'My child only got 6 or 7 points on the midterm exam, I was so embarrassed I didn't dare leave the house'

My child is a smart kid, always at the top of his class in academics. To develop his strengths and remind him not to rest on his laurels, I spare no expense, time or effort in sending him to tutoring and extra classes.

I thought that with my sacrifice and my child's efforts, the results would improve. Unexpectedly, the results not only did not increase but also dropped unexpectedly.

My embarrassment increased when I saw people everywhere bragging about their children getting 9s and 10s on their midterm exams. From friends, colleagues to neighbors, as soon as the school announced the results, my social media was flooded with posts boasting about my children's scores disguised as encouragement and recognition of their achievements. I tried to ignore such posts, but I couldn't avoid them when I met them in real life.

Since I knew my child's score, I was so ashamed that I didn't dare leave the house.

Seeing that I had not made any moves online like the previous times when the exam results were out, many people asked about my child's exam scores. I have never been so afraid of questions about my child's scores. Whenever they asked about my child's scores, I had to force a smile and skillfully change the subject to avoid letting people know that my child only got 6 points in Math and English, and 7 points in Literature.

However, “paper can’t wrap fire” the neighbor whose child was in the same class as my child spread the shocking news throughout the entire apartment building. Every time I went out, I felt like everyone was just gossiping about my child’s score, which made me even more upset with my child. In that disappointment, there was also worry and regret.

Born into a poor family, to have a life with enough food and clothing like today, I had to study hard and not dare to be negligent or careless for even a moment. I believe that studying is the only way to open up a brighter future, so when I heard that my child only got 6-7 points in the important mid-term exams, I was worried.

Math and Literature are important subjects in the 10th grade entrance exam and high school graduation exam, but the mid-term exam, a type of test that tests knowledge learned from the beginning of the year, is enough to "knock out" my child like this, so how can my child overcome the stressful and difficult exams ahead? How can my child achieve the dream of entering the 10th grade of a specialized school, the Foreign Trade University, or the University of Science and Technology?

My child’s 6 points in the midterm exam was a psychological blow to me. Before that, I was always confident that as long as I studied hard at good centers with reputable teachers, my child’s performance would definitely improve. I had to carefully monitor my child’s school schedule to be able to register him for as many extra subjects as possible. I believe that the more I study, the better, “if not horizontally, then vertically” because knowledge is never redundant.

Every month, my husband and I have to spend up to tens of millions of dong to invest in our children's education. In addition to the money issue, the effort that both of us put in is too much to count. I take my children to and from school, accompany them without a day off, even when I am sick, tired, or my husband is busy on a business trip, I still try to take my children to extra classes on time so that they do not miss school.

I pick up and drop off my children, accompanying them without a single day of rest...

Many people say that I force my child to study too much and lose his childhood. I love and feel sorry for my child, I do not regret anything I can do for him. All his peers study hard, if they are careless, they will fall behind. In fact, my child is not diligent enough, so in the recent exam, his friends got 9, 10 points while he only got 6, 7.

My son has been more self-conscious these past few days, seeing his mother scold him more, and the room lights are turned off later than usual. I know he is also sad when his results are not as expected. Seeing him so thin from staying up late makes me feel so sorry, but I really can't control my emotions when thinking about his grades.

In order to avoid the same fate in the final exam as this time, I am researching to change my child's tutoring location. No matter how difficult it is, I am determined to accompany my child on this arduous and challenging journey.

Luu Thi Hoa (Parent)

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