Pressure from expectations

In a psychological survey of some children about their parents showing off their children's academic achievements on social networks, many said they really dislike this, because showing off such achievements invisibly creates more pressure for the children.

Looking at the high scoreboard and certificates of merit, there will be many comments, compliments, congratulations, such as super parents, good parenting... This may be the joy of parents, but unintentionally puts pressure on their children. The pressure for the future ahead will have to be greater or equal, otherwise it will be failure. Showing off your children's academic achievements on social networks not only puts pressure on your own children but also on those with low academic results, unintentionally creating a feeling of inferiority and guilt for them... While in reality, the scores do not say anything, because many people with low academic results have succeeded in many professions and areas of life.

Showing off your children's academic achievements on social networks, in addition to spreading positive things, encouraging them to make efforts and strive to improve, parents need to be careful, consider, and avoid putting pressure on their children. A psychologist once said: "Giving praise to children is like using antibiotics. If antibiotics are used, they should not be used arbitrarily, there must be a dosage, indication, and level. If used in excess, it will be harmful to children. Children will become complacent and have illusions about themselves. That means praise and criticism must be at the right time and place." Not to mention, showing off children's academic results and images on social networks can also be dangerous for both parents and children. Because the content shared with full name, class, school name, address, unintentionally creates opportunities for bad guys to exploit and the consequences are unpredictable.

Showing off your children's academic achievements on social networks, that seemingly small and unintentional action always has many unpredictable consequences. There have been many cases where children resort to negativity just because of the pressure of exams, scores, studying, pressure from their parents' expectations... Therefore, each parent needs to consider, control and be moderate when posting information and achievements of their children, because it is only a virtual behavior, but the consequences are not virtual, it is a temporary joy for parents but the worries are endless.

The mentality of “other people’s children”, valuing education, exams, and degrees has greatly influenced the thinking of Vietnamese people. Many people just look at scores, specialized schools, and selective classes to judge whether their children are good or not. Children must pass this school, that selective class, and if they pass university, they must be in the top, leading school… It is true that pressure is necessary to achieve success. However, pressure must come from children’s own passion to help them overcome themselves, not because of their parents’ goals. Let children freely develop their own abilities and strengths; let them see the true value of life and strive to grow up. That is happiness.

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