The daughter-in-law was stunned when her father-in-law, who is nearly 50 years old, kept washing and folding her dirty clothes all day: "Save me..."

"Guys, please save me, I have no other choice," the girl wrote on social media.

The relationship between fathers, mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is always a topic that receives much attention from netizens. The story of daughter-in-law Tan Lam (19 years old, in Fujian, China) posted on Xiaohongshu recently is an example.

Accordingly, this woman aroused curiosity when sharing a photo of her father-in-law's back as he was stacking clothes in the house, on the living room sofa. However, in the title of the post, she wrote : "Guys, please save me, I have no other choice". It turned out that this daughter-in-law had repeatedly told/asked her father-in-law not to wash and collect her clothes, but he still did it out of habit.

Father-in-law folding clothes in the living room. Photo: Xiaohongshu.

“Just a few days ago, I had a serious talk with my father-in-law. I told him that he didn’t need to collect my clothes for me, because I felt embarrassed and ashamed. However, I didn’t dare say that there were many different types of clothes that needed to be folded separately, so it would be more convenient to do it myself. However, my father-in-law either didn’t pay attention to what I said or he was afraid that I would feel embarrassed, so sometimes if I hadn’t had time to collect my clothes, he would take them and fold them neatly.

Normally, if I come home from work too late, I will ask my husband to bring my things in, but today he sent me this photo. If I zoom in, oh my god, he is holding my shirt - he was quicker than my husband, he took my things in and folded them neatly," Tan Lam shared.

She said that just thinking about her father-in-law taking things for her made her feel extremely uncomfortable and embarrassed. “ I wonder if anyone else is like me, does my father-in-law do housework like mine? Anyway, I still hate this extremely. Please help me, what should I do to make my father-in-law stop taking and folding things for me? ”, the girl shared.

The daughter-in-law didn't know what else to do so she had to post a "call for help" from netizens for advice and solutions. Illustrative photo.

Tan Lam also shared more about her family background. Accordingly, this year her father and mother-in-law are both 45 years old, Tan Lam is 19 years old and her husband is 21 years old. “We both got married at a very young age. My husband works as a factory worker, I sell online. When I first moved to my husband's house, I had to adapt to many things, especially my hard-working father-in-law, who takes care of everything in the house.

He works tirelessly. While his mother-in-law goes grocery shopping and cooks, his father-in-law is responsible for doing the laundry and cleaning, ” the 19-year-old daughter-in-law shared.

Tan Lam said that many people say she is lucky and she herself feels this because she has a loving and caring father-in-law, but "too many personal interventions make me feel uncomfortable and extremely embarrassed."

After the article was posted on social networks, it quickly attracted many comments from netizens, creating a wave of controversy on social networks. Many people think that parents only have good intentions, but sometimes they do not know how to express it properly or appropriately. Therefore, instead of showing annoyance or forbidding, she should be tactful, ask her husband to speak for her or whisper to her mother-in-law, hoping she will understand.

Not only Tan Lam but many people have been and are in the same situation as her and have "given advice". " My father-in-law is the same, I told him many times but he didn't listen, so later I hung my clothes on the balcony of my room",

“I told my husband, then he found a way to tell his father, it was much easier”, “My mother-in-law often did the laundry for me, but there were some clothes that I had to wash by hand or separately because of the color. Once, she ruined my dress. It was my favorite dress, so I cried, not daring to blame my mother. But after that incident, I never saw my mother help me wash clothes again”,… are comments from netizens.

Many opinions say that this is normal. Parents always think about helping their children, thinking that their children are still young. However, in reality, each person has a different point of view, and also has different limitations in life, so there is no right or wrong here, but only appropriate or not.

Therefore, the daughter-in-law should also be tactful, find a way to talk or find a suitable solution instead of blaming or being upset. Many people also share stories of in-laws being carefree and interfering too much in the lives of their sons and daughters-in-law when living together, such as controlling their going out time, how they dress, cleaning their rooms, etc.

"Sometimes there are things that parents think are good and caring but are actually not appropriate at all, making me feel uncomfortable," a netizen shared.

Many people also congratulated and encouraged the 19-year-old daughter-in-law that she was lucky to marry into a family with loving parents-in-law. Tan Lam also said that she also loved her parents-in-law very much. The two families lived in the same village and knew each other before, so they felt very secure.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/con-dau-do-nguoi-khi-bo-chong-u50-suot-ngay-mang-quan-ao-ban-cua-minh-di-giat-va-gap-ho-cuu-toi-172250324203020546.htm