5 things parents need to avoid if they want to raise strong and successful children

There is no one-size-fits-all formula for parenting. Every parent makes mistakes and makes mistakes, but there are some things parents should never do if they want their children to develop comprehensively and have strong, resilient inner strength.

Do not spoil your children

Parents who spoil their children make it difficult for them to develop patience, perseverance, and endurance. These qualities are essential so that when they grow up, children will not easily collapse when faced with difficulties, pressure, or unfavorable events.

American psychologist Esther Wojcicki says that children who are patient tend to have more self-confidence, the ability to "bounce back", and recover better from failure. They can also regain momentum more quickly to continue trying to do what needs to be done.

Parents should not spoil their children, but they should not treat them harshly either. Parents should set appropriate expectations for their children, teach them how to be disciplined and responsible. In this way, parents will train their children to be independent, self-controlled, and self-motivated, because children know exactly what they need to do every day, such as studying by themselves, playing by themselves, and actively helping their parents with housework...

The more parents trust their children's discipline and sense of responsibility, the more they will strive to complete personal tasks, improve themselves, and behave more maturely.

Do not punish your children when they make mistakes.

Learning to repair the damage done after a mistake in a positive manner is an important life skill. Constantly punishing your child for every mistake may seem like a strict and educational approach, but it sends the wrong signal that mistakes are something to be ashamed of.

In the journey of growing up, children will have to learn, experiment a lot and inevitably make mistakes. Parents should help their children see that mistakes are just a temporary setback, they can learn from mistakes to progress more steadily.

American psychologist Amy Morin emphasizes that parents should help their children see what they can learn from each specific mistake. This will help children build the confidence needed to progress. Parents can share their own stories, or collect stories of famous people who overcame early failures, to tell their children, to inspire them to persevere.

In fact, the most successful people have to go through failures, they learn continuously from failures, to finally achieve their goals. For children to be able to succeed in adult life, from a young age, they need to have the skills to focus on the things that are not good in themselves, fix and improve those things, to quickly progress.

Early positive thinking when faced with mistakes and failures will help children know how to turn setbacks into learning opportunities and practice to make progress.

Parents should help their children see what they can learn from each specific mistake (Illustration: iStock).

Not negative, pessimistic

Life is full of challenges and difficulties, and it is easy to become negative and pessimistic. However, when you become a parent, always remember that your attitude towards life will directly affect your children.

American psychologist Michele Borba said that positive, optimistic children have better skills to overcome difficulties and challenges. Children inherit this personality from their parents. Parents who are always negative and pessimistic will also affect their children, making them weak, negative, and easily give up when facing difficulties.

When you or your child is faced with a challenging situation, calmly say, "Okay, we'll get through this together." Your calmness and positive, optimistic spirit will help your child gradually learn to control his or her own emotions and behavior.

Don't get upset when your child asks a lot of questions.

Sometimes parents have to ask their children to stop asking questions, but if they are not busy, parents should be patient and nurture their children's curiosity and desire to learn. Children learn faster, learn more, and remember longer when they are in a state of curiosity.

American psychologist Kumar Mehta said that the parents of the world's most successful people are often the ones who prioritize their children's learning and knowledge acquisition.

These parents often skillfully encourage and nurture their children's curiosity about the world around them. They consider answering their children's questions a serious and important task that cannot be done carelessly or superficially.

Children who are patient often have more confidence and better "bounce" ability (Illustration: iStock).

Don't overreact.

Parents can easily become overly anxious about problems their children face, such as a low test score or a fight with a friend at school. Excessive worry, even catastrophizing, never has a positive effect on raising children.

The first thing parents should pay attention to is their own psychology and behavior, because that is what their children will observe and learn from. Parents should not let themselves live in constant stress, anxiety, anger, scolding...

American psychologist Aliza Pressman said parents should practice the spirit of "nothing is too important". This way of thinking will help parents be calmer to deal with everything that happens in life.

When it comes to raising children, most of the things that happen in their daily lives are not emergencies. Parents should learn to face them calmly and slowly find solutions.

Parents who live in constant worry and stress will have a huge negative impact on their children's mental health, making them anxious, unhappy, and less active. This will cause children to lose their motivation to try, become unconfident, unhappy, and not dare to take risks at important turning points in life.

If you find yourself worrying and lacking composure, parents should often remind themselves that the situation they are facing is probably not as serious as they imagine. Therefore, you should stop for a moment to calm down and handle things slowly.

According to CNBC

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