording moments of "realization" or painful experiences of his own.
In the first chapter, as the title of the book shows, he shows us that in this life, good things always come with bad things, so instead of putting pressure on ourselves by suppressing our emotions, we should allow ourselves to feel uncomfortable.
Because, as he says, the path to greater maturity is to accept all aspects of ourselves, including those that seem dark and negative. So if we want to truly “awaken,” we must learn the important spiritual lessons hidden in such issues and traumas.
Also from acceptance, we will know how to deal with these emotions in a healthy way instead of being controlled by them unconsciously, and at the same time learn lessons to not repeat these mistakes in the near future.
He suggests that once the storm has calmed, it will pass, so don't feel like you need to immediately get up and go back to where you were, but give yourself time to sit with your emotions. When you give yourself time and space to your emotions, you'll learn how to process them. Ask yourself important questions like, "How am I feeling right now?", "What are my emotions trying to tell me?", and "What have I learned from this experience?"
Why don't we feel happy?
Besides when things don't go as planned, he also mentioned that people in this era often feel unhappy. According to him, the main reason is that the human mind always craves for different things without knowing how to appreciate what they have.
“Without turning inward and becoming aware of our habitual reactions, the mind will continue to jump from one object to another—always blaming external factors for our internal discomfort,” he writes.
Venerable Hae Min's books are loved by Korean readers in particular and Asian readers in general.
From here, he also suggests many ways to overcome the mind's tendency to "wander", and one of them is to practice gratitude. According to him, when we feel grateful, we often do not think about what we do not have or what we want. This reduces the mind's tendency to crave, to want other things; at the same time, the grateful mind will be more open and accepting.
Besides, knowing how to appreciate small daily happiness like wearing a warm coat on a cold day, spending time with pets... also shows us that happiness is always available if we pay attention to appreciate the things right in front of us.
He also reminds us to find a “querencia”—a place of refuge (in Spanish)—for ourselves to rest and take quiet time to heal when life gets us down. Because, according to him, learning to relax our minds in the present moment and appreciate what we have is also one of the many ways to make us happy.
With a sincere and comforting tone, through many issues in the book, Venerable Hae Min has brought new and different perspectives on both happy and sad stories, thereby guiding readers to a different way of thinking and doing, so that we can feel happier and appreciate every moment of every day more.
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