Alone does not mean lonely

Black Valentine's Day has no chocolates, no candles, no roses. It's not noisy, no confessions, no long-term promises. It's simply a day for single people - those who have never loved, have loved, are temporarily in love, or are learning to love themselves.

Some people say: “Black Valentine is a day for lonely hearts”. But in fact, being alone does not mean being lonely. There are people who still quietly live their own lives, without needing anyone by their side, without waiting for anyone to fill the void. Because of that void - they have learned to light it themselves.

I remember an old friend who had a 7-year relationship that ended quietly. Every year, when Valentine's Day came, she avoided everything: Flowers, cards, and other people's eyes. But one time, on Black Valentine's Day, she sent me a photo: She was sitting at her usual coffee shop, in front of her was a cup of black coffee without sugar, her eyes looking out at the light drizzle. "For the first time in a long time, I feel at peace. I don't need anyone to come, I don't need anyone to remember me. I just need to love myself," she wrote.

After reading the message, I was speechless. She was neither sad nor happy, just calm - and perhaps, that was the most beautiful feeling a wounded soul could reach. Black Valentine, to her, was not an excuse to blame love. It was an opportunity to relearn how to love - from the smallest things: A cup of coffee, an old song, a light rainy afternoon.

Love, in fact, is not only in the hands of someone holding you. It is also the phone calls from your mother asking how you are, the messages saying “have a good meal” from a long-lost friend, the moments when you feel your heart warmed by a ray of sunlight coming through the window in the morning.

Black Valentine reminds us that love is not just about couples. It is about nameless connections, unconditional emotions, and our simple and complete presence in life.

Don't think that people who walk alone are unloved. Maybe they have been loved, loved deeply, and been broken. But they still choose to stay with themselves, patiently waiting for the day when their hearts are strong enough to open the door to another love - deeper, more stable.

This world is in a hurry, people are often afraid of being late. But in love, no one is late. Each person has their own journey, a different path. Some people fall in love at the age of twenty, some only realize what love is at thirty. And there are also people who spend their whole life learning how to love themselves completely - like a never-ending practice.

Black Valentine, if you are alone, please don't be sad. Let that day be a day of simple things: Cook yourself a delicious meal, read a favorite book, or simply sit quietly listening to the wind blowing through the window.

And if you are in love with someone - even if it is not reciprocated, or you have missed each other - forgive gently. Forgive the person who left, and forgive yourself - for having been hurt. That is also a form of love: gentle and brave.

Black Valentine doesn't have to be the opposite of Red Valentine. It's just another slice of love - where there's no loud music or bright roses, but silence, freedom and sincerity.

Loving someone is a beautiful thing. But learning to love yourself, quietly and maturely, is what is necessary to be able to love someone more completely.

So, if you're walking alone today, smile. Don't see it as a disadvantage, but a privilege - to look deep inside, to understand what you want, what you need, and what you deserve.

Because love is never in a hurry. And the one who deserves you - is also learning to love fully like you are doing.

DUC ANH

Source: https://baoapbac.vn/van-hoa-nghe-thuat/202504/mot-minh-khong-co-nghia-la-co-don-1039401/