If you fail an exam, learn to get up and move on...

The 10th grade entrance exam and the high school graduation exam for university admission are not enough to decide your life. If you fail the exam, learn to stand up and move on...

Candidates taking the 10th grade entrance exam. (Illustration photo: VNE)

On social media in recent days, many parents have shared their children’s 10th grade entrance exam scores. Some parents are happy and excited because their children achieved high results, but there are also parents who are disappointed because their children did not achieve the expected scores. Many people believe that the 10th grade entrance exam scores do not determine everything, because the children’s learning journey is still ahead.

On the afternoon of July 3, Ho Chi Minh City announced the benchmark scores for grade 10. Previously, on the afternoon of July 1, the Hanoi Department of Education and Training also announced the benchmark scores for grade 10. Many young people will be admitted to the school they want, but many will miss out. The Ministry of Education and Training also announced the answers to the 2024 high school graduation exams. Candidates are holding their breath waiting for their graduation exam scores, as well as the benchmark scores for university admission...

In fact, after each exam, there are many sad stories such as children running away from home because they did not do as expected, getting depressed, even committing suicide because they failed the exam... which is a warning bell for parents because of the pressure of exams. At the age of students, they are vulnerable, easily sad, always want to express themselves and their values, and are easily shocked if the exam results are not as expected. If they fail the exam, they easily fall into a state of depression, disappointment and bury themselves in the feeling of defeat. They will soon overcome if they receive psychological support and encouragement from their families, but some children feel lonely, defeated and have difficulty overcoming the shock of failing the exam.

Many psychologists advise that children should not be burdened with too much pressure from their parents. Parents' expectations are a motivation but also too much pressure for children. Learning is a lifelong task, with many forks in the road and many suitable choices for children. Even if they fail the high school entrance exam or cannot get into the university they want, it does not matter, because they still have many other paths and choices.

It can be said that a person's life will have to go through many exams. Each person's future is never affected or impacted by an exam. The 10th grade entrance exam, the high school graduation exam for university admission or any other exam cannot decide your life. Young people are the ones who decide their own life. Effort, goals and passion are what contribute to determining success.

After the exam, children need support, sympathy, and understanding from their parents. Parents should be their children's spiritual support. Don't let young people, when they are just entering the threshold of life, lose confidence in themselves and feel worthless just because they failed the exam. Let them have the right to... fail the exam. In addition, young people should study and do what they like and never stop trying.

Moreover, getting into the high school you want or entering the university you dream of is not enough to help you succeed. Specialized knowledge and skills are necessary conditions. Besides school, there are many other ways to help us gain knowledge to succeed. But the important thing is that you must understand your own abilities. If you fail the exam, learn how to stand up and move on...

Some education experts believe that exam results are just "a cross-section" of a student's learning journey. Passing or failing depends on many factors, including knowledge, skills, psychology, student preparation at the time of the exam, and even the choice of aspirations.

Failure can help children gain experience, have more motivation to study better in 3 years of high school and prepare for exams at higher levels. More important than passing or failing is that students study in an environment that suits their abilities and interests. Parents play an important role in choosing a school for their children.

Parents should choose environments that help their children develop their abilities, build the right direction and roadmap so that their children can develop their abilities and strengths. Instead of just paying attention to scores and rankings, parents should also learn about the training programs, educational methods, teaching staff... of the schools to choose the most suitable model and environment for their children to develop.

Instead of showing disappointment if your child fails the exam, parents should listen to their child's interests and aspirations. From their own life experiences, parents should share and provide their children with basic information, special requirements of the profession, and encourage their children's outstanding abilities.

“I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that have not worked.” That is the famous quote of Thomas Edison - the greatest inventor of all time. It took him 10,001 times to find the right material to make the filament of the light bulb.

When properly oriented based on one's interests and abilities, and when there is sharing and sympathy from family, each young person will certainly be able to relieve the pressure before, during and after each exam. When motivated from within, you will be more responsible for all your decisions.

Professor Truong Nguyen Thanh once emphasized that a person's ability is not measured by their scores, and should not be measured by their scores. If we use the yardstick of passing exams, degrees, and achievements to demand that a child succeed in everything, it is an unrealistic expectation. "I would rather give my child a 'failure vaccine' in high school so that when he or she encounters failure in real life, he or she will know how to cope, stand up, and not fall down," said Professor Truong Nguyen Thanh.

Parents, please think that failure is an opportunity to teach your children how to stand up. Because no one learns from success, you only learn from failure. In each person's life, there are many competitions, going through many challenges. If you think that people succeed or fail just because of a competition, think that the competition determines your child's life, that is a mistake...

Source: https://baoquocte.vn/neu-thi-truot-hay-hoc-cach-dung-len-va-buoc-tiep-277273.html