(Dan Tri) - My husband is unemployed, has not made any money for the past six months, and has not contributed to the family's expenses. But when Tet comes, he asks to give his parents 20 million VND, which makes me angry.
Tet is approaching, the bustling atmosphere everywhere makes me feel more pressured. For many families, Tet is a time for reunion, full of joy. But for me, it is just a series of days of physical and mental fatigue. The reason lies with my husband - who has been unemployed for nearly half a year but still has the wrong pride.
Yesterday, when I received a Tet bonus of only 20 million VND, my husband calmly said: "This year, I will give my parents 20 million VND to spend during Tet, to make them look good in front of their relatives. She just bought a sofa set, so try to give them more, otherwise they will be known as children who don't talk much."
Hearing him say that, I was stunned. I smiled faintly and asked: "What about the money for Tet, shopping, children's education, and housing?". My husband didn't care, just emphasized: "Giving to parents is a responsibility, indispensable. Other families give more. Don't be calculating and stingy with your husband's family."
My husband is unemployed and still wants to show off to his in-laws (Illustration: Pexels).
I really don’t know how to react. For the past 6 months, I have been supporting my family alone. My husband is unemployed but refuses to look for work. He keeps talking about far-fetched business plans but never takes any concrete action.
Meanwhile, I had to take care of everything from food, my children's school fees, electricity and water bills to all kinds of expenses. During the most difficult times, I did not hear a word of sharing or encouragement from him, let alone help.
I don't deny that giving gifts to my in-laws during Tet is the right thing to do. But in the current situation, when my income depends only on me, is your request too much?
I said to give each parent 5 million VND. Or just give my parents-in-law and my parents, I could have said that but he did not agree. He insisted on giving 20 million VND with the spirit of "this year I have to give more, if it is much less than last year, then what is the point of saying it".
20 million VND is a huge amount for a woman like me who is exhausted both financially and mentally. However, instead of understanding, he judged me as "stingy" and "not thinking about my husband's family".
I still remember last year, when he still had a job, I did not hesitate to give my in-laws the same amount of money. But now, things are different. I just want to use this small bonus to take care of my children, so that my family can have a more fulfilling Tet. But instead of sharing the burden, he imposed the responsibility on me without thinking.
What hurt me the most was his attitude. He should have tried his best to find a way to support the family during this difficult time. But he chose to avoid it, pushed all the responsibility onto me, and used his pride as a weapon to force me to do things I didn't want to do. His indifference made me feel like I was living a lonely marriage.
I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. A marriage only lasts as long as both parties work together to build it.
But if one person keeps relying and demanding, while the other has to shoulder everything, the balance will sooner or later be lost. And then, will Tet still be a happy occasion, or just an additional burden on my already tired shoulders?
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