A plate of shrimp but exposed many hidden corners of the future mother-in-law's personality.
*Below is the confession of Tong Nha (27 years old, China) posted on Sohu.
I am Tong Nha, 27 years old and about to get married to my boyfriend of 3 years.
To prepare for the wedding, my boyfriend, my future mother-in-law and I went to see many real estate projects. However, none of them were pleasing to Aunt Vuong (my future mother-in-law) as she kept complaining about the high prices and bad locations...
After running back and forth for a whole month, my boyfriend and I still couldn't find a suitable house, while we were both exhausted.
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Last weekend, my boyfriend and I made another appointment to look at houses. As soon as she saw me, Auntie Wang frowned and looked me up and down: "Tong Nha, look at your clothes again. You're going out without knowing what to wear."
I looked at my usual clothes and smiled: "I spend all day visiting houses, so I'll just dress simply for convenience."
Aunt Wang saw that and didn't say anything more. We started to look at the real estate that I had seen online.
On the way, Aunt Vuong kept complaining about the upcoming house like not having enough trees, the interior layout is not nice, what the parking lot is like...
I am also a very picky and perfectionist person. I checked and read a lot of reviews before going to see the house, not just seeing a reasonable price and going to see it randomly.
Every time my boyfriend and I like a certain apartment, my mother-in-law rejects it and criticizes us kids for having no vision and not knowing how to choose.
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After walking all day without finding any house we liked, the three of us decided to have dinner at a restaurant.
My future mother-in-law interrupted me, saying that eating out was too expensive, it would be better to cook noodles at home. I immediately replied: "I'll pay for this meal, auntie. You can eat whatever you want, you don't need to be polite with me. After all, we're family."
I thought my future mother-in-law would be very happy to see her daughter-in-law being so generous and offering free food. But for some reason, Auntie Wang still frowned and refused. Only when my boyfriend persuaded her did she mumble as she walked into the restaurant.
I gave the menu to my mother-in-law and asked her to order. But she continued to refuse, saying that she didn't know what to eat, and that we should just order what I wanted. I often come to this restaurant so I didn't hesitate to order a plate of shrimp, half a roast duck, a plate of green vegetables and 3 bowls of chicken soup.
I was about to order more when Auntie Vuong stopped me: " Too expensive! A plate of braised shrimp is 88 NDT (about 307k VND), half a roast duck is 68 NDT (about 237k VND), a plate of vegetables is 28 NDT (about 97k VND), a bowl of chicken soup is 38 NDT (about 132k VND). This store is really deceiving people with its high prices!".
At that time, the waiter had just brought out 3 bowls of chicken soup, Aunt Vuong immediately shouted loudly, asking for them to be returned: "Chicken soup is so expensive, who would dare to eat it!". The waiter looked at me in confusion, not knowing whether to take it or keep it. After persuasion from both me and my son, Aunt Vuong had to keep the chicken soup.
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After finishing the chicken soup, I went to the restroom. But when I came out, I saw that the waiter had changed the shrimp dish to chicken, and the roast duck dish to pork!
I was stunned and very angry. I asked the waiter again if he had brought the wrong dish.
But the waitress looked embarrassed and explained: "Yes, it is the right dish. The dishes you just ordered were destroyed by this lady. She said the seafood here is not fresh so she insisted on destroying it all."
I looked at my future mother-in-law. I thought she would be embarrassed or shy, but no! She said the seawater was polluted so it was okay to eat less or no seafood. Not to mention a plate of shrimp cost 88 yuan, too expensive, I would rather go home and eat!
I was in a dilemma. I was the one who invited them to eat, but they didn't even order the food I liked.
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Just then, the owner suddenly appeared and said to me: "My niece. Cancel the wedding!".
After hearing this, we were all stunned and did not understand why the owner said that.
The owner, a woman in her 50s, sighed and continued: "I've opened this shop for ten years now, and have seen many family meals and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. There is happiness, peace, and disagreement. You can't even eat a plate of shrimp, so how will you live in this family when you get married?"
The mother-in-law's expression changed and she shouted back: "What kind of talk is that? Why are you suddenly minding other people's business like that?"
The owner ignored his mother-in-law's anger and continued to explain to me: "My dear daughter, marriage is a big deal in life, you have to be smart. Now you don't even have the right to decide what to eat, how much control will you have when you step into this family tomorrow?"
The owner's words were like a warning, making me realize many things in surprise.
I was shocked to remember how picky and controlling my mother-in-law was during the time we went looking for houses. There was no house that she liked.
But that is the house that the couple will live in later, why does the mother-in-law always make decisions according to her wishes?
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Seeing the tense atmosphere, my boyfriend winked and chased the owner out.
My boyfriend turned to me and said, "Mom did everything for us. She saw that we were about to buy a house and had to spend money on all sorts of things. She's used to saving every penny, so she's a bit picky." Then he told her to let me eat whatever I wanted.
Aunt Vuong received her son's gaze and quickly changed her expression: "Tong Nha, I'm sorry. I was just worried that you two would run out of money after the wedding, so I forbade each of you from doing a little bit of everything. I promise I'll change."
Even though we finished our meal, I started thinking about the upcoming wedding. I still think that people's personalities are hard to change. My future mother-in-law is a very frugal person, spending every penny carefully. And I'm afraid that her frugality will be directed at me.
I also want to support my family, but I prefer to learn how to invest and grow, instead of pinching every penny like that. I want to have a balance between saving and meeting my basic needs.
I'm afraid that after marriage, her personality will still be the same, even controlling my eating and spending. Am I overthinking or thinking correctly about my relationship?
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/co-gai-di-an-voi-me-chong-tuong-lai-goi-dia-tom-gia-300k-chu-quan-khuyen-huy-hon-ngay-lap-tuc-di-172250106085625913.htm
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