GĐXH - Parents should avoid the following types of behavior to become parents with high EQ and easily win the hearts of teachers.
Business Insider reached out to teachers at various schools to hear about the worst types of parents they've ever dealt with. Here's what they said:
1. "Helicopter" parents
“I work with a couple of helicopter parents who are basically trying to do my job for me. They are constantly calling the school, sometimes all day long, to check in.
They sent their children to school with written notes for me about things to look out for, and how to handle some of their children's misbehavior, as if I had no training in how to teach and handle students who misbehave.
They always observe too closely in class and that leaves me and the kids no room to breathe.
My students are in high school and they are too young to need helicopter parents like that,” said Lynn, a high school teacher in New Jersey.
For teachers, parents having no limits is a challenge. Illustration photo
2. Nosy parents
There is a parent like this: Every time he picks up his child, he checks his child from head to toe, as if holding a magnifying glass to see if his child has been hit or injured. He reports his child's problems to the teacher, which is like "looking for a bone in an egg".
These parents are often too sensitive to their children's rights. Whenever their children have a small problem at school, such as falling or getting into a collision, they will demand high compensation or make excessive demands.
They lack basic trust in schools and teachers, do not understand that in educational activities there are sometimes normal risks, and put all the responsibility on teachers and schools.
This not only puts pressure on teachers but also affects their work and life. Naturally, teachers will be very upset with such parents.
3. Invisible parents
This is the type of parent whose name is on the list but never actually shows up.
This worries teachers because students with caring parents tend to do better academically.
Of course, teachers know that parents are busy, but they should at least take the time to talk on the phone or meet in person at parent-teacher conferences.
4. Parents like to cover up their children
"I had a student who was so disruptive to class that I had to remove him from class and send him to the principal's office several times a year.
But every time the boy's mother came, she accused me of treating her son differently from the other students, and assumed it was because I didn't like her son.
What I really don't like is his attitude towards studying and his rude jokes in class.
But to that mother, the boy had done nothing wrong. And I knew that meant his bad behavior would never change," said Anne, a high school teacher in New Jersey.
In the educational environment, overindulgent parents are a challenge. These parents often expect their children to be treated specially. Illustration photo
5. Parents who "like to gossip"
At the end of school hours, some parents like to ask about personal matters, such as the teacher's family situation or changes at school.
These parents love to hear rumors and are prone to believing unfounded information.
Sometimes, just because of some rumors, they blame teachers right at the school gate, causing trouble and discomfort for teachers.
Parents talking badly about teachers behind their backs is disrespectful, but spreading this in front of their children further damages the relationship between teachers and students, hurting teachers.
6. Over-intervention by parents
A typical example of an over-intervening parent is when they encounter a problem in their child's classroom, they choose to go straight to a superior instead of talking to the teacher first.
This action implicitly shows a lack of confidence in the teacher's ability to solve the problem and makes things difficult for them.
7. Parents spoil their children too much
"One of my students comes to class every day showing off something new. I swear his parents always agree to buy him anything he wants.
This has a huge impact on other students who will feel like they are not loved, when they don't get to come to school every day with a new Hermes bracelet or Chanel bag.
It deeply hurt their self-esteem. Although, to me and other teachers, it was obvious that this particular student had a self-confidence problem.
This little girl simply wanted to show off all these material things to other kids.
I think her parents need to realize that what they are doing is only causing their child to develop bad character traits: arrogance, selfishness and greed," said Francis, a high school teacher in New York.
8. Parents fight over the right to teach their children
This is a common situation for parents who share child-rearing responsibilities but disagree on everything else.
They seem to be in a race to see who can present themselves better, while at the same time putting the other down.
They never agree, and communication about what is happening in schools is almost impossible. In this race, children are always the losers.
Parents who fight for control of their children never agree with each other, and communication about what's going on at school is nearly impossible. Illustration photo
9. Irresponsible parents
"The worst parents are those who do not care about their children's learning, behavior and conduct.
Instead, they just always blame the teachers.
Parents who expect all learning to happen in the classroom and not at home are irresponsible and thoughtless.
That will have a huge impact on their children's future," said Troy Dot, a high school teacher.
10. Leave your child to the school
All parents want their children to do better in school, but this type of parent wants their children to get better grades and improve their reading skills without them having to do any of the work themselves.
For example, even though teachers have explained that if parents want their children to read better, they need to read with them at night, parents end up looking for quicker fixes or other solutions that don't require them to do much.
11. Indifferent parents
"It really annoys me when I see parents who are completely indifferent or just don't want to talk to their children.
As a mother, I know raising children is difficult, however, it all depends on you.
Seeing parents not caring about the children they send to school really breaks my heart.
I feel so sad for kids who go to school with moms and dads who never ask them about their grades, their classes, or how their day was.
This is so unfair,” said Isabella, a high school teacher.
12. Parents like to make a big deal out of it.
This type of parent is characterized by exaggerating every small problem in their child's school into a major problem.
They keep repeating the issue until they achieve their goal. They may use tears, screaming... to make it very dramatic.
It won't stop until the school board gets involved and other parents speak up about the injustice.
There is a type of parent who exaggerates every small problem at their child's school into a serious one. Illustration photo
13. Fake Parents
"In my opinion, one of the worst types of parents is the one who behaves differently with their children outside than at home.
I can sympathize that they do this to make their teachers think that they are always nice and feel okay with their children.
But it backfires by turning their child into someone who seems like a complete stranger to them on the outside," said Kate L, an elementary school teacher.
14. Authoritative Parents
This type of parent brings a corporate management style to the classroom, and they want to make sure that the position of their children's educators is at the bottom.
They do not consider teachers as partners but as subordinates. In their hearts, they think "I pay, I have the right" and teachers are no different from servants to their children.
15. Parents just talk
“Teachers spend a lot of time planning parent-teacher conferences to discuss what both parties, as well as the student, need to do to improve their child's academic performance and behavior.
However, there are parents who always agree with you but then do nothing.
The meetings kept going on and on, which made me feel frustrated because they were more concerned with appearing to agree with my ideas than doing what they were asked to do,” says Kate L.
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