The age of 40 and above marks the transition of each person to a new stage. It is also the time when each of us must face the rapid changes of life.
Going out together, experiencing a happy life - Photo: QUANG DINH
What are the feelings of middle-aged people?
In middle age, suddenly feel depressed
Recently, many women at Binh Tay Market (District 6, Ho Chi Minh City) have shown concern when they saw that Ms. Truc Ngan (52 years old, a textile vendor) no longer has the fresh, vibrant look she used to have. Many people have guessed that perhaps her business is slow or her family is having some unhappy events.
According to Ms. Ngan, even she herself does not know the reason. Because the business is still normal, everything at home is fine. Perhaps she often has insomnia because of worrying about many things.
She is worried about the trend of consumers preferring to buy online rather than going to the market, and the customers who have not yet paid in full take more goods, causing her to accumulate debt. She is also concerned about the increasingly erratic temperament of her two teenage children. Then she is jealous; worried that her husband has a second wife, worried that the family will break up...
"The people in my group of friends are the same as me. Each person has different concerns. They only worry about trivial things, which don't lead to anything. I know that's not good, but I can't get out of this situation on my own," said Ms. Ngan.
For Ms. Anh Thu (40 years old, living in Hai Chau District, Da Nang), it was a mental breakdown when she realized her beauty was deteriorating day by day. Although she said she did not regret spending money to buy all kinds of high-end cosmetics.
Having won the beauty pageant in her student days and been given the title of "ageless beauty" by her friends and colleagues, the fading of her beauty made her even more anxious and regretful. She became more sensitive, easily angered with relatives, often avoided acquaintances, and was afraid to go to crowded places.
Midlife crisis in women and men
According to the definition of the World Health Organization (WHO), middle age usually lasts from about 40 to 65 years old. However, this age can fluctuate depending on the cultural, health and lifestyle perspectives of each individual as well as the community.
Middle age is often accompanied by many changes, both physical, psychological and social. In terms of health, this is the stage when the body begins to show signs of aging such as impaired vision, gray hair, wrinkled skin; cardiovascular and bone problems also need attention. Psychology at this age also changes significantly. Many people begin to reflect on their achievements, failures and reorient their lives.
At this age, many people are at the peak of their careers, focusing on raising the next generation of children or taking care of elderly parents, playing an important role in the family and society. So everything seems to be more serious in their thinking.
The concept of "midlife crisis" was first introduced in 1965 by psychoanalyst Elliott Jaques (Canada), when he noted distinct psychological changes in friends in early middle age, with typical feelings of depression, suffering, and loss.
Signs of crisis in women are often confused with psychological manifestations of premenopause; or concerns in life such as: job loss, business failure, unhappy family, aging parents...
It is also the feeling of being invisible in front of a crowd. Because for women, beauty and appearance often attract the attention and interest of many people. When entering middle age, those things gradually decline. They are like invisible people on the street, not many people care, and no one looks back like before. Many women feel lost, useless, and marginalized in their work because of their age.
For men, crisis situations are often related to work, finances, health, etc. It is the insecurity in the present, anxiety about the future, and comparison with friends. The pressure is even greater when they are the pillars of the family or business.
Not only women, but also men, are anxious and worried about their beauty, body shape, and illness. The fear of communication, lack of sharing, and withdrawal into their own world can easily turn depression into a disease.
These changes make many people feel insecure and unable to live happily and healthily. If this situation is not resolved, it will affect the quality of life as well as work and family relationships.
In reality, many people behave incorrectly at this age because of illusions and misconceptions that lead to mistakes. That is, laziness in exercising causes middle-aged men's bodies to start losing balance, still pursuing their careers and forgetting their families. They easily fantasize, chase after temporary love affairs and forget about the gap in age, health, and life views...
Live positively and optimistically
Midlife crisis is not as scary as many people think. When facing this situation, you should calmly look back at the positive things in life, the achievements you have made, enjoy time with family instead of comparing yourself with others or thinking negatively.
You need to increase physical activity by playing sports, building a healthy lifestyle, and living optimistically. Confide in your family, relatives, or friends about your condition and feelings to get support. Trying new, challenging things will also help you gain valuable skills, experiences, and knowledge.
Each person always needs a method that suits their circumstances and personality. It can be recreational activities or exercise, it can be gym, yoga or meditation. For more active people, it can be backpacking, trekking or mountain climbing. Learn to be more forgiving, more tolerant and practice letting go. Letting go here means eliminating unpleasant, negative things, pulling emotions out of the mind and life. From there, spend more time taking care of your own emotions to understand what you really need.
Choose your friends wisely
Happiness is sometimes just being full of laughter, living happily with friends - Photo: QUANG DINH
Experts advise people at this sensitive age to "choose their friends wisely". These could be clubs, groups of the same age, same interests, compatible to nurture personal passions... At the same time, they need to stay away from negative groups that like to gossip, watch drama, expose...
Many people have a stormy old age because of the disturbances and mistakes of middle age. Maybe because of being too lonely, they share and confide in outsiders, seek new things in relationships and then proceed to adultery, breaking up happiness. Or because of being bored with their current life, many people fall into the traps of starting a business, investing in multi-level marketing...
Middle age is a stage that everyone will go through, a stepping stone between youth and old age. Before entering this stage, each person needs to be ready to accept changes in the body, and at the same time make adjustments in lifestyle to ensure health and quality of life.
Middle age needs community activities, optimizing health
Midlife is not only a time of biological change, but also an opportunity for individuals to grow, innovate, and set new goals for the rest of their lives. This may be a time to explore new interests, get involved in community activities, or optimize health through a healthy diet and lifestyle.
To make the most of your middle years, it is important to maintain a healthy lifestyle. This includes regular exercise, a balanced diet and effective stress management. Regular health checks and maintaining a social network are also essential to maintaining a high quality of life during this period.
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