Everyone wants to be happy in their life.

Whether one wants to get married or simply date and fall in love is ultimately a matter of personal freedom of choice; there's hardly a common denominator. - Photo: Q. DINH

Because of my mother, I am not married yet.

At 38, I'm still single, living with my mother. One of the reasons I'm still unmarried at this age is because of my mother. We're financially comfortable, if not well-off. But why me?

When both partners want it, they will find ways to nurture and build a happy marriage, rather than one that becomes a burden.

H. GIANG (Thu Duc City)

My first relationship after graduating from university was criticized by my mother, who said I was too young and should focus on work, as I hadn't even graduated yet and needed a husband and children. At the time, I didn't dare argue, partly because I was still largely financially dependent on my mother since I hadn't started working.

My second girlfriend was quite compatible, and after almost two years of dating, I decided to introduce her to my family. The first time we met, my mother looked at me, exchanged a few words, then excused herself to go into her room. I had a feeling something was wrong!

When he came home, my mother asked if he had run out of other guys to date, that he was so dark-skinned and looked so dirty. No matter what I said, she just said, "Find someone who looks decent enough," and then said nothing more.

The subsequent meals between mother and daughter were quite silent. Partly because I didn't know what to say next, and partly because I could see her displeasure becoming increasingly apparent.

He came to visit a few more times. When he greeted me, my mother would nod and go into her room without saying anything. After that, I dated two more people, and one of them even discussed marriage, but my mother still didn't approve. She didn't say why, only that she "didn't like the look of me." I didn't bother arguing anymore, and I've remained single ever since.

Sometimes I feel lonely, but when it comes to dating someone else, I honestly lack the confidence. Almost no one has ever pleased my mother. As time goes by, I'm getting tired of dating. Because no matter what, my mother will always find something she doesn't like, something that doesn't suit her.

DIEM THUY ( Dong Nai )

When someone wants something, they'll always find a way.

I agree that the old saying "God provides for everything" is meaningless these days, especially in the context of a stressful and competitive society. But that doesn't mean we should be so afraid to fall in love or get married.

The issue lies in each person's perspective and choices, I think. Because if someone truly desires and wants to do something, they won't make excuses; they'll always find a way to achieve it. The same applies to getting married. If they keep giving various reasons, it's simply because they don't truly want to, or aren't willing to.

Is it possible that everyone is putting love and marriage on hold just because they're focused on the pressure and afraid to face difficulties? I still think this number isn't too high. It's true that the age of marriage and having children might be older now than before, but I still believe that once you've found the right person, everyone wants a fulfilling and happy life with that person and won't use any excuses to postpone marriage.

Furthermore, if you truly love each other and want to be together, I believe you both will know how to care for each other, love each other, and find solutions to any problems you encounter. Anything else, or any excuses you might cite, is simply an avoidance tactic; you haven't truly learned how to plan your life together.

H. GIANG (Thu Duc City, Ho Chi Minh City)

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