The awkwardness of being a first-time father.

Father and son enjoying time together during the summer - Photo: TU TRUNG

It was only when a psychologist explained that teenagers tend to listen to their friends, believing only their friends are right and truly understand them, while parents are just... strangers, that the father truly learned the basics of being a friend to his child.

Befriend your children.

Another father, whose 11-year-old daughter was showing signs of puberty while his wife was away... Not knowing how to help his daughter, he opened Google and found all sorts of confusing advice. Faced with this situation, the father realized a huge gap in his knowledge of raising children and apologized to his daughter: "My dear, I'm so sorry, this is my first time being a father, so I don't have much knowledge about these things."

Parenthood is a long journey that requires a lot of learning... Children grow up and learn how to develop their skills, intelligence, attitudes, and values. Meanwhile, parents must learn how to interact with, communicate with, and raise their children appropriately.

The story of a stylish dad filled me with both admiration and determination to learn from books about how to befriend children. Because his wife often travels abroad for work, Mr. L. (45 years old, District 2, Ho Chi Minh City) takes care of, picks up, drops off, and educates his two teenage sons. His secret to being friends with his children isn't difficult at all; it's simply that if you want to be friends with your children, you have to share their interests.

Knowing his children enjoyed listening to Alan Walker's music, the father also researched and collected some of Alan Walker's best songs. The kids loved cycling to tourist areas on weekends, and Mr. L. tried to keep up with them.

Mr. L.'s parenting experience involves regularly asking his two children about their interests and following social media trends that he finds suitable. His philosophy is that children's worlds have so much to learn, and parents need to set aside their egos to understand what their children are interested in.

So there you have it, but there are still situations where fathers are put to the test: "Dad! A girl likes me, but I don't like her back, what should I do? Girls these days are so bold, Dad! She even texted me saying she'll confess her feelings in front of the class during class meeting..."

Continuously accumulating knowledge on the parenting journey.

"Children are born before their parents, grandchildren are born before their grandparents" means that parents and grandparents only learn how to behave and communicate appropriately with each child when they are born.

Each child has different personality traits, temperaments, and interests...

General knowledge of child psychology serves as a foundation and cannot be applied rigidly or mechanically to a specific child. To effectively educate each child, adults must interact with them, understand them, and combine this knowledge with their acquired understanding of child psychology.

Raising children involves learning how to influence them in the most appropriate way. As children grow older, parents accumulate more experience and develop better ways of interacting with them.

Parents can't spend much time with their children, so if possible, they should seize every opportunity and spend as much time as possible giving their children happy and joyful childhood memories, even while they are still in the womb.

Children who have more happy childhood memories tend to grow up healthy, have a more positive and optimistic outlook on life, and be more content with their lives. At the same time, these children also tend to build more pure and healthy relationships with others.

To support their children throughout their upbringing and education, parents need to continuously accumulate knowledge, skills, and attitudes that are appropriate for the child's ongoing development.

It can be said that each child who comes into this world will have a different impact on their parents, thus helping them to become more mature and responsible.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/nhung-lung-tung-lan-dau-lam-cha-20240721085021665.htm