A psychological survey of some children about their parents showing off their children's academic achievements on social media showed that many of them disliked this, because showing off their achievements like that would inadvertently create more pressure for them.
Looking at the high scoreboard and certificates of merit, there will be many comments, compliments, congratulations, such as super parents, good parenting... This may be a joy for parents, but it is unintentionally a pressure for children. The pressure for the future must be greater or equal, otherwise it will be a failure. Showing off children's academic achievements on social networks not only puts pressure on their own children but also on those with low academic results, unintentionally creating a sense of inferiority and guilt for them... While in reality, the score does not say anything, because many people with low academic results have been successful in many professions and areas of life.
Showing off your children's academic achievements on social networks, in addition to spreading positive things, encouraging them to make efforts and strive to improve, parents need to be careful, consider, and avoid putting pressure on their children. A psychologist once said: "Giving praise to children is like using antibiotics. Antibiotics should not be used indiscriminately, there must be a dosage, indications, and level. If used in excess, it will be harmful to children. Children will become complacent and have illusions about themselves. That means praise and criticism must be at the right time and place." Not to mention that showing off children's academic results and images on social networks can also be dangerous for both parents and children. Because the content shared with full name, class, school name, address, inadvertently creates opportunities for bad guys to exploit and the consequences are unpredictable.
Showing off your children's academic achievements on social networks, such a seemingly small and unintentional action always has many unpredictable consequences. There have been many cases where children resort to negativity just because of the pressure of exams, grades, studying, pressure from their parents' expectations... Therefore, each parent needs to consider, control and be moderate when posting information and achievements of their children, because it is just a virtual behavior, but the consequences are not virtual, it is a temporary joy for parents but the worries are endless.
The mentality of “other people’s children”, valuing education, exams, and degrees has greatly influenced the thinking of Vietnamese people. Many people just look at scores, specialized schools, and selective classes to judge whether their children are good or not. Children must pass this school, that selective class, and if they pass university, they must be in the top, leading schools… It is true that pressure is necessary to achieve success. However, pressure must come from children’s own passion to help them overcome themselves, not from the parents’ goals. Let children freely develop their own abilities and strengths; let them see the true value of life and strive to grow up. That is happiness.
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