Husband leaves wife because mother-in-law is jealous of daughter-in-law

Nearly 30 years ago, Ms. Liu’s husband died in a car accident, leaving her 5 months pregnant. Swallowing her tears of pain, Ms. Liu gave birth and raised her son alone.

Every day after work, she hugs her child, tells him about her hardships and laments: "This life is not easy, with tuition and living expenses. In the future, you must not let me down or make me sad. I have sacrificed a lot for you."

Understanding his mother's sacrifice, Ms. Liu's son has always been very filial, obedient, loving and sympathetic towards his mother. Whether his mother is right or wrong, he supports her unconditionally.

Soon, her little son grew up, but she never thought that one day he would get married. Therefore, when she saw her son bringing his girlfriend home to meet his family, the mother suddenly felt very uncomfortable.

A short time later, her son said he wanted to marry that girl. In her heart, Mrs. Liu felt as if she had been "struck by lightning". She told herself: My child is gone, no longer belongs to me.

After getting married, at Mrs. Liu's request, her son and daughter-in-law moved in with her. At first, she thought that this way she could still live near her son. However, her son's affection for his daughter-in-law made her feel uncomfortable.

She never expected that behind a seemingly harmonious family there was such distorted behavior. Illustration photo

She even felt resentful because she thought that her son had forgotten her after getting married. The thought of being abandoned was unbearable for her. From then on, whenever her daughter-in-law was not at home, Mrs. Liu would sit and cry to her son, recounting the hardships of the past and saying how pitiful she was for being ignored by her son.

With his mother constantly spreading such negative thoughts, Ms. Liu's son gradually changed his attitude towards his wife because he felt that his mother was very sad after having a daughter-in-law. Not long after, he suddenly filed for divorce just because he didn't want to make his mother sad anymore.

His wife was extremely surprised. She never expected that behind a seemingly harmonious family there was such a distorted behavior. Seeing the abnormality in the relationship between her mother-in-law and her husband, she immediately agreed to divorce, just wanting to leave this mother and son as soon as possible.

To appease his mother, after the divorce, the son decided to stay with her and not remarry. Mrs. Liu finally achieved her goal of possessing her son for herself.

The extremely absurd incident was rumored and gossiped about by neighbors. Mrs. Liu's dependence on her son was not too difficult to understand, however, its excessive level made those around her feel somewhat strange.

Parents cannot accompany their children all their lives. No matter what, children need to grow up, get married, have children and have their own lives. When a son grows up, he needs to have his own opinions and cannot be easily swayed by outside influences.

No matter how talented a man is, women should not marry him.

Mama's boy is a term used to describe men who are overly dependent on their mothers, at an age when they should be living, thinking and acting independently.

3 common signs of a true "mama's boy":

- Ask mom for everything, not confident to make decisions in life.

- "Mom just wants the best for us" - the catchphrase of "mama's boys" if mother and wife unfortunately have a conflict.

- Listening to mother's every word, wife's voice is almost worthless.

Of course, no woman expects her husband to be a real "mama's boy". Many times, after getting married and living with her mother-in-law, she is surprised to realize that her husband is a "mommy's boy" type of man.

In that situation, here are 3 things women should do:

1. No competition

You don't need to compete with your mother-in-law. If your husband compares you to her, it's his fault. What you need to do is draw clear boundaries in your relationship as husband and wife and in your relationship as mother-son and mother-daughter-in-law.

Let your husband understand that you and your mother-in-law have different roles in his life. Neither of you can replace the other.

If you have tried, tried to "tighten the tie" but the mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship still does not change positively, or the grievances in married life still do not lessen, perhaps it is time to end it. Illustration photo

2. Do not drag your husband into disagreements in the mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship.

This advice may not be true if your husband is a mature, opinionated man. But it is absolutely useful if your husband is a "mama's boy". By dragging "mama's darling" into arguments with your mother, you are certainly giving her an ally.

So, ask your husband not to interfere, not to participate and to stay neutral in disagreements between you and your mother-in-law.

3. If you can't try, give up.

"Mountains and rivers can change, but nature is hard to change." If you have tried, "tied the knot" but the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship still does not change positively, or the grievances in married life still do not lessen, perhaps it is time to end it.

Your mother-in-law may not have bad intentions, but the important thing is that if the man you choose to be your husband never leaves his mother's protection, how can he take care of a whole family?!

Women deserve a happy marriage with a strong, brave and mature man.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/thay-con-trai-thuong-vo-nguoi-me-noi-con-ghen-voi-con-dau-172240423151521098.htm